Relationships are some of the most fulfilling and meaningful aspects of life. They offer a shared life experience, a companion, and a sense of belonging. But despite the perceived positive benefits, relationships are not without their challenges. 

 

The struggles people face in their relationships can impact our ability to work, focus, and make effective decisions. Knowing how to navigate these challenges can help you stay on track and on purpose in life and in business.

 

All relationships are unique. There is no one right or wrong way to be in a relationship, and what works for one couple might not work for another. It’s about what works for each other and the relationship.

 

Having coached business owners in their personal and professional lives for 13 years, what I have noticed is that there are certain universal struggles that people face in their relationships, and it can be helpful to understand why they occur and how to address them.

 

In relationships, some people feel trapped or stuck. This can happen when one or both partners feel that they are not able to be themselves, grow, or express themselves fully in the relationship. 

 

The more’ stuck’ or ‘trapped’ one feels, the more they believe leaving will ‘free’ them. But if we live by universal laws, you can never have one without the other. You’re free inside a relationship but trapped outside.

 

For example, a client I worked with who desperately wanted out of a relationship was free to do what they wanted, when they wanted, and became trapped financially as they only had one income to support their three children.

 

Every relationship has to manage conflicts and disagreements. When two people come together, they bring with them their own set of values, beliefs, and habits, and it is inevitable that they will clash from time to time. 

 

We live in a culture where arguing is seen as negative and agreeing is seen as positive. Arguing is neither right nor wrong; it is a clash in communication and an opportunity to seek common ground and work together to find a solution that works for both of you.

 

Fear is another common struggle in relationships. Whether it’s fear of losing your partner, fear of being vulnerable, or fear of being rejected, fear can have a major impact on your relationship. 

 

Make fear your friend, and face it head-on. Talk to your partner about your fears and work together to find ways to address them. In our Maximum Growth Business Class, we apply a series of questions to clear the fear each quarter, so there is less in the way of having the life you love.

 

So, it’s the month of love, and regardless of your relationship status, I wish you oodles of love flying your way.

 

Tanya “with bundles of love” Cross

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

 

P.S. Our doors open soon to join Maximum Growth. Know someone who’d like to join? We’d love an introduction to see how we can help them. 

 

 

 

 

This week in Australia, a new airline, Bonza, launched. 

 

It offers low-cost flights to some hidden regional and major capital cities. 

 

As part of Bonza’s phased rollout of flight releases, you’re able to book flights to 12 destinations on 15 routes.

 

Shouldn’t we all jump up and down with excitement?

 

Ah… Sit back down.

 

No. The flights go to random places like Coffs Harbour on the Sunshine Coast or Newcastle on the Whitsundays.

 

It is like saying you want to fly from Brighton to Oxford in the UK or Bloemfontein to Polokwane in South Africa. 

 

Every new business requires a business plan and then takes action to execute it. 

 

You can’t jump into your business if you have a vague idea of what you want, how you will market, get bums on seats or clients in sessions. 

 

I’m going to make a big assumption that Bonza has a plan in place. Especially since in 2020 the travel industry came to a screaming halt. The launch of a new business like Bonza could mean a sign of recovery. It costs a bomb to start a new airline, you don’t want it to come crashing down (oh God! Not the plane or the business!). 

 

The upside is, they are a company, and share the responsibilities around them. 

 

Being a solopreneur, you have to be the decision maker, the executioner, the CEO, CFO, CMO, COO, everything within the business. Maybe at some point in your business, you move from doing everything on your own to having help.

 

In the meantime, it can be challenging for several reasons:

 

• Financial instability: You’re responsible for all expenses and income. This means they have to bear the financial burden of running the business without the safety net of a larger organization.
• Lack of resources: You often have limited resources, such as time, money, and personnel. This can make it challenging to handle all aspects of the business and can lead to burnout.
• Isolation: Without a team or co-workers, you can experience feelings of isolation and loneliness. This can also impact their ability to bounce ideas off others and receive support.
• Responsibility: There is no one else to rely on. Everything from sales and marketing to finances and operations falls on the solopreneur’s shoulders.
• Difficulty in scaling: You may struggle with growing their business, as they often lack the resources and manpower needed to expand.

 

Starting, growing or thriving in business in any industry is no small feat. It takes courage, determination, and a clear understanding of yourself, your business and the market.  

