Firstly, this is a long post and, just in case you were wondering, this post is sponsored by caffeine and my undying appreciation for writing.

Being in the service business, we can sometimes get the balance out of whack.

Running a service-oriented business often requires a delicate balance between doing what you love and delegating responsibilities to others.

It is especially tricky when you are a new business owner and trying to strike the balance between saving money (and you doing the work) and investing in others to grow the business.

Striking this balance is essential for growth and success, as it allows business owners to focus on their strengths while leveraging the skills of others to expand their reach.

For me in 2022, the balance was waaaaaaay off. I was working 12 hours a day, plus being a mum to Bonnie, which meant working until past midnight most nights, very little time for much else.

My head was so full of a million things that needed to be done and I was stretched beyond my limits. It would have been OK for a month, but rolling into the fourth month in a row was starting to take a toll.

I dropped the ball, I made mistakes, I sent emails to the incorrect list, the timing was off in calendars. It was a hot ball of mess. (thank you for your patience too)

On one hand, I love what I do and that I sincerely care about my clients and that is the driving force behind business.

But the day that I realized that I was ‘burnt out’ and I couldn’t take another client session was the day something had to change.

I took four weeks off work (only a week extra than originally planned) and I got to work. The focus: How to strike a balance between doing what I love, building a business – oh and getting my life back again. 

As the universe provided, I had an all-expense trip for five days to Salt Lake City, so I took the opportunity to deeply reflect on my life.

If I solely relied on personal inspiration for growth and sustainability, I’m limiting myself.

My struggle was with areas of business that I didn’t love. I wasn’t paying attention either. I couldn’t keep up with the demands of running a business alone.

Delegation is critical for growth and sustainability. By empowering others to handle routine tasks and responsibilities, you  free up time and resources to focus on more strategic initiatives.

Additionally, delegations can bring new perspectives and ideas to business, helping to drive innovation and growth.

I wanted to delegate more, but I wanted to delegate in a way that meant the people who worked with me were equally invested in growing Maximum Growth as I was.

That is when an idea popped into my head. Justin Wiseman, a dedicated student at Maximum Growth, a business owner, a coach, would be a perfect fit in business. We have complimentary skills inside of business while sharing a love of coaching, universal principles and self-development. It’s the perfect business partnership.

We started a conversation and you know when you know that you just know.

It was like that. Roll on seven weeks later and Justin is now an equal partner of Maximum Growth. (check out the Facebook post if you missed it).

We are now able to leverage the strengths of each other, plus our automation queen Clavel who joined MG at the beginning of the year, so that we are able to grow Maximum Growth and lead the community in an inspiring way.

I am not recommending nor saying everyone has to get a business partner to grow. I know for my private coaching business, I don’t need someone to partner with, I can do that with the help of my executive assistant and some great processes in place.

But as Maximum Growth is a business, we have to adapt and evolve as the business grows.

This year is about doing more of what I love, filling all my buckets up, not just with work, but family, friends, fitness and striking the perfect balance between all my values being fulfilled.

How about you?

How’s the balance in your life going? Is there too much of one thing? And not enough of something else?

Curious to know, hit reply and let’s see how we can help you strike the perfect balance so you live up to the light that is within you.

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

P.S.
Justin and I are doing The Conversation together. The topic is “How To Overcome The Fear Of Failure”. It’s going to be inspiring. Make sure you join us for the two jam-packed sessions by registering here.

Depression is a mental health condition that affects millions of people worldwide. Even those who know universal principles and coach people, find themselves sliding down a slippery slope of depression and can’t seem to stop the fall. 

There is clinical depression, which is intense and persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and worthlessness that interfere with daily functioning.

But what about mild depression? It is lingering but not enough to make you stay in bed all day, but just enough to be like a black cloud hanging over you that you can’t seem to shake.

Many individuals are often unaware of the signs and symptoms of mild depression, and may even ignore them altogether. 

When we ignore it, bottle it up, and not deal with it, it can lead to a delay in seeking the help that is needed to overcome this mindset. 

Having worked with clients this week who were experiencing between mild to severe depression, I wanted to share with you the three signs that you may be experiencing depression and ignoring it.

1. 1. You’re experiencing physical symptoms.
      
      Depression can manifest itself in physical symptoms, such as fatigue, lack of energy, and changes in appetite and sleep patterns. If you’re feeling run down and exhausted, even when you’ve gotten enough rest, it could be a sign that you’re struggling with depression.
      
      Crying about small things, hiding from the world, not wanting to go out, not wanting to share your personal life. Depression can manifest itself in many different ways, and these behaviors are often seen as symptoms of the condition.
      
      Similarly, changes in appetite and sleep patterns can also be indicators of depression.
       
   2. You’re struggling with negative thoughts and emotions.
      
      Depression often comes hand in hand with negative thoughts and feelings, such as hopelessness, helplessness, and low self-esteem.
      
      If you find that you’re battling negative thoughts and emotions and can’t seem to shake them from your thinking, it could be a sign that you’re dealing with depression.
      
      It’s important to acknowledge these feelings, understand the thinking that is creating them and seek support to help transform depression into living life again.
       
   3. You’re losing interest in things that once brought you inspiration and enthusiasm.
      
      One of the hallmark signs of depression is the loss of interest in activities that once brought you inspiration. You might have been in a relationship, and it is high value, and you are no longer in the relationship.
      
      You started building a coaching practice and then, after a short period of time, you lost your drive to build it.
      
      If you find that you’re no longer interested in things that you once loved, it could be a sign that you’re struggling with depression.

Depression is a complex condition that can impact many aspects of our lives. 

I know for me personally, last year, I invested a lot of time working through my low levels of depression. It felt like being in a dark tunnel and wondering when the darkness would lift. 

There were so many changes in my life, I found myself in a place in business I didn’t want to be in anymore. I was doing too much and not delegating enough- at my expense.

It felt like never-ending changes and having to adapt and pivot, continuing to apply mindset questions even when sometimes I wanted to curl up in bed and sleep all day. 

2023 has definitely turned a corner as a result of lots of hours of working on myself, my fears and fantasies. I can’t wait to share them with you this coming week.

In the meantime, if you’re experiencing any of the signs discussed above, we have a community who sincerely cares about you, and classes that help you to overcome depression and regain your sense of spark in your life again. 

Classes are back for 2023. 

So please come and join us, or share with a friend who could benefit from this email. 

Looking forward to seeing you on the inside, 

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

P.S. Need mindset support?

Here are 3 ways to get our expert advice:

1. 1. Read the blog.
      You’ll find tips and advice on everything from how to make decisions, discovering your purpose, mastering your mindset and much more.
       
   2. Ask a question.
      Our free Students Of Wisdom Facebook group is a great place to meet other personal development lovers and get any burning questions answered or ask a question in the Ask Me Anything class here.
       
   3. Join Maximum Growth Academy.
      This is the place to be if you want to master your mindset, grow your leadership and elevate your business success. From training to support, you’ll find all you need in one place, no matter what stage of leadership and business you’re at. Learn more here.

Relationships are some of the most fulfilling and meaningful aspects of life. They offer a shared life experience, a companion, and a sense of belonging. But despite the perceived positive benefits, relationships are not without their challenges. 

The struggles people face in their relationships can impact our ability to work, focus, and make effective decisions. Knowing how to navigate these challenges can help you stay on track and on purpose in life and in business.

All relationships are unique. There is no one right or wrong way to be in a relationship, and what works for one couple might not work for another. It’s about what works for each other and the relationship.

Having coached business owners in their personal and professional lives for 13 years, what I have noticed is that there are certain universal struggles that people face in their relationships, and it can be helpful to understand why they occur and how to address them.

In relationships, some people feel trapped or stuck. This can happen when one or both partners feel that they are not able to be themselves, grow, or express themselves fully in the relationship. 

The more’ stuck’ or ‘trapped’ one feels, the more they believe leaving will ‘free’ them. But if we live by universal laws, you can never have one without the other. You’re free inside a relationship but trapped outside.

