My heart felt like someone had ripped it out of my chest.

I’ve got a spring in my step today.

We have another Maximum Growth Transformation Day. This day is so inspiring.

Why?

Let me share with you.

I was standing in my lounge room when the phone rang. It is Friday, 8:50am, on the 6th of February, 2009. I anticipated it would be Eddie, my boyfriend, who was on his way to pick me up.

Disappointment hit. It wasn’t Eddie, it was his brother’s wife Kerrie.

“Tanya. Are you sitting down?” I felt a chill run down my spine.

You know what they are about to say. You know the next sentence.

My heart felt like someone had ripped it out of my chest. I could hardly breathe. Grief does crazy things to you. It felt like my mind went mushy. I couldn’t think, I couldn’t feel. I fell into a dark hole.

It was one of my darkest times, a time with absolutely no hope. I didn’t see the point of life if the man I loved was gone.

Eddie and I would go on lots of adventures together, exploring parts of Australia and the world. That fateful morning, we had our hearts set on eating organic donuts in Byron Bay. They sound so healthy, you can eat lots of them, right?! 😉

Over the coming weeks, I was surrounded by my amazing family who, before then, had been separated, both physically and emotionally. My younger sister and I became close and she asked me to come to Sydney for the weekend.

As I was preparing to leave for my flight, I connected with her flat mate, Nancy.

I told her my story.

She looked me dead in the eye and said “ Tanya come to the Breakthrough Experience in Sydney in a few weeks. I know it can help.”

You know when someone makes a statement with so much certainty, you have to go.

I found myself two weeks later in Sydney attending The Breakthrough Experience, presented by Dr. John Demartini.

On the Sunday, John asked the group if anyone in the room had experienced death recently?

I was sitting at the side of the room, and I am handed the microphone.

I have tears rolling down my face , my hand shakes as I hold the microphone, I try to get my words out. “Three months ago my boyfriend was killed suddenly.”

The room votes, and I am chosen to go up on stage with Dr Demartini to do a process in front of the audience.

He asks me 4 questions, nothing more, nothing less. Just four questions.

And in 1.20mins I no longer felt grief, sadness or loss for Eddie. All I felt was an immense amount of love, appreciation and a deep sense of gratitude for him.

If it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t be walking this path I am today, I would still be a recluse, hiding away, not wanting to be in the world.

In 1.20 minutes, my world changed. I felt lighter, my head was clear. From all I knew about grief counselling as a counsellor, it was going to be a two to five year dark road ahead.

And this man showed me a different way.

I knew from that moment onwards I had found my purpose. If I was going to master something, anything, it would be this methodology.

If I dedicated my life to this, I could truly transform myself and the world, I could set people feel of limitations, beliefs and challenges which holds them back from shining their light onto the world.

So I know, from the bottom of my heart, that Eddie’s death wasn’t in vain. His death gave me my purpose, but most of all, his death gave me my life.

For that I am truly grateful.

This is why I do what I do.

Tell me, why do you do what you do?

I would love to hear your story.

Just in case you want to join the Maximum Growth Transformation Day, check out the link here for more details.

If you know someone who could benefit from coming to class to level up in mindset or business, then share this email with them or this link to learn more about group coaching.

With hugs and heart.

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

Imagine running your own business like playing the piano. You have to master many different keys at the same time. 

However, you can’t hit all the keys at once, it would sound horrendous.

But if you want to master your business, these three skills will help you play a beautiful tune.

1. Challenge Yourself To Take Risks
   To level up in your business, you must continue to challenge yourself.Challenges keep you thinking, strategising and growing.With challenge, comes risk. We tend to be risk-averse but as a business owner making decisions about which risks to take and what to avoid is a skill.

   Successful entrepreneurs take risks. You have to in order to grow.

   Every risk comes with a downside and opportunities. You take a risk when you believe the benefits far outweigh the potential downsides.

   Learn how to identify which risks are worth taking, which ones you want to avoid to become a more masterful business owner.

2. Learn To Public Speak 

   When you think of the most important skills for a business owner, public speaking probably isn’t the first thing you think of, but it is vital.It’s not a skill immediately necessary for someone starting a business. However, as you master this skill, you have the ability to share your message with more people, which can directly impact the growth of your business.Public speaking skills can help you not only speak in public, but speak in Facebook communities, to potential clients and even to your team.

   The reason this skill is most avoided is because it is intimidating. We want to avoid being judged or feeling humiliated. In our Maximum Growth Business Class, we worked on the fear of public speaking this past week.