 

Not everyone aspires to have a big business like Bonza, but you might have an unknown and unexplored destination in business you’d like to travel to and unsure how to get there. 

 

At Maximum Growth, in our Business Classes, we work every week of the year on your mindset around business. It takes what you imagine, and shifts your internal world to match your vision and goals. 

 

It’s a very inspiring 1 hour class, every week.

 

Come join us and make 2023 when all your business goals come to reality, see you in class. 

 

Let’s reach for the stars together,

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

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“If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything.” This rings in my ear this week.

It is important to know your values and have a set of principles that guide your actions and decisions. When you don’t have a clear sense of what you believe in, it is easy to be swayed by others or to fall into what others want for you. You end up living someone else’s life. 

One of the most important things in life is to have a sense of purpose. This purpose can come in many forms – it can be a yearly goal you’re working on, focusing on your health, building a business, or a lifetime goal you’d love to achieve.

Whatever it is, it gives you a sense of direction and helps you navigate through the ups and downs of life. When you have a clear sense of purpose, it becomes easier to make decisions, set priorities, and stay focused on what is truly important to you.

Let’s face it, it’s not easy to define what you stand for. We have to sort through the other voices, what we think we want to get clear on what we truly want for ourselves. 

This process can be difficult and uncomfortable, but it is necessary to truly understand yourself and what you want to stand for.

Once you have a clear sense of what you stand for, then it is being oh so brave to act in alignment with what you decide. This means being true to yourself even when it may be difficult or uncomfortable, and even challenging someone else.  

It also means being willing to take a stand for what you believe in, regardless of who will stand against you. 

Standing for something means being willing to question the status quo and to challenge the status quo. This can be difficult as it can create conflict with those who may disagree with you. 

For me, it is the essence behind Maximum Growth. What we stand for is:

Maintaining equanimity with others and equality within self

Seeing the hidden balance and potential in our experiences

Share meaningful things with the world

Find fulfillment in what we have while striving for more

We also believe firmly that no great thing is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig, I answer that there must be time. Let it first blossom, then bear fruit, then ripen. #Epicitius 

Results take time. I stand firm in that there is no easy or quick fix, but consistency is key. That is why we have weekly classes for you to join every week to go deep with your mindset work, find the problem under the problem and deeply transform your business, leadership and life. 

I know the work is deeply healing and life-changing. 

So I’m curious, what do you stand for {first_name}? What are you willing to stand for and go against the crowd because it is something you believe in?

Remember, when you stand for something, you are less likely to fall for anything. 

With love from my heart to yours,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

One day, I was sitting at my desk contemplating a new program I wanted to run. Looking out of my window, I was allowing space and time in…

Purpose is one of those tricky and sticky things that people struggle with for most of their life. 

Let’s take a step back in time with purpose and have a review of this topic according to the Stoics, Plato, and Aristotle.

The Stoics believed that the ultimate goal of life was to live in accordance with nature and reason. They believed that by understanding the natural order of things and aligning our actions with it, we could achieve fulfillment. The Stoics emphasized the importance of living in the present moment and appreciating whatever happens as part of the natural order.

Plato, on the other hand, believed that the ultimate goal of life was to achieve knowledge of the Forms*, or the eternal and unchanging truths that underlie the physical world. He believed that by gaining knowledge of the Forms, we could transcend the world of appearances and arrive at a higher understanding of reality.

(*Plato’s Forms are eternal and unchanging entities that exist independently of the physical world. Plato believed that the forms were the only true reality and that the physical world was a mere shadow or copy of the forms.)

Aristotle believed that the ultimate goal of life was to achieve eudaimonia, or human flourishing. He believed that this could be achieved by living a virtuous life, in which one develops and exercises virtues such as courage, wisdom, and justice. Aristotle also believed that finding one’s purpose in life was closely tied to one’s unique talents and abilities, and that each person had a distinct role to play in society (amen to that Aristotle).

The Stoics, Plato, and Aristotle all had different views on what the ultimate goal of life was, but they all believed that finding one’s purpose was essential for achieving a fulfilling life. The Stoics emphasized living in accordance with nature and reason, Plato believed in gaining knowledge of the Forms, and Aristotle believed in living a virtuous life and exercising one’s talents and abilities. Reflect on what you believe and align your actions accordingly.