For example, a client I worked with who desperately wanted out of a relationship was free to do what they wanted, when they wanted, and became trapped financially as they only had one income to support their three children.

Every relationship has to manage conflicts and disagreements. When two people come together, they bring with them their own set of values, beliefs, and habits, and it is inevitable that they will clash from time to time. 

We live in a culture where arguing is seen as negative and agreeing is seen as positive. Arguing is neither right nor wrong; it is a clash in communication and an opportunity to seek common ground and work together to find a solution that works for both of you.

Fear is another common struggle in relationships. Whether it’s fear of losing your partner, fear of being vulnerable, or fear of being rejected, fear can have a major impact on your relationship. 

Make fear your friend, and face it head-on. Talk to your partner about your fears and work together to find ways to address them. In our Maximum Growth Business Class, we apply a series of questions to clear the fear each quarter, so there is less in the way of having the life you love.

So, it’s the month of love, and regardless of your relationship status, I wish you oodles of love flying your way.

Tanya “with bundles of love” Cross

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

P.S. Our doors open soon to join Maximum Growth. Know someone who’d like to join? We’d love an introduction to see how we can help them. 

This week in Australia, a new airline, Bonza, launched. 

It offers low-cost flights to some hidden regional and major capital cities. 

As part of Bonza’s phased rollout of flight releases, you’re able to book flights to 12 destinations on 15 routes.

Shouldn’t we all jump up and down with excitement?

Ah… Sit back down.

No. The flights go to random places like Coffs Harbour on the Sunshine Coast or Newcastle on the Whitsundays.

It is like saying you want to fly from Brighton to Oxford in the UK or Bloemfontein to Polokwane in South Africa. 

Every new business requires a business plan and then takes action to execute it. 

You can’t jump into your business if you have a vague idea of what you want, how you will market, get bums on seats or clients in sessions. 

I’m going to make a big assumption that Bonza has a plan in place. Especially since in 2020 the travel industry came to a screaming halt. The launch of a new business like Bonza could mean a sign of recovery. It costs a bomb to start a new airline, you don’t want it to come crashing down (oh God! Not the plane or the business!). 

The upside is, they are a company, and share the responsibilities around them. 

Being a solopreneur, you have to be the decision maker, the executioner, the CEO, CFO, CMO, COO, everything within the business. Maybe at some point in your business, you move from doing everything on your own to having help.

In the meantime, it can be challenging for several reasons:

• Financial instability: You’re responsible for all expenses and income. This means they have to bear the financial burden of running the business without the safety net of a larger organization.
• Lack of resources: You often have limited resources, such as time, money, and personnel. This can make it challenging to handle all aspects of the business and can lead to burnout.
• Isolation: Without a team or co-workers, you can experience feelings of isolation and loneliness. This can also impact their ability to bounce ideas off others and receive support.
• Responsibility: There is no one else to rely on. Everything from sales and marketing to finances and operations falls on the solopreneur’s shoulders.
• Difficulty in scaling: You may struggle with growing their business, as they often lack the resources and manpower needed to expand.

Starting, growing or thriving in business in any industry is no small feat. It takes courage, determination, and a clear understanding of yourself, your business and the market.  

Not everyone aspires to have a big business like Bonza, but you might have an unknown and unexplored destination in business you’d like to travel to and unsure how to get there. 

At Maximum Growth, in our Business Classes, we work every week of the year on your mindset around business. It takes what you imagine, and shifts your internal world to match your vision and goals. 

It’s a very inspiring 1 hour class, every week.

Come join us and make 2023 when all your business goals come to reality, see you in class. 

Let’s reach for the stars together,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

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“If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything.” This rings in my ear this week.

It is important to know your values and have a set of principles that guide your actions and decisions. When you don’t have a clear sense of what you believe in, it is easy to be swayed by others or to fall into what others want for you. You end up living someone else’s life. 

One of the most important things in life is to have a sense of purpose. This purpose can come in many forms – it can be a yearly goal you’re working on, focusing on your health, building a business, or a lifetime goal you’d love to achieve.

Whatever it is, it gives you a sense of direction and helps you navigate through the ups and downs of life. When you have a clear sense of purpose, it becomes easier to make decisions, set priorities, and stay focused on what is truly important to you.

Let’s face it, it’s not easy to define what you stand for. We have to sort through the other voices, what we think we want to get clear on what we truly want for ourselves. 

This process can be difficult and uncomfortable, but it is necessary to truly understand yourself and what you want to stand for.

Once you have a clear sense of what you stand for, then it is being oh so brave to act in alignment with what you decide. This means being true to yourself even when it may be difficult or uncomfortable, and even challenging someone else.  

It also means being willing to take a stand for what you believe in, regardless of who will stand against you. 

Standing for something means being willing to question the status quo and to challenge the status quo. This can be difficult as it can create conflict with those who may disagree with you. 

For me, it is the essence behind Maximum Growth. What we stand for is:

Maintaining equanimity with others and equality within self

Seeing the hidden balance and potential in our experiences

Share meaningful things with the world

Find fulfillment in what we have while striving for more

We also believe firmly that no great thing is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig, I answer that there must be time. Let it first blossom, then bear fruit, then ripen. #Epicitius 

Results take time. I stand firm in that there is no easy or quick fix, but consistency is key. That is why we have weekly classes for you to join every week to go deep with your mindset work, find the problem under the problem and deeply transform your business, leadership and life. 

I know the work is deeply healing and life-changing. 

So I’m curious, what do you stand for {first_name}? What are you willing to stand for and go against the crowd because it is something you believe in?

Remember, when you stand for something, you are less likely to fall for anything. 

With love from my heart to yours,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

One day, I was sitting at my desk contemplating a new program I wanted to run. Looking out of my window, I was allowing space and time in…

Purpose is one of those tricky and sticky things that people struggle with for most of their life. 

Let’s take a step back in time with purpose and have a review of this topic according to the Stoics, Plato, and Aristotle.

The Stoics believed that the ultimate goal of life was to live in accordance with nature and reason. They believed that by understanding the natural order of things and aligning our actions with it, we could achieve fulfillment. The Stoics emphasized the importance of living in the present moment and appreciating whatever happens as part of the natural order.

Plato, on the other hand, believed that the ultimate goal of life was to achieve knowledge of the Forms*, or the eternal and unchanging truths that underlie the physical world. He believed that by gaining knowledge of the Forms, we could transcend the world of appearances and arrive at a higher understanding of reality.

(*Plato’s Forms are eternal and unchanging entities that exist independently of the physical world. Plato believed that the forms were the only true reality and that the physical world was a mere shadow or copy of the forms.)

Aristotle believed that the ultimate goal of life was to achieve eudaimonia, or human flourishing. He believed that this could be achieved by living a virtuous life, in which one develops and exercises virtues such as courage, wisdom, and justice. Aristotle also believed that finding one’s purpose in life was closely tied to one’s unique talents and abilities, and that each person had a distinct role to play in society (amen to that Aristotle).

The Stoics, Plato, and Aristotle all had different views on what the ultimate goal of life was, but they all believed that finding one’s purpose was essential for achieving a fulfilling life. The Stoics emphasized living in accordance with nature and reason, Plato believed in gaining knowledge of the Forms, and Aristotle believed in living a virtuous life and exercising one’s talents and abilities. Reflect on what you believe and align your actions accordingly.

If you are a curious creature and want to know how to discover your purpose, here are three steps.

1. Reflect on your values and what makes you feel alive:
   The first step to finding your ultimate goal in life is to reflect on what you truly value and what passions drive you. Take some time to think about what matters most to you, whether it’s family, career, community service, or personal growth. Write down your values and what makes you feel alive and consider how they align with your current life and goals.
2. Assess your skills and abilities:
   The second step is to assess your skills and abilities. Consider what you are naturally good at and what you enjoy doing. Think about your past experiences and successes, and how they can contribute to your future goals. Identify areas where you need to develop your skills and abilities to achieve your ultimate goal.
3. Set specific, measurable and attainable goals:
   The final step is to set specific, measurable, and attainable goals that align with your values, passions, and skills. Break down your ultimate goal into smaller, more manageable steps. Set deadlines for each step and make a plan to achieve them. Remember to be flexible and adjust your goals as needed.