   Public speaking is also a learned skill. I did my time at Toastmasters International®, an organization dedicated solely to helping members improve their skills through workshops and mock presentations called Table Topics® sessions each week at local clubs worldwide. Or check out this article from the Science of People for speaking skills to master.

   In our Business Membership, our class was focused on “Getting a paid speaking gig.” The group included a new coach, an author, an actor, a singer. All who were able to remove the growth ceiling to go to the next level.

   If you’re keen to jump into class before our doors close in October and won’t reopen until April, then check out the

   Business Membership here and we will no longer offer monthly billing. Get in quick.

3. Finances 

   One of the most important skills for any business owner is accounting.It is the most important and sometimes the least looked at part of the business.As a business owner, you want to understand the profit and loss statements and taxes so you can make informed decisions about where to spend money.

   No point spending all your money and having scrapes left to pay yourself wage.

   You don’t have to know the accounts at an accountant level, that is why you hire accountants. You have to know enough to make informed decisions.

At the end of the day, you want to know you are singing your own tune in business.

Focus on what you do best, and grow these three skills and you’ll increase your income and impact on your business. 

Until the next perfect time,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

P.S. We have our Maximum Growth Transformation Day which is a day to apply the Demartini Method with other like-minded individuals to have your heart opened. Check out the link here for more details.

P.S.S. If you know someone who could benefit from coming to class to level up in mindset or business, then share this email with them or this link to learn more about group coaching.

The universe is your mind.

It’s your YOUniverse.

Thales believed that “the universe is alive and full of spirits.”

That makes me a little goosebumpy.

Aristotle said “some say a soul is mingled in the whole universe”, which is perhaps why Thales thought that everything is full of spirits.

Everything is energy.

When you go out into the YOUniverse with a question, a focus, you can’t help but get messages back.

This is because your frequency and focus attract your attention and the answer you seek.

In our life we experience ourselves, our thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of consciousness.

This delusion is a kind of prison, restricting you to what is possible.

Your task is to free yourself from this prison by widening your perspective to embrace nature, people and the universe as you.

When you do, you allow more of the YOUniverse to speak to you.

It isn’t about thinking. As Alber Einstien said, “I think 99 times and find nothing. I stop thinking, swim in silence, and the truth comes to me.”

It is in space, you find the answer. It is the emptying of the mind that the solution arises.

The Power Walkshop allows this space and time for you to be in the YOUniverse and know your purpose. 

Register here if you are interested in attending the Sydney June 1 – 5 2023 Power Walkshop.

Or register your interest here in a future Camino Power Walkshop in Spain.

In the meantime, check this video on our last Power Walkshop. 

Until the next perfect time,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

P.S. If you know someone who could benefit from coming to class to level up in mindset or business, then share this email with them or this link to learn more about group coaching.

One day, I was sitting at my desk contemplating a new program I wanted to run. Looking out of my window, I was allowing space and time in my mind to ponder.

It is sometimes tricky when you have a lot of responsibilities, people asking things from you to have thinking space.

This moment was one of those rare times I could just be. Be open to what might drop in.

All of a sudden, there was a rush of energy that flew through me.

I felt compelled to write.

It was as if the program was unveiled to me, and my hands started typing, mapping out the program in ever finer detail.

As I stepped back and re-read what I had written, I knew that this was a unique opportunity for people to uncover their life’s purpose.

And that is how the program for the Power Walkshop was written.

I know that if I hadn’t created the space for my creative ideas, I wouldn’t have allowed any new ideas to come through.

Do you feel the same way? A little too jam packed and not enough thinking space?

Time off is just as important as time on.

It allows you to reconnect with yourself, re-charge your energy levels, it reinvigorates the possibility of what is ahead.

I know for me when I spend too long running on the treadmill, doing business, building my career, taking care of the people closest to me, that I end up forgetting about myself and why I was doing all this work (do you feel me?)

And that cost me ALOT to bring myself back into the centre and become clear about what I truly wanted.

You want to give yourself permission to take time off. To disconnect from the world, from all the noise and distractions and hear your own voice.

Because making money without a true purpose is meaningless.

AND money can be made in the future when you are re-energised and ready to give to the world in a way that is aligned with what is most important.

So if you were to take a moment right now, just 10 seconds, and ask yourself what is your purpose in life?

Do you know what it is? And more importantly, does it light you up in a way that you can’t wait to work on it every day?