If you are a curious creature and want to know how to discover your purpose, here are three steps.

1. Reflect on your values and what makes you feel alive:
   The first step to finding your ultimate goal in life is to reflect on what you truly value and what passions drive you. Take some time to think about what matters most to you, whether it’s family, career, community service, or personal growth. Write down your values and what makes you feel alive and consider how they align with your current life and goals.
2. Assess your skills and abilities:
   The second step is to assess your skills and abilities. Consider what you are naturally good at and what you enjoy doing. Think about your past experiences and successes, and how they can contribute to your future goals. Identify areas where you need to develop your skills and abilities to achieve your ultimate goal.
3. Set specific, measurable and attainable goals:
   The final step is to set specific, measurable, and attainable goals that align with your values, passions, and skills. Break down your ultimate goal into smaller, more manageable steps. Set deadlines for each step and make a plan to achieve them. Remember to be flexible and adjust your goals as needed.

Your ultimate goal is something that drives you, and makes you inspired to achieve it. Finding your ultimate goal in life requires self-reflection, assessing your skills and abilities, and setting specific, measurable and attainable goals. And this takes time, but it is worth it. 

If you have ever wanted to know what your purpose is, and want to invest some dedicated time to discovering, uncovering or rediscovering your purpose, come to Maximum Growth Business Class. We are about to start 6 weeks of inspired work around purpose that will spark something within you. 

Here’s to living up to the light that is within you, 

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified DeMartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

We would all like boundless energy, right?

But you just can’t ignore these enormous shifts in your energy level. 

Where exactly did all that energy come from? There was no sudden change in your eating or sleeping habits. You didn’t rest for longer periods of time to build up your energy?

Yet when you get an inspiring idea for business or you think of a new piece of content you want to write, you’re not tired at all. The energy, the enthusiasm just won’t stop overwhelming you. People see you and they remark on how you look like a bundle of light. Where did all this energy come from?

What you’ll see if you watch carefully is that you have a phenomenal amount of energy inside of you that doesn’t come from food. It doesn’t come from sleep. It doesn’t come from anything external. 

This energy is available to you at any moment. You can draw upon it. It just wells up and fills you from the inside. When you’re filled with this energy, you feel like you could take on the world.

When it is flowing strongly, you can feel it coursing through you in waves. It gushes up spontaneously from deep inside, restores, replenishes and recharges you. We all want a little more of that for 2023, don’t we?

(I can’t imagine you saying no thank you, I want more of laying in bed watching Netflix and being tired please!)

The only reason you don’t feel this energy is that you block it. You block it by closing your heart and closing your mind. This closes you off from all the energy. When you close your heart, you close your mind, you hide in the darkness within you. There is no light, there is no energy, there is nothing flowing, and energy is still there but it can’t get in.

How many times have you experienced this dynamic in your life?

At MG, we live by the quote, you are not bound to win, you are bound to be true. You are not bound to succeed, you are bound to live up to the light that is within you. 

All the energy gives you light within. 

You have this beautiful energy inside you when you are open, you don’t feel it when you are closed.

This flow of energy comes from the depth of your being. It’s been called by many names in ancient Chinese medicine. It’s called Chi in yoga; it’s called Shakti in the West. It’s called Spirit in Christianity. Call it whatever you want. All the great spiritual traditions talk about this spiritual energy just given different names.

That spiritual energy is what you’re experiencing when love rushes into your heart. That’s when you’re experiencing it, you’re exhausted by something, and all this high energy comes up inside you.

The only thing you must know is that opening allows energy in and closing blocks it out.

Now you must decide whether or not you want this energy. How much enthusiasm do you want to have to do the things you do?

If enjoying a full life means experiencing energy, enthusiasm, and love, then don’t ever close.

There are very simple methods for staying open. Come and apply the DeMartini Method to resolve your emotional charges. 

The more you learn to stay open, the more energy can flow into you.

Now, you have to ask, are you stopping your flow?

 

With flowing love from my heart to yours. 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified DeMartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Today is a day to be present with all the gifts and gratitude available to you.