Your ultimate goal is something that drives you, and makes you inspired to achieve it. Finding your ultimate goal in life requires self-reflection, assessing your skills and abilities, and setting specific, measurable and attainable goals. And this takes time, but it is worth it. 

If you have ever wanted to know what your purpose is, and want to invest some dedicated time to discovering, uncovering or rediscovering your purpose, come to Maximum Growth Business Class. We are about to start 6 weeks of inspired work around purpose that will spark something within you. 

Here’s to living up to the light that is within you, 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified DeMartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

We would all like boundless energy, right?

But you just can’t ignore these enormous shifts in your energy level. 

Where exactly did all that energy come from? There was no sudden change in your eating or sleeping habits. You didn’t rest for longer periods of time to build up your energy?

Yet when you get an inspiring idea for business or you think of a new piece of content you want to write, you’re not tired at all. The energy, the enthusiasm just won’t stop overwhelming you. People see you and they remark on how you look like a bundle of light. Where did all this energy come from?

What you’ll see if you watch carefully is that you have a phenomenal amount of energy inside of you that doesn’t come from food. It doesn’t come from sleep. It doesn’t come from anything external. 

This energy is available to you at any moment. You can draw upon it. It just wells up and fills you from the inside. When you’re filled with this energy, you feel like you could take on the world.

When it is flowing strongly, you can feel it coursing through you in waves. It gushes up spontaneously from deep inside, restores, replenishes and recharges you. We all want a little more of that for 2023, don’t we?

(I can’t imagine you saying no thank you, I want more of laying in bed watching Netflix and being tired please!)

The only reason you don’t feel this energy is that you block it. You block it by closing your heart and closing your mind. This closes you off from all the energy. When you close your heart, you close your mind, you hide in the darkness within you. There is no light, there is no energy, there is nothing flowing, and energy is still there but it can’t get in.

How many times have you experienced this dynamic in your life?

At MG, we live by the quote, you are not bound to win, you are bound to be true. You are not bound to succeed, you are bound to live up to the light that is within you. 

All the energy gives you light within. 

You have this beautiful energy inside you when you are open, you don’t feel it when you are closed.

This flow of energy comes from the depth of your being. It’s been called by many names in ancient Chinese medicine. It’s called Chi in yoga; it’s called Shakti in the West. It’s called Spirit in Christianity. Call it whatever you want. All the great spiritual traditions talk about this spiritual energy just given different names.

That spiritual energy is what you’re experiencing when love rushes into your heart. That’s when you’re experiencing it, you’re exhausted by something, and all this high energy comes up inside you.

The only thing you must know is that opening allows energy in and closing blocks it out.

Now you must decide whether or not you want this energy. How much enthusiasm do you want to have to do the things you do?

If enjoying a full life means experiencing energy, enthusiasm, and love, then don’t ever close.

There are very simple methods for staying open. Come and apply the DeMartini Method to resolve your emotional charges. 

The more you learn to stay open, the more energy can flow into you.

Now, you have to ask, are you stopping your flow?

With flowing love from my heart to yours. 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified DeMartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Today is a day to be present with all the gifts and gratitude available to you.

Here is a few from the team at MG to you,

• The fresh start you’re given every second of the day
• The gifts from nature
• The freedom to choose
• Opportunities for growth
• The challenges that allow you to grow
• The ever-present opportunities to make wise decisions
• The gift of language and being able to communicate
• The ability to learn from the past and step into the future with the new learnings
• The “haters” who helped you build resilience by saying, “No, you can’t!”
• The random smile that got you through your last impossible day
• The inspiration that sweeps you out of your comfort zone
• The people who’ve dedicated their lives to inspiring others
• The pain that reminds you of the need to change
• Each failure that led to your achievements, and everyone who encouraged you to keep going
• The impossible, for inspiring us to expand our limits
• The ability to change your whole life with one single thought
• The option to be grateful no matter where you are or what you’re experiencing
• The gift of being alive

Have a beautiful day, and inspiring finish to 2022. 

Much love,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified DeMartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Dreams really do come true.

Of course, if you tell yourself they don’t, they won’t. 

So I’m kind of a Grinch. 

The whole consumer thing just feels so pointless to me. 

I don’t need presents. Unless they come in the form of life-changing education… or a plane ticket. 

And even then, I love to invest in those myself. 

Yes, I’m aware there’s a deep cosmogonic, mythical meaning to the holidays (no matter what religion, race or belief you are.) 

But honouring that doesn’t take decorations, a honey-glazed ham or glossy red ribbons. 

Or does it? Where do you fall on the spectrum? Would you feel some of the ‘magic’ disappear without the festive trimmings? Or is it enough to have the people you love around you and be grateful for the time you get with them?

It’s so hard to sell this idea of getting rich slowly. 

Especially when you’re competing with money-grab products that promise to “10x your income in 10 minutes a day.” (fibbers)

What does work for making dreams come true?

Here are the top three tips:

1. Be specific, so you get exactly what you want, and not the universe playing funny jokes on you. 
2. Consistency is key. No matter what it is, do the small steps that help make the big leaps.
3. Revisit your dreams often. You can set and forget, but I find revisiting gives the dreams more energy and life. 
4. And lastly, give yourself permission to dream. I have seen clients manifest multi million dollar deals, the relationship they pictured in their mind to exactly how their partner looks and behaves (talk about manifesting!), the ability to travel and earn at the same time. 

So, what is in your wildest dreams? And how can I help you to manifest them?

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

P.S. – had a shower of power (which is totally a thing that I have been raving on about for years) the other day and the gem “Consistency is Key” floated into my head. Powerful little message. Steal it and pop it on your wall if you want. Worth affirming whenever you’re in a tight spot or facing a fork in the road.

P.P.S. If there happens to be something on your mind you’d love to work through before we walk into 2023, then come to the New Years’ Transformation classes.

In this week’s class, death was a consistent topic that showed up. 

I couldn’t help but wonder, knowing there is a facilitator – client dynamic at play, how I feel about my own death. 

In the past, this is something I thought about too much. This time, I thought about it differently through the lens of what I want post-death, in decades to centuries’ time.

Death is challenging for some to dare to question this. We can be seen as weird, even people like Spinoza was excommunicated from questioning this very topic. 

Why do we fear death?   

It is a question I don’t believe people will not stop asking, unless we unlock immortality, which will be unlikely. 

The ancient Epicureans believed fearing death was a mistake, that you should fear only those things that can harm you, and if you are dead then nothing can harm you. 

When you are dead, you’re dead. 

What stood out in the class we had this week was the members talked about living a shell of a life. And how he feared not living, more than dying. 

I remember a client who was terminal said to be when we met for a juice in Chaple St in Melbourne.

“Tanya, this is my life, I only have so many days left. I want to spend it with people I choose. I want to do the things I want to do, like go to Hawaii and hike a mountain. It’s my life. And I do not want to spend it with people that only want to see me so they feel better about themselves.”

Her voice still echoes in my mind as if she was sitting in front of me.  

We only have a finite number of conversations and connections left in our life. 

For me, I want to invest my life in creating heart-opening goosebumps moments that then ripple through time. Maximum Growth Classes allow me to do this.

When people in a centuries’ time watch a Hot Seat or a clip from class, my intention is they will feel the transcendent moment and it heals their minds and hearts in that moment. #eternaltransformations

How about you ? Do you fear death? Fear not living? Or are you living a life worth living?

With love and deep transformations, 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work

Last week in our private Maximum Growth Facebook group, one of our members shared a revealing post about childhood sexual trauma. 

“There is so much beautiful unwrapping to do, thank you Tanya for creating this space.” 