If not, I would encourage you to consider the Power Walkshop as it is a way to get out of your head, get into your body and heart, to feel the power and connection to the world around you.

And to have your purpose revealed to you.

Yes. It is revealed to you.

No more scratching your head and trying to figure out this cosmic mystery. It will be in your face obvious that you will know it in every cell of your being.

I hope to see you on this soulful journey.

With love and light,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

Let’s talk business.

I had a client this week focused on what their niche was in business and struggled to make a decision.

So let’s deep dive down the rabbit hole of specialising.

Specialising makes you unique and essentially stand out like a familiar face among a crowd of strangers in the marketplace.

There are so many options, how do you make such a big decision?

Choosing a niche might be similar to having a favourite meal out. There are so many options, breakfast, lunch, dinner, a snack or even dessert. But we all know which category our favourite meal falls under.

And choosing might boil down to a few options. But in the end, if it was our last meal on earth, we know which one we would choose (apple crumble for me!).

If only it would be that simple?

As you grow and change, so will your niche. Because you’re growing with knowledge and wisdom to share, you’re refining what you know and getting clearer on your specialty.

You’re also evolving as an individual too. So what you are interested in, who you love to serve, what you are challenged by will change too.

It’s not the choice you make that is important.

It’s making a choice that is important.

We forget that inaction costs.

So what prevents you from really knowing what your specialty is?

If we dig deeper, which is what we love doing at Maximum Growth Classes, there are a few problems under the problem.

1. Imposter syndrome is real.

   One client described the decision to niche that no matter what decision they make, they perceived to be an imposter. Their voice shakes as they speak. Their head spins with thoughts of who they think they should be.

   It is common for people at the beginning of any business journey or speciality to not know enough. And that imposter syndrome is an opportunity for you to reconcile the need to know more and love not knowing everything.

2. My decision will be judged.

   When working with one client in the Business Membership, they shared that they were compared to a simbling. There was a lot of competition that was created between the two of them.

   So when someone brings up something perceived negative about them, it hits me hard. They described it as like a punch in the chest. So they are avoiding making a decision to avoid being judged.

3. What if I make the “wrong” choice?

   This is a big one. The decision seems final. Who are you going to serve forever and ever and ever. Amen.

   But let me say again

   It’s not the choice you make that is important.

   It’s making a choice that is important.

   We forget that inaction costs. 

   There is no wrong or right, just a decision you feel certain about.

   Follow your intuition, and allow that to be your guide, not your head, not your market, or your social media posts.

   ​​​​​​​Your intuition can only be heard when you are being yourself, and in moments of quiet.

So what do you do then to define your speciality?

First, like Bridget shared in our Business class this week who shared a quote from Tony Robbin’s, “Find yourself in the service of others”

Just love serving. See that as your broader specialty.

And allow the niche to reveal itself as you serve.

And once you know your niche, and you have some traction in your business, come and join Maximum Growth Business Membership. It is all the mindset tools you need to accelerate your growth personally and professionally.

In service of you,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

Yes you, stop being a people pleaser.

We all have had moments in our lives when we want to be liked by others.

It makes us feel all the good feelings (thanks brain), plus we feel connected to people and can create a sense of importance.

But is it really worth it?

I think the answer is a clear no.

In fact, I believe that it’s actually detrimental to our well-being to try too hard to please others.

Studies have shown that people who are constantly trying to please others tend to be unhappy and stressed out.

They also have a harder time saying no, which can lead to them being taken advantage of.

How do you know you are a people pleaser?

Here are the tell-tale signs:

• Low self worth. People pleasers draw their self-worth from the approval of others.
• You need (yes need) others to like you.
• You agree, even if you don’t agree.
• You describe yourself as a giver (or have extremely high empathy).

Now, let’s look at this action of pleasing with a new lens.

If we dig to find the problem under the problem, you might find that people-pleasing is difficult in conflict management and being able to say “no” among other reasons.

Saying “no” or turning down a request for help might make them think less of you and that is a challenge. Therefore, agreeing to do what they want might seem like an easier option, even if you don’t want to.

This pattern can cause problems because people’s needs come before your needs. And the boundaries are blurred.

Unless you become comfortable with pissing people off, then you will continue to people-please and, by default, you minimise yourself.

Instead of trying to please everyone, it’s important to find out what you want.

Ask yourself: “how does doing what I want serve others?”

That way, you have your needs met and you can see how others’ needs are met indirectly.