Here is a few from the team at MG to you,

• The fresh start you’re given every second of the day
• The gifts from nature
• The freedom to choose
• Opportunities for growth
• The challenges that allow you to grow
• The ever-present opportunities to make wise decisions
• The gift of language and being able to communicate
• The ability to learn from the past and step into the future with the new learnings
• The “haters” who helped you build resilience by saying, “No, you can’t!”
• The random smile that got you through your last impossible day
• The inspiration that sweeps you out of your comfort zone
• The people who’ve dedicated their lives to inspiring others
• The pain that reminds you of the need to change
• Each failure that led to your achievements, and everyone who encouraged you to keep going
• The impossible, for inspiring us to expand our limits
• The ability to change your whole life with one single thought
• The option to be grateful no matter where you are or what you’re experiencing
• The gift of being alive

Have a beautiful day, and inspiring finish to 2022. 

Much love,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified DeMartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Dreams really do come true.

 

Of course, if you tell yourself they don’t, they won’t. 

 

So I’m kind of a Grinch. 

 

The whole consumer thing just feels so pointless to me. 

 

I don’t need presents. Unless they come in the form of life-changing education… or a plane ticket. 

 

And even then, I love to invest in those myself. 

 

Yes, I’m aware there’s a deep cosmogonic, mythical meaning to the holidays (no matter what religion, race or belief you are.) 

 

But honouring that doesn’t take decorations, a honey-glazed ham or glossy red ribbons. 

 

Or does it? Where do you fall on the spectrum? Would you feel some of the ‘magic’ disappear without the festive trimmings? Or is it enough to have the people you love around you and be grateful for the time you get with them?

 

It’s so hard to sell this idea of getting rich slowly. 

 

Especially when you’re competing with money-grab products that promise to “10x your income in 10 minutes a day.” (fibbers)

What does work for making dreams come true?

 

Here are the top three tips:

1. Be specific, so you get exactly what you want, and not the universe playing funny jokes on you. 
2. Consistency is key. No matter what it is, do the small steps that help make the big leaps.
3. Revisit your dreams often. You can set and forget, but I find revisiting gives the dreams more energy and life. 
4. And lastly, give yourself permission to dream. I have seen clients manifest multi million dollar deals, the relationship they pictured in their mind to exactly how their partner looks and behaves (talk about manifesting!), the ability to travel and earn at the same time. 

 

So, what is in your wildest dreams? And how can I help you to manifest them?

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

P.S. – had a shower of power (which is totally a thing that I have been raving on about for years) the other day and the gem “Consistency is Key” floated into my head. Powerful little message. Steal it and pop it on your wall if you want. Worth affirming whenever you’re in a tight spot or facing a fork in the road.

P.P.S. If there happens to be something on your mind you’d love to work through before we walk into 2023, then come to the New Years’ Transformation classes.

 

 

In this week’s class, death was a consistent topic that showed up. 

 

I couldn’t help but wonder, knowing there is a facilitator – client dynamic at play, how I feel about my own death. 

 

In the past, this is something I thought about too much. This time, I thought about it differently through the lens of what I want post-death, in decades to centuries’ time.

 

Death is challenging for some to dare to question this. We can be seen as weird, even people like Spinoza was excommunicated from questioning this very topic. 

 

Why do we fear death?   

 

It is a question I don’t believe people will not stop asking, unless we unlock immortality, which will be unlikely. 

 

The ancient Epicureans believed fearing death was a mistake, that you should fear only those things that can harm you, and if you are dead then nothing can harm you. 

 

When you are dead, you’re dead. 

 

What stood out in the class we had this week was the members talked about living a shell of a life. And how he feared not living, more than dying. 

 

I remember a client who was terminal said to be when we met for a juice in Chaple St in Melbourne.

 

“Tanya, this is my life, I only have so many days left. I want to spend it with people I choose. I want to do the things I want to do, like go to Hawaii and hike a mountain. It’s my life. And I do not want to spend it with people that only want to see me so they feel better about themselves.”

 

Her voice still echoes in my mind as if she was sitting in front of me.  

 

We only have a finite number of conversations and connections left in our life. 

 

For me, I want to invest my life in creating heart-opening goosebumps moments that then ripple through time. Maximum Growth Classes allow me to do this.

 

When people in a centuries’ time watch a Hot Seat or a clip from class, my intention is they will feel the transcendent moment and it heals their minds and hearts in that moment. #eternaltransformations

 

How about you ? Do you fear death? Fear not living? Or are you living a life worth living?

 

With love and deep transformations, 

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

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