The post and it’s attached article brought me to tears. 

Not the inspiring tears, but the deep pain tears. You know the ones?

The article described a young 6 year old who was dressed as a super hero. 

She was trying to protect herself from being sexual abused while in the care of a family friend. 

It shows my own unresolved pain, which is a beautiful gift this member gave to me. 

As a mother of a young daughter at the same age this young girl’s experience began, I reflect on their experience and my daughter’s future. 

What humbled me most was the clients I’ve worked with who have similar stories and have felt Maximum Growth or private sessions as a safe space to share and to work on their pain and perceptions. 

In class, people have revealed things about themselves they haven’t revealed to their closest friends. 

We recently even held a space for one of our members to cry. 

She went into her childhood pattern of shutting down and running away when an experience became too much. 

So everyone in the room stayed with her, and encouraged her to continue leaning into what felt uncomfortable for the healing to occur. And it did. 

It is an honour to be a part of the community when our intention is to heal and in this moment, healing was fully feeling. #heartopen

Class is a space where the practitioner-client relationship is valued. It becomes the third dynamic when working with someone. 

I believe this space is an important and influential dynamic in healing. 

It’s the external intangible force that helps with the process. 

Here’s how we do this at Maximum Growth;

1. We believe consistency is key, we will show up every week, week in and week out throughout the year for you so you can have the certainty we are there for you. 
2. We believe in not pretending things are ok, if they really aren’t. (Because then we can do something about them.)
3. We believe in maintaining the connection in the relationship to create progress by knowing that you won’t be yelled at or pushed, but instead sincerely cared for to help you with your transformation.
   

So, if there happens to be something on your mind you’d love to work through before we walk into 2023, then consider coming to the Maximum Growth New Years’ Transformation classes.

So, if there happens to be something on your mind you’d love to work through before we walk into 2023, then consider coming to the Maximum Growth New Year’s Transformation class. Check out the details here. 

See you on the inside, 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

As I was driving to meet a friend, a BMW driver in front of me tossed something out the sunroof at 70km per hour onto the road. 

“The road isn’t a rubbish bin” ran through my mind. My instant reaction was anger. 

Fast forward to the walk around the bay, my friend shared a moment where she was driving and had a lot of road rage inside her. She became irrational towards a stranger who cut her off (I hear ya sista). 

As we explored her experience, her anger was triggered waaaay before she was in the car.

Anger grows from irrational thoughts, and leads to a difficult-to-break cycle of growing frustration. You want the cycle to stop, but you don’t know how. 

Let’s understand anger. 

Cycle of anger 

1. 1. Trigger point: An unresolved button is pushed. 
   2. Negative thoughts: Irrational thoughts occur.
   3. Emotional response: negative  thoughts turn into negative emotions. 
   4. Physical symptoms:  autonomic response of increase heart rate, clenched fists and jaw.
   5. Behavioural response: your reaction based on your thoughts, feelings and physical symptoms. 

The behaviour response of fighting, yelling, and anger is a response to the anger. 

How to break this cycle

It can be hard for you to control your anger because you haven’t yet learned how to deal with the emotions you feel inside. 

Even deeper, we often focus on the outcome, the feeling of anger but not the trigger of what started you to feel this way in the first place. 

Or, let’s throw this in the mix, the repression of emotions that are not being dealt with that bubble up unconsciously inside.

Anger is a natural emotion.

Ain’t getting rid of this boiling sensation any time soon.  

Yes, anger is isolating. 

For example, teenagers who have trouble managing their anger often have fewer friends, behave in more negative ways, and receive lower grades in school. 

This is often because teens who have difficulty with anger are often unhappy and feel isolated, even if they get a lot of attention for angry behaviours.

You are not here to control your temper. Control breeds out of control.  

Yes, you want to take responsibility for your actions. You actually have the power to decide how you will behave in certain situations ahead of time if you find a way to “keep a cool head”.

But we all know in highly triggered situations, that’s impossible.

If you think about the consequences of your behaviour. Realize that how you behave affects not only you but also those you love and others around you.

However, this is allowing society to govern you. 

One helpful tip is to pay attention to how your body feels and notice when you are angry. 

Sometimes people are first aware of experiencing anger through their bodies rather than their thoughts or feelings. 

When you notice your body beginning to react, it’s time to identify what triggered the feeling before reacting.

You’ll find the problem under the problem. 

Then, of course, apply the Demartini Method on your misperceptions.

NON Members

If you want to come and clear your year of any of your triggers in 2022, come join us for the Maximum Growth New Years’ Transformation Workshop here. 

NON Members

If you want to come and clear your year of any of your triggers in 2022, come join us for the Maximum Growth New Years’ Transformation Classes here. 

With love and light,`

Leadership Coach & Master Certified DeMartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

I know Halloween was last month, but holy crap. The future can be a scary place to visit.

With so much uncertainty over the past few years, it’s been challenging to plan, as you didn’t know what the world would look like or how the new world would impact your own little real estate on this floating blue planet.

Now that the travel bans have been lifted, we have stopped wearing masks, and the streets are filled with people, we are finding some level of new normal. 

The unknown for people is scary. 

What do we do in the face of the unknown? 

Well, some of us bury our fear in a pint of Haagen Daz cookies and cream. (Which I’ve never done, of course. Everrrrrrrr. Lol.) 

But afterwards, we smash through a growth ceiling. 

In that spirit, I wrote some technical musings on dealing with uncertainty, and this email feels like the perfect time to share them with you. So please, be my guest:

—Start of Musings—

The world is uncertain, a lot of changes have happened and will continue to until the day you die (a bit morbid, but bear with me), and you don’t know what is going to happen around the corner. 

Business is shifting gears, the worldwide financial markets have dropped significantly, more than it did in the 2008 financial crisis, and the future is unknown. 

These are a few uncertainties top of mind for people today.  

This rapid change leaves many people with heightened emotional responses, even the smallest challenges send them into a tailspin.  

As Warren Buffett says “If you can’t manage your emotions, you can’t manage your money.” 

This same principle applies when you read the media and you can’t manage your emotions when you read an article or scroll through social media, you can’t manage your life or business. 

Your role is to find certainty in an uncertain world, no matter what the outer world is saying or doing. 

True self-leadership is being able to stay centered in the eye of the storm, no matter how disordered things appear to be. 

Instead of being caught up in the masses, step into being a master. 

If you want to do something different, you have to change what you are thinking first.  

How you become objective minded and shift your perceptions is by asking yourself some quality questions. 

Ask, “Where is the certainty in my future?” if you feel uncertain in your future. Find where the opposite is true in your life now. 

When you open your eyes and mind you finally appreciate the perfection right in front of you. This is self mastery. 

Not everyone will understand this level of thinking. To be great is to be misunderstood.  

What do you choose? Follow or lead? Submission or Mastery?

And not just today. Because just like in a relationship, the power of one choice made long ago can fade. This is a choice we make every day. To recommit.

—End of Musings. Task to follow—

NON MEMBERS:

Now, if you’re open to creating a divine design that transcends the outside world, and plan it out in 2023, then come and join the Maximum Growth New Years Workshop. Its an epic 24 hours of classes over 2 months to Clear Your Year and Set Your Year and not be wavered by the outside world. Click for details here.

MEMBERS :

Now, if you’re open to creating a divine design that transcends the outside world, and plan it out in 2023, then come and join the Maximum Growth New Years Workshop. Its an epic 24 hours of classes over 2 months to Clear Your Year and Set Your Year and not be wavered by the outside world. Then make sure you turn up to class in December & January (FYI – this program is included in your membership and replaces!). 

Happy belated Halloween/end of the world/glimmer of hope.

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Taking some time to sit, open your mind, and allow thoughts to wander in might be more productive than you’d expect.

People don’t realize how profitable, productive and powerful it is to sit and think.

According to research, people underestimate how much they would like to spend time alone with their thoughts with nothing to distract them.