If you want to break the pattern of people-pleasing, recognising the behavior is the first step.

Your awareness around the ways you tend to people-please will begin on your journey of putting yourself first.

Then knowing your boundaries and taking action on them is important to uphold what is important to you.

The Demartini Method helps to fully balance out the fine line between pleasing a particular person and pleasing yourself. It gives you the equilibrium and insight to make the right decisions and to be 100% comfortable in your decision.

Maximum Growth Transformation Day is 6 hours, facilitated by me to break through the noise and get to the guts of the problem.  

Then you are free to focus on servicing your community.

And always remember, you first, then the world.

Much love,

Would you like to know the secret sauce to success?

Oh you want me to whisper it into your ear {first_name}!

If we could create a secret formula of success, bottle it, add a fancy label, we would probably get rich off it.

If only it were that simple. But the truth is, you ain’t here, reading this newsletter if that was your mojo.

You don’t mind getting a little dirty, rolling up your sleeves and getting to work.

So, as you get your butt on the growth train, and catapult yourself to higher levels of success, here are just 3 traits that will get you there faster.

1. Prioritise. Prioritise. Prioritise.

Just had to say it a few times so it sinks in.

Focusing on the most important things when you need to, and doing the work when you don’t feel like it.

Let’s face it, you know this but many don’t do it. And the reason is because it is a skill like riding a bike, planning your quarterly strategy or the art of selling.

Prioritising requires time to practice and to master.

Consider making it a daily task to practice prioritising, ask what is the most important task to do today, set an estimated time and repeat. This means throughout your day reviewing if you are doing the most important task now or not.

Priorising will keep you on track.

2. Resilience

This is where, no matter the circumstances, when you fall over, you get back up again.

Business can be tough, you get knocked around and down. You might feel some days the world is against you, or rejected because you can’t seem to pick up business.

Setbacks happen. People will say no. Heck, they may even bitch and moan about what you don’t do for them to anyone who will listen.

It’s not just resistance, but residence with a growth mindset is the secret. If you see how any challenge is helping you on your path to growth, you’re resilient with a purpose.

Resilience is key to being able to navigate through the challenges with grace.

3. Accountability

You work for yourself, so the benefit of working for yourself is no one tells you what to do.

Yet…… the downside of working for yourself is no one tells you what to do.

*Big sigh*

You have to make sure you hold yourself accountable to the goals you want, and do the action steps necessary to achieve your goals.

It can be so easy to do feel good tasks. But, these tasks are not necessarily the tasks that will achieve a result.

Do these three actions and you’ll notice a difference in your inner world which will influence your business in the best way.

#bringonsuccess

Now…. Let’s face it, our inner world is what can prevent us from being successful. That inner critic that rears its ugly head and tells us that we can’t, who I am to do that internal dialogue that stops us in our tracks.

In the ever evolving and changing landscape of success, you will have moments of doubt, uncertainty. This is part of everyone’s journey.

In my time as a coach, I have not yet met a woman who didn’t have “voices” in her head that is disruptive or critical, and this internal narrative leads to them perceiving themselves in a negative light.

The inner critic is never completely silenced. It can’t be, as it is a part of ourselves that acts as an internal homeostatic mechanism when we are prideful.

If you can never silence it, then embrace it as feedback. Next time you get distracted or disillusioned with yourself, look at what the inner critic is trying to show you? What is it trying to tell you? What is underneath the content.

Here are some examples;

“Who am I to share my content with the world?”

Deeper question: Where is the pride in what you know? And what don’t you know (to humble yourself).

“What if you make a mistake?”

Deeper question: Where do you think you have to know more? And what’s the downside of knowing more?

The little voices will subside and success can reign.

With love and wisdom,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth One on one & group coaching available
Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

It was the end of the financial year this week.

It’s an opportunity for you to do a review of your income and expenses, see where you’re at with your net worth and how you’re tracking your financial goals. #Financialfreedomplease

Ok, I know you’ll either be doing a boggie on your chair with me to celebrate your achievements this year or you’re thinking “S*#t” this year, I promise.

I’m a geek and have been tracking my finances since 2010.

It wasn’t easy, and it was very uncomfortable. I had very little income and I had some debt. I knew I had to face reality and stop avoiding a difficult conversation with myself.

Taking a deep breath.

I opened a spreadsheet and wrote what I owed. Money on my credit card, a bill to a company and to a family member.

Now, time to calculate my assets. Hmmm?! Zero. Nothing.

