Can I share something meaningful with you?

My heart felt like someone had ripped it out of my chest.

I’ve got a spring in my step today.

We have another Maximum Growth Transformation Day. This day is so inspiring.


Let me share with you.

I was standing in my lounge room when the phone rang. It is Friday, 8:50am, on the 6th of February, 2009. I anticipated it would be Eddie, my boyfriend, who was on his way to pick me up.

Disappointment hit. It wasn’t Eddie, it was his brother’s wife Kerrie.

“Tanya. Are you sitting down?” I felt a chill run down my spine.

You know what they are about to say. You know the next sentence.

My heart felt like someone had ripped it out of my chest. I could hardly breathe. Grief does crazy things to you. It felt like my mind went mushy. I couldn’t think, I couldn’t feel. I fell into a dark hole.

It was one of my darkest times, a time with absolutely no hope. I didn’t see the point of life if the man I loved was gone.

Eddie and I would go on lots of adventures together, exploring parts of Australia and the world. That fateful morning, we had our hearts set on eating organic donuts in Byron Bay. They sound so healthy, you can eat lots of them, right?! 😉

Over the coming weeks, I was surrounded by my amazing family who, before then, had been separated, both physically and emotionally. My younger sister and I became close and she asked me to come to Sydney for the weekend.

As I was preparing to leave for my flight, I connected with her flat mate, Nancy.

I told her my story.

She looked me dead in the eye and said “ Tanya come to the Breakthrough Experience in Sydney in a few weeks. I know it can help.”

You know when someone makes a statement with so much certainty, you have to go.

I found myself two weeks later in Sydney attending The Breakthrough Experience, presented by Dr. John Demartini.

On the Sunday, John asked the group if anyone in the room had experienced death recently?

I was sitting at the side of the room, and I am handed the microphone.

I have tears rolling down my face , my hand shakes as I hold the microphone, I try to get my words out. “Three months ago my boyfriend was killed suddenly.”

The room votes, and I am chosen to go up on stage with Dr Demartini to do a process in front of the audience.

He asks me 4 questions, nothing more, nothing less. Just four questions.

And in 1.20mins I no longer felt grief, sadness or loss for Eddie. All I felt was an immense amount of love, appreciation and a deep sense of gratitude for him.

If it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t be walking this path I am today, I would still be a recluse, hiding away, not wanting to be in the world.

In 1.20 minutes, my world changed. I felt lighter, my head was clear. From all I knew about grief counselling as a counsellor, it was going to be a two to five year dark road ahead.

And this man showed me a different way.

I knew from that moment onwards I had found my purpose. If I was going to master something, anything, it would be this methodology.

If I dedicated my life to this, I could truly transform myself and the world, I could set people feel of limitations, beliefs and challenges which holds them back from shining their light onto the world.

So I know, from the bottom of my heart, that Eddie’s death wasn’t in vain. His death gave me my purpose, but most of all, his death gave me my life.

For that I am truly grateful.

This is why I do what I do.

Tell me, why do you do what you do?

I would love to hear your story.

Just in case you want to join the Maximum Growth Transformation Day, check out the link here for more details.

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With hugs and heart.



Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
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