Research suggests that individuals have difficulty appreciating how engaging thinking can be.

That could explain why people prefer keeping themselves busy with devices and other distractions, rather than taking a moment to reflect.

We live in an age where “doing” is more important than “being.”

Unfortunately, we live in a world with information and action overload. We have to move forward, doing something, even if it is a distraction. It’s easy to ‘kill time.’

When you wake up, you can check your phone rather than immerse yourself in your internal free-floating thinking.

Why?

This way of thinking will be boring, a waste of time, and will not produce anything.

Free thinking is an opportunity to engage yourself without reacting, distractions or without input from the outside world.

Our actions tend to be motivated by the fact that we find more benefits than drawbacks. And we must find more benefits in action.

So let me give you a stack of benefits to sitting, contemplating, and being.

1. Connection to your body

• • To contemplate physical actions, sensations, and feelings – what are they telling you?
  • To be conscious of your legs, arms, hands, and feet and create awareness of the vehicle you are in. And have gratitude for the miles it has carried your soul.
  • To acknowledge your breath and focus on the here and now, not focused on the past or present.

2. Connection to your feelings

• • To allow both physical and mental feelings to surface without attachment to how you should or shouldn’t be feeling.
  • To contemplate your feelings as they arise, what are they trying to reveal to you?
  • To acknowledge your feelings (it’s ok to feel by the way – you are human).

3. Connection to your mind

• • To empty the mind, and take away distractions to see what you are thinking and feeling.
  • To contemplate the thoughts that arise (we watch them, but we are not in them).
  • To allow the free flow of thoughts and see where the river of the mind and thinking take you.

4. Connection to your world around you

• • To contemplate where are you in life
  • To create space for awareness of what you would love and reflect is your life in alignment with this or not?
  • To allow time to reconnect with yourself so you can go out into the world as the fullest you.

It is in the space in between that allows a whole state of mind. You attend, intend, and allow thoughts and ideas to flow.

The idea of sitting and contemplating can be twofold.

1. To empty the mind
2. To observe the mind
   

1. 1. To empty the mind

Consider our minds to be water and our thoughts to be multi-coloured. Water is colourless, odourless, and shapeless. When we add colour to the water, the water is no longer clear, but swirls with the colour of the dye. The more colours, the water turns black. And the mind becomes endarkened with thoughts.

(When we apply the DeMartini Method, we dissolve thoughts and get to your true state of being. The closer we are to our soul, the clearer the messages).

1. 2. To observe the mind

Sometimes we go into “fix it mode,” where something arises in our mind and we go to resolve it. If we take time to contemplate and allow the wandering of the mind, we can allow deeper thoughts to arise.

It is not attaching to your thoughts or trying to direct them, but allows you to see what comes up. Imagine it like seeing the clouds go by and you are on the soft grass watching them. Observing the shapes and seeing them change and pass.

So for me, I am investing a weekend next weekend with a client, who is now a close friend, in emptying the mind, so that I can master plan my life without distraction and the influence of others’ decisions. 

So, are you up for some quiet contemplation?

Leadership Coach & Master Certified DeMartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

I ask this every week in class. And I ask you this in a public setting.

“What are you struggling with?”

When you share your struggles, you begin the healing process.

Others don’t perceive you in a negative light.

In fact, it is the opposite; they think how brave you are.

Flashback 6 months ago to our Maximum Growth Members Only Viewing hot seat. We covered a touchy subject of a client receiving gentile herpes from their spouse. Many people commented on her bravery to share such a private issue, publicly.

She didn’t look bad publicly.

In fact, sharing her struggle helped so many more people.

Her story helped me to reach out to a public figure who suffered from herpes, and I was able to share some of the insights from the session. She then signed up for 3 months of coaching on the back of that conversation.

If you foster an experience of trust, openness, and vulnerability with your community, they will share more with you.

I hear from clients that they want real.

So I want to know your struggles.

I want to know what you are hiding that you don’t want the world to know (if it’s imposter syndrome, check out this post from last week).

And if there was a way I could help you, either anonymously in the Ask Me Anything Class or publicly, feel free to fill out the survey here.

I’m not interested in making you look good or bad. It would be impossible to build a business doing this as it goes against universal principles.

What I can do is serve you at speed. I can help you to solve your own problems.

And I can only serve you to the degree you share.

In October we are closing the doors, so if you or anyone you know would like to join Maximum Growth, or you’d love to return to the community and classes again, click on the link to find out more.

With love,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

How many times do you hear “fake it until you make it.” ?

And you take the advice and pretend to be better than you are. Then people buy into it and inside you struggle. You wonder if you will be caught on how much you don’t know.

This is the fastest way to imposter syndrome.

How would you ever feel like you are yourself, and that it is ok to make mistakes in your business if you think you have to be the best – and perfect. Or you have to constantly prove yourself to people. It would be exhausting.

Imposter Syndrome is the talk of the town. And many people in business can connect with it.

In our Maximum Growth classes, we are big on finding the problem under the problem. Imposter Syndrome is the label, but what is going on in your psyche to create this way of being?

Here are the top three problems.

1. You are expecting to be an expert at the beginning of your career. Imagine you expected to be a black belt and you were still on your white. Impossible to live up to.
2. You have high standards of yourself, even boarding on perfectionism, which means you struggle to make mistakes.
3. You suffer from comparisonitis and play small to others, which dampens your brightness.

Imposter Syndrome is feedback for you.

It is telling you to let go of trying to be impressive and perfect.

People love being real, they love mistakes and it shows you are human.

If you set incredibly high standards, then you’ll never live up to them and continue the cycle of not feeling enough.

People are always going to be more experienced than you, more beautiful or handsome, have more money, more business. That is life. But it doesn’t have to mean you are not worthy of having all of that too. You just have to work for it.

So hold off on beating yourself down when looking in the mirror and live by this motto – face it until you ace it.

And if you would love help to live your truth, and build a business around what you’d love to share with the world, then join Maximum Growth Membership before our doors close at the end of October. Find out more here.

With warm fuzzy hugs,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

My heart felt like someone had ripped it out of my chest.

I’ve got a spring in my step today.

We have another Maximum Growth Transformation Day. This day is so inspiring.

Why?

Let me share with you.

I was standing in my lounge room when the phone rang. It is Friday, 8:50am, on the 6th of February, 2009. I anticipated it would be Eddie, my boyfriend, who was on his way to pick me up.

Disappointment hit. It wasn’t Eddie, it was his brother’s wife Kerrie.

“Tanya. Are you sitting down?” I felt a chill run down my spine.

You know what they are about to say. You know the next sentence.

My heart felt like someone had ripped it out of my chest. I could hardly breathe. Grief does crazy things to you. It felt like my mind went mushy. I couldn’t think, I couldn’t feel. I fell into a dark hole.

It was one of my darkest times, a time with absolutely no hope. I didn’t see the point of life if the man I loved was gone.

Eddie and I would go on lots of adventures together, exploring parts of Australia and the world. That fateful morning, we had our hearts set on eating organic donuts in Byron Bay. They sound so healthy, you can eat lots of them, right?! 😉

Over the coming weeks, I was surrounded by my amazing family who, before then, had been separated, both physically and emotionally. My younger sister and I became close and she asked me to come to Sydney for the weekend.

As I was preparing to leave for my flight, I connected with her flat mate, Nancy.

I told her my story.

She looked me dead in the eye and said “ Tanya come to the Breakthrough Experience in Sydney in a few weeks. I know it can help.”

You know when someone makes a statement with so much certainty, you have to go.

I found myself two weeks later in Sydney attending The Breakthrough Experience, presented by Dr. John Demartini.

On the Sunday, John asked the group if anyone in the room had experienced death recently?

I was sitting at the side of the room, and I am handed the microphone.

I have tears rolling down my face , my hand shakes as I hold the microphone, I try to get my words out. “Three months ago my boyfriend was killed suddenly.”

The room votes, and I am chosen to go up on stage with Dr Demartini to do a process in front of the audience.