That part was easy.

The following year, I did the same exercise with a little lightness and spring in my step.

I’d worked on my money mindset throughout the year, I was beginning to understand how to serve and grow a business, so within 12 months I was beginning to see big changes.

Fast track to June 2022 and my tracking has become more sophisticated. I track leads, conversion rate, customer lifetime values, income, expenses and net worth.

Tracking gives a perspective on your business that is real. Sometimes you feel you’re off track, but the figures don’t lie. They tell the real story.

It’s the fastest way to look at yourself and make changes, either inwardly (like coming to Maximum Growth Business class) or outwardly, by learning about finances and financial markets.

So, it’s been a fun process for me to track my finances. I want to share some of that juicy inspiration with you too.

Here it is. Your own financial tracking spreadsheet.

You can download my financial spreadsheet and call it your own.

It’s basic. It’s unbranded. It’s yours.

Give it to me baby.

Take the time to really see where you are at financially.

I’d love to know how you go?!

And… if any uncomfortable feeling comes up around doing the work, or afterwards, come to our 6 hour Maximum Growth Transformation Day.

It’s an opportunity for you to work through the Demartini method to dissolve your emotional baggage to increase your self-worth and your ability to hold onto and keep your mula.

To more riches within,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth One on one & group coaching available
Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

You’d be surprised how many people associate crying with weakness. And they think that if they completely dissolve a dynamic to where the only words left in their heart are, “Thank you, I love you” then they’ll cry and they’ll be perceived as weak.

(Usually that’s a belief learned early on in childhood – between 3-7 years old.)

If that’s you, I have a message just for you:

You can have a genuine, inspiring breakthrough without tears.

Because let’s remember the 6 signs of a true breakthrough: Certainty and presence in the mind, gratitude and love of the heart, enthusiasm and inspiration in the body.

Everything else is an illusion.

The key is how you feel.

Now, you might be different. Maybe you’re not charged about crying.

Maybe you get too ‘in your head’ because you’re familiar with the current level of challenge. And even though you want to change, there’s a level of comfort in familiarity.

Your charge becomes like a comfortable PJ’s you love getting into, and you aren’t ready nor wanting yet to dissolve it (better the devil you know kind of thinking).

So perhaps your fear of graduating to a new – and more importantly, unknown – challenge is greater than your fear of staying ‘stuck in the rut of the same cycle of thinking’. ​​​​​​​Or maybe (last example, promise) the last time you became too emotional, your world fell apart or you perceived you received too much criticism. So you subconsciously think, “I won’t go there again”.

Do you get where I’m going with this? Like the great oracle of Delphi said, “know thyself.”

Are you afraid of anything that might happen by breaking through?

If yes, work through that first (ie remove the roadblocks in the way of clearing your issue) and come back to your initial issue.

If not, let’s move to:

WHEN IT’S TIME TO DIG AROUND IN THAT BEAUTIFUL MIND OF YOURS

Much shorter for this one. You overthink things because your mind comes up with all sorts of reasons or imagined outcomes why you shouldn’t get to a state of gratitude and love.

e.g. somewhere in your mind, you’ve associated loving your soon-to-be-ex (with whom you’ve had a rough relationship) with the outcome that you’ll fall back into a relationship with them after breaking through. i.e. you still have a charge somewhere that the ‘old’ dynamic is more bad than good, more pain than pleasure or more challenge than support.

So, that imagined outcome of a renewed relationship is an illusion.

Because remember – you still have a choice after you’ve dissolved your charge. The difference is that you choose your actions from a balanced, grateful place. Not a lopsided one that will send you straight back into a similar dynamic (so you have another chance to love it.)

Just knowing that whatever you think MIGHT happen is no indication of what WILL happen.

Funnily enough, the only way to really ‘control’ the outcome is to dissolve the emotion around the outcome.

So, let this be a quick guide for you, my overthinker. Your head can be the key to your heart if you let it. Just take a little tweak in perspective.

Remember: thinking AND feeling. It’s both, not either/or.

Oh, and Thank you. For being here, for striving to live a more meaningful life every day. I love you with all my head, all my heart and all my soul.

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth One on one & group coaching available
Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

PS – Sharing this loving kick up the derriere I read in an email today: Just because we understand how to dissolve our issues, doesn’t mean we don’t have to put in the work. How’s that for tough love? Let’s keep on.

PPS – If you’d love guidance in dissolving your stuff, weekly help with me is right here.