He asks me 4 questions, nothing more, nothing less. Just four questions.

And in 1.20mins I no longer felt grief, sadness or loss for Eddie. All I felt was an immense amount of love, appreciation and a deep sense of gratitude for him.

If it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t be walking this path I am today, I would still be a recluse, hiding away, not wanting to be in the world.

In 1.20 minutes, my world changed. I felt lighter, my head was clear. From all I knew about grief counselling as a counsellor, it was going to be a two to five year dark road ahead.

And this man showed me a different way.

I knew from that moment onwards I had found my purpose. If I was going to master something, anything, it would be this methodology.

If I dedicated my life to this, I could truly transform myself and the world, I could set people feel of limitations, beliefs and challenges which holds them back from shining their light onto the world.

So I know, from the bottom of my heart, that Eddie’s death wasn’t in vain. His death gave me my purpose, but most of all, his death gave me my life.

For that I am truly grateful.

This is why I do what I do.

Tell me, why do you do what you do?

I would love to hear your story.

Just in case you want to join the Maximum Growth Transformation Day, check out the link here for more details.

If you know someone who could benefit from coming to class to level up in mindset or business, then share this email with them or this link to learn more about group coaching.

With hugs and heart.

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

Imagine running your own business like playing the piano. You have to master many different keys at the same time. 

However, you can’t hit all the keys at once, it would sound horrendous.

But if you want to master your business, these three skills will help you play a beautiful tune.

1. Challenge Yourself To Take Risks
   To level up in your business, you must continue to challenge yourself.Challenges keep you thinking, strategising and growing.With challenge, comes risk. We tend to be risk-averse but as a business owner making decisions about which risks to take and what to avoid is a skill.

   Successful entrepreneurs take risks. You have to in order to grow.

   Every risk comes with a downside and opportunities. You take a risk when you believe the benefits far outweigh the potential downsides.

   Learn how to identify which risks are worth taking, which ones you want to avoid to become a more masterful business owner.

2. Learn To Public Speak 

   When you think of the most important skills for a business owner, public speaking probably isn’t the first thing you think of, but it is vital.It’s not a skill immediately necessary for someone starting a business. However, as you master this skill, you have the ability to share your message with more people, which can directly impact the growth of your business.Public speaking skills can help you not only speak in public, but speak in Facebook communities, to potential clients and even to your team.

   The reason this skill is most avoided is because it is intimidating. We want to avoid being judged or feeling humiliated. In our Maximum Growth Business Class, we worked on the fear of public speaking this past week.

   Public speaking is also a learned skill. I did my time at Toastmasters International®, an organization dedicated solely to helping members improve their skills through workshops and mock presentations called Table Topics® sessions each week at local clubs worldwide. Or check out this article from the Science of People for speaking skills to master.

   In our Business Membership, our class was focused on “Getting a paid speaking gig.” The group included a new coach, an author, an actor, a singer. All who were able to remove the growth ceiling to go to the next level.

   If you’re keen to jump into class before our doors close in October and won’t reopen until April, then check out the

   Business Membership here and we will no longer offer monthly billing. Get in quick.

3. Finances 

   One of the most important skills for any business owner is accounting.It is the most important and sometimes the least looked at part of the business.As a business owner, you want to understand the profit and loss statements and taxes so you can make informed decisions about where to spend money.

   No point spending all your money and having scrapes left to pay yourself wage.

   You don’t have to know the accounts at an accountant level, that is why you hire accountants. You have to know enough to make informed decisions.

At the end of the day, you want to know you are singing your own tune in business.

Focus on what you do best, and grow these three skills and you’ll increase your income and impact on your business. 

Until the next perfect time,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

P.S. We have our Maximum Growth Transformation Day which is a day to apply the Demartini Method with other like-minded individuals to have your heart opened. Check out the link here for more details.

P.S.S. If you know someone who could benefit from coming to class to level up in mindset or business, then share this email with them or this link to learn more about group coaching.

The universe is your mind.

It’s your YOUniverse.

Thales believed that “the universe is alive and full of spirits.”

That makes me a little goosebumpy.

Aristotle said “some say a soul is mingled in the whole universe”, which is perhaps why Thales thought that everything is full of spirits.

Everything is energy.

When you go out into the YOUniverse with a question, a focus, you can’t help but get messages back.

This is because your frequency and focus attract your attention and the answer you seek.

In our life we experience ourselves, our thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of consciousness.

This delusion is a kind of prison, restricting you to what is possible.

Your task is to free yourself from this prison by widening your perspective to embrace nature, people and the universe as you.

When you do, you allow more of the YOUniverse to speak to you.

It isn’t about thinking. As Alber Einstien said, “I think 99 times and find nothing. I stop thinking, swim in silence, and the truth comes to me.”

It is in space, you find the answer. It is the emptying of the mind that the solution arises.

The Power Walkshop allows this space and time for you to be in the YOUniverse and know your purpose. 

Register here if you are interested in attending the Sydney June 1 – 5 2023 Power Walkshop.

Or register your interest here in a future Camino Power Walkshop in Spain.

In the meantime, check this video on our last Power Walkshop. 

Until the next perfect time,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

P.S. If you know someone who could benefit from coming to class to level up in mindset or business, then share this email with them or this link to learn more about group coaching.

One day, I was sitting at my desk contemplating a new program I wanted to run. Looking out of my window, I was allowing space and time in my mind to ponder.

It is sometimes tricky when you have a lot of responsibilities, people asking things from you to have thinking space.

This moment was one of those rare times I could just be. Be open to what might drop in.

All of a sudden, there was a rush of energy that flew through me.

I felt compelled to write.

It was as if the program was unveiled to me, and my hands started typing, mapping out the program in ever finer detail.

As I stepped back and re-read what I had written, I knew that this was a unique opportunity for people to uncover their life’s purpose.

And that is how the program for the Power Walkshop was written.

I know that if I hadn’t created the space for my creative ideas, I wouldn’t have allowed any new ideas to come through.

Do you feel the same way? A little too jam packed and not enough thinking space?

Time off is just as important as time on.

It allows you to reconnect with yourself, re-charge your energy levels, it reinvigorates the possibility of what is ahead.

I know for me when I spend too long running on the treadmill, doing business, building my career, taking care of the people closest to me, that I end up forgetting about myself and why I was doing all this work (do you feel me?)

And that cost me ALOT to bring myself back into the centre and become clear about what I truly wanted.

You want to give yourself permission to take time off. To disconnect from the world, from all the noise and distractions and hear your own voice.

Because making money without a true purpose is meaningless.

AND money can be made in the future when you are re-energised and ready to give to the world in a way that is aligned with what is most important.

So if you were to take a moment right now, just 10 seconds, and ask yourself what is your purpose in life?

Do you know what it is? And more importantly, does it light you up in a way that you can’t wait to work on it every day?

If not, I would encourage you to consider the Power Walkshop as it is a way to get out of your head, get into your body and heart, to feel the power and connection to the world around you.

And to have your purpose revealed to you.

Yes. It is revealed to you.

No more scratching your head and trying to figure out this cosmic mystery. It will be in your face obvious that you will know it in every cell of your being.

I hope to see you on this soulful journey.

With love and light,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

Let’s talk business.

I had a client this week focused on what their niche was in business and struggled to make a decision.

So let’s deep dive down the rabbit hole of specialising.

Specialising makes you unique and essentially stand out like a familiar face among a crowd of strangers in the marketplace.

There are so many options, how do you make such a big decision?

Choosing a niche might be similar to having a favourite meal out. There are so many options, breakfast, lunch, dinner, a snack or even dessert. But we all know which category our favourite meal falls under.

And choosing might boil down to a few options. But in the end, if it was our last meal on earth, we know which one we would choose (apple crumble for me!).

If only it would be that simple?

As you grow and change, so will your niche. Because you’re growing with knowledge and wisdom to share, you’re refining what you know and getting clearer on your specialty.

You’re also evolving as an individual too. So what you are interested in, who you love to serve, what you are challenged by will change too.

It’s not the choice you make that is important.

It’s making a choice that is important.

We forget that inaction costs.

So what prevents you from really knowing what your specialty is?

If we dig deeper, which is what we love doing at Maximum Growth Classes, there are a few problems under the problem.

1. Imposter syndrome is real.

   One client described the decision to niche that no matter what decision they make, they perceived to be an imposter. Their voice shakes as they speak. Their head spins with thoughts of who they think they should be.

   It is common for people at the beginning of any business journey or speciality to not know enough. And that imposter syndrome is an opportunity for you to reconcile the need to know more and love not knowing everything.

2. My decision will be judged.

   When working with one client in the Business Membership, they shared that they were compared to a simbling. There was a lot of competition that was created between the two of them.

   So when someone brings up something perceived negative about them, it hits me hard. They described it as like a punch in the chest. So they are avoiding making a decision to avoid being judged.

3. What if I make the “wrong” choice?

   This is a big one. The decision seems final. Who are you going to serve forever and ever and ever. Amen.

   But let me say again

   It’s not the choice you make that is important.

   It’s making a choice that is important.

   We forget that inaction costs. 

   There is no wrong or right, just a decision you feel certain about.

   Follow your intuition, and allow that to be your guide, not your head, not your market, or your social media posts.

   ​​​​​​​Your intuition can only be heard when you are being yourself, and in moments of quiet.

So what do you do then to define your speciality?

First, like Bridget shared in our Business class this week who shared a quote from Tony Robbin’s, “Find yourself in the service of others”

Just love serving. See that as your broader specialty.

And allow the niche to reveal itself as you serve.

And once you know your niche, and you have some traction in your business, come and join Maximum Growth Business Membership. It is all the mindset tools you need to accelerate your growth personally and professionally.

In service of you,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

Yes you, stop being a people pleaser.

We all have had moments in our lives when we want to be liked by others.

It makes us feel all the good feelings (thanks brain), plus we feel connected to people and can create a sense of importance.

But is it really worth it?

I think the answer is a clear no.

In fact, I believe that it’s actually detrimental to our well-being to try too hard to please others.

Studies have shown that people who are constantly trying to please others tend to be unhappy and stressed out.

They also have a harder time saying no, which can lead to them being taken advantage of.

How do you know you are a people pleaser?

Here are the tell-tale signs:

• Low self worth. People pleasers draw their self-worth from the approval of others.
• You need (yes need) others to like you.
• You agree, even if you don’t agree.
• You describe yourself as a giver (or have extremely high empathy).

Now, let’s look at this action of pleasing with a new lens.

If we dig to find the problem under the problem, you might find that people-pleasing is difficult in conflict management and being able to say “no” among other reasons.

Saying “no” or turning down a request for help might make them think less of you and that is a challenge. Therefore, agreeing to do what they want might seem like an easier option, even if you don’t want to.

This pattern can cause problems because people’s needs come before your needs. And the boundaries are blurred.

Unless you become comfortable with pissing people off, then you will continue to people-please and, by default, you minimise yourself.

Instead of trying to please everyone, it’s important to find out what you want.

Ask yourself: “how does doing what I want serve others?”

That way, you have your needs met and you can see how others’ needs are met indirectly.

If you want to break the pattern of people-pleasing, recognising the behavior is the first step.

Your awareness around the ways you tend to people-please will begin on your journey of putting yourself first.

Then knowing your boundaries and taking action on them is important to uphold what is important to you.

The Demartini Method helps to fully balance out the fine line between pleasing a particular person and pleasing yourself. It gives you the equilibrium and insight to make the right decisions and to be 100% comfortable in your decision.

Maximum Growth Transformation Day is 6 hours, facilitated by me to break through the noise and get to the guts of the problem.  

Then you are free to focus on servicing your community.

And always remember, you first, then the world.

Much love,

Would you like to know the secret sauce to success?

Oh you want me to whisper it into your ear {first_name}!

If we could create a secret formula of success, bottle it, add a fancy label, we would probably get rich off it.

If only it were that simple. But the truth is, you ain’t here, reading this newsletter if that was your mojo.

You don’t mind getting a little dirty, rolling up your sleeves and getting to work.

So, as you get your butt on the growth train, and catapult yourself to higher levels of success, here are just 3 traits that will get you there faster.

1. Prioritise. Prioritise. Prioritise.

Just had to say it a few times so it sinks in.

Focusing on the most important things when you need to, and doing the work when you don’t feel like it.

Let’s face it, you know this but many don’t do it. And the reason is because it is a skill like riding a bike, planning your quarterly strategy or the art of selling.

Prioritising requires time to practice and to master.

Consider making it a daily task to practice prioritising, ask what is the most important task to do today, set an estimated time and repeat. This means throughout your day reviewing if you are doing the most important task now or not.

Priorising will keep you on track.

2. Resilience

This is where, no matter the circumstances, when you fall over, you get back up again.

Business can be tough, you get knocked around and down. You might feel some days the world is against you, or rejected because you can’t seem to pick up business.

Setbacks happen. People will say no. Heck, they may even bitch and moan about what you don’t do for them to anyone who will listen.

It’s not just resistance, but residence with a growth mindset is the secret. If you see how any challenge is helping you on your path to growth, you’re resilient with a purpose.

Resilience is key to being able to navigate through the challenges with grace.

3. Accountability

You work for yourself, so the benefit of working for yourself is no one tells you what to do.

Yet…… the downside of working for yourself is no one tells you what to do.

*Big sigh*

You have to make sure you hold yourself accountable to the goals you want, and do the action steps necessary to achieve your goals.

It can be so easy to do feel good tasks. But, these tasks are not necessarily the tasks that will achieve a result.

Do these three actions and you’ll notice a difference in your inner world which will influence your business in the best way.

#bringonsuccess

Now…. Let’s face it, our inner world is what can prevent us from being successful. That inner critic that rears its ugly head and tells us that we can’t, who I am to do that internal dialogue that stops us in our tracks.

In the ever evolving and changing landscape of success, you will have moments of doubt, uncertainty. This is part of everyone’s journey.

In my time as a coach, I have not yet met a woman who didn’t have “voices” in her head that is disruptive or critical, and this internal narrative leads to them perceiving themselves in a negative light.

The inner critic is never completely silenced. It can’t be, as it is a part of ourselves that acts as an internal homeostatic mechanism when we are prideful.

If you can never silence it, then embrace it as feedback. Next time you get distracted or disillusioned with yourself, look at what the inner critic is trying to show you? What is it trying to tell you? What is underneath the content.

Here are some examples;

“Who am I to share my content with the world?”

Deeper question: Where is the pride in what you know? And what don’t you know (to humble yourself).

“What if you make a mistake?”

Deeper question: Where do you think you have to know more? And what’s the downside of knowing more?

The little voices will subside and success can reign.

With love and wisdom,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth One on one & group coaching available
Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

It was the end of the financial year this week.

It’s an opportunity for you to do a review of your income and expenses, see where you’re at with your net worth and how you’re tracking your financial goals. #Financialfreedomplease

Ok, I know you’ll either be doing a boggie on your chair with me to celebrate your achievements this year or you’re thinking “S*#t” this year, I promise.

I’m a geek and have been tracking my finances since 2010.

It wasn’t easy, and it was very uncomfortable. I had very little income and I had some debt. I knew I had to face reality and stop avoiding a difficult conversation with myself.

Taking a deep breath.

I opened a spreadsheet and wrote what I owed. Money on my credit card, a bill to a company and to a family member.

Now, time to calculate my assets. Hmmm?! Zero. Nothing.

That part was easy.

The following year, I did the same exercise with a little lightness and spring in my step.

I’d worked on my money mindset throughout the year, I was beginning to understand how to serve and grow a business, so within 12 months I was beginning to see big changes.

Fast track to June 2022 and my tracking has become more sophisticated. I track leads, conversion rate, customer lifetime values, income, expenses and net worth.

Tracking gives a perspective on your business that is real. Sometimes you feel you’re off track, but the figures don’t lie. They tell the real story.

It’s the fastest way to look at yourself and make changes, either inwardly (like coming to Maximum Growth Business class) or outwardly, by learning about finances and financial markets.

So, it’s been a fun process for me to track my finances. I want to share some of that juicy inspiration with you too.

Here it is. Your own financial tracking spreadsheet.

You can download my financial spreadsheet and call it your own.

It’s basic. It’s unbranded. It’s yours.

Give it to me baby.

Take the time to really see where you are at financially.

I’d love to know how you go?!

And… if any uncomfortable feeling comes up around doing the work, or afterwards, come to our 6 hour Maximum Growth Transformation Day.

It’s an opportunity for you to work through the Demartini method to dissolve your emotional baggage to increase your self-worth and your ability to hold onto and keep your mula.

To more riches within,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth One on one & group coaching available
Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

You’d be surprised how many people associate crying with weakness. And they think that if they completely dissolve a dynamic to where the only words left in their heart are, “Thank you, I love you” then they’ll cry and they’ll be perceived as weak.

(Usually that’s a belief learned early on in childhood – between 3-7 years old.)

If that’s you, I have a message just for you:

You can have a genuine, inspiring breakthrough without tears.

Because let’s remember the 6 signs of a true breakthrough: Certainty and presence in the mind, gratitude and love of the heart, enthusiasm and inspiration in the body.

Everything else is an illusion.

The key is how you feel.

Now, you might be different. Maybe you’re not charged about crying.

Maybe you get too ‘in your head’ because you’re familiar with the current level of challenge. And even though you want to change, there’s a level of comfort in familiarity.

Your charge becomes like a comfortable PJ’s you love getting into, and you aren’t ready nor wanting yet to dissolve it (better the devil you know kind of thinking).

So perhaps your fear of graduating to a new – and more importantly, unknown – challenge is greater than your fear of staying ‘stuck in the rut of the same cycle of thinking’. ​​​​​​​Or maybe (last example, promise) the last time you became too emotional, your world fell apart or you perceived you received too much criticism. So you subconsciously think, “I won’t go there again”.

Do you get where I’m going with this? Like the great oracle of Delphi said, “know thyself.”

Are you afraid of anything that might happen by breaking through?

If yes, work through that first (ie remove the roadblocks in the way of clearing your issue) and come back to your initial issue.

If not, let’s move to:

WHEN IT’S TIME TO DIG AROUND IN THAT BEAUTIFUL MIND OF YOURS

Much shorter for this one. You overthink things because your mind comes up with all sorts of reasons or imagined outcomes why you shouldn’t get to a state of gratitude and love.

e.g. somewhere in your mind, you’ve associated loving your soon-to-be-ex (with whom you’ve had a rough relationship) with the outcome that you’ll fall back into a relationship with them after breaking through. i.e. you still have a charge somewhere that the ‘old’ dynamic is more bad than good, more pain than pleasure or more challenge than support.

So, that imagined outcome of a renewed relationship is an illusion.

Because remember – you still have a choice after you’ve dissolved your charge. The difference is that you choose your actions from a balanced, grateful place. Not a lopsided one that will send you straight back into a similar dynamic (so you have another chance to love it.)

Just knowing that whatever you think MIGHT happen is no indication of what WILL happen.

Funnily enough, the only way to really ‘control’ the outcome is to dissolve the emotion around the outcome.

So, let this be a quick guide for you, my overthinker. Your head can be the key to your heart if you let it. Just take a little tweak in perspective.

Remember: thinking AND feeling. It’s both, not either/or.

Oh, and Thank you. For being here, for striving to live a more meaningful life every day. I love you with all my head, all my heart and all my soul.

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth One on one & group coaching available
Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

PS – Sharing this loving kick up the derriere I read in an email today: Just because we understand how to dissolve our issues, doesn’t mean we don’t have to put in the work. How’s that for tough love? Let’s keep on.

PPS – If you’d love guidance in dissolving your stuff, weekly help with me is right here.

“You’re not a facilitator, you’re a gardener, you plant seeds and watch things germinate.”

That’s what I tell the coaches I work with who are challenged with the shifts you see with clients.

This isn’t a philosophy I read from somewhere, I know this to be true because people have planted seeds for me.

In 2015 when I completed my master certification in the Demartini method, at the Demartini Method Training program in Houston, I had a session swap with Amit, a savant and super aware facilitator (AKA a gifted gardener).

I can’t not remember what we worked on, just that a mighty oak tree planted that day. I knew something shifted because I reflected on that session for years to come and questioned myself “when will it be time to create my own signature program?

One of the stand out thoughts was feelings are a part of humanity. Sounds like nothing, but it has been a huge shift in me, to feel all the feelings, and share the message in the work that it is ok to feel too. Feeling is the very thing that makes us human, it helps us connect, celebrate, and live a rich life.

You can’t hide from feelings. Repressing them ain’t good for the body, numbing them ain’t good for life. Instead, it’s an empty, meaningless life.

I’ve definitely had a journey over the past 7 years to acknowledge and feel all the feelings. Then doing the work required to level up.

Another gold nugget of wisdom from the session was a statement Amit made as we wrapped up the session was “Tanya when are you going to create your own thing.”

It has been an idea percolating in the back of my mind for all these years.

I love the Demartini Method. It’s become a part of my thinking and a lens I view my world from that I’ll continue to share the work worldwide for a long time to come. Nothing will change there.

And, I have been dream in of my own thing for a while. When the idea popped into my head for the Power Walkshop a few years ago, it felt like something unique and different.

When it came to finally setting a date and making plans, I sat down to write the program.

I can only describe it as a flood of enthusiasm that ran through me and within a few hours the program was created.

It was as if I was guided to write the words down (do you get me or is this too woo woo weird for you?…. I own my weirdness 😂)”

You experience the Power Walkshop in the way it was written. The lessons, the people around you, the universe, the path guide you to your life purpose.

You don’t have to sit there contemplating what it is, because it is in your face, over and over again.

This program is unique because it combines the mind and body, the material and spiritual worlds, the head and the heart, attention and intention together in a practical (yet based on theory) to help your purpose unfold over the 5 days.

Plus, we sprinkle presence, certainty, lots of love and gratitude, into the days that you’ll have a new and profound way of living.

It’s not about a work purpose (although that may reveal itself), it’s about a life purpose.

I’ve found my signature program that I want to share with you.

If you’re keen to experience a soulful transformation, then come join us for the Power Walkshop in November 2022. Click here to find out more.

#thepathwillguideyou

With love,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth One on one & group coaching available
Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

P.S. If you know someone who could benefit from coming to class to level up in mindset or business, then share this email with them or this link to learn more about group coaching.

Let’s have a hard conversation.

About “no.”

Yes? 😂

When you hear the word ‘no’ in sales, you’re meant not to take it as a hard ‘no’ but more a ‘no for now.’

Some people believe that it takes 7 ‘no’s’ from someone until they say yes.

Let’s spin it around to you being the one saying ‘no’.

Your initial response is no. Your second response is still no. Third, yep, it’s a no. Keep going and eventually you cave and say yes.

Was it your decision to say yes? Did you just subordinate to this individual’s wants and needs and disown your own? Or did you really want to say yes?

If people in your life learn they can push and receive the answer they want, of course they’re going to push.

Then you end up living under other peoples expectations of you which isn’t very inspiring.

No is a very empowering word. You create a sense of authority in your life by stand up or even against for something you want.

Sometimes you must say no more than once; while this may feel uncomfortable, it is really important to create strength and autonomy.

What do you want to hold your ground to say ‘no’ to {first_name}? I’d love to hear from you.

With gratitude,

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth One on one & group coaching available
Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

P.S. If you know someone who could benefit from coming to class to level up in mindset or business, then share this email with them or this link to learn more about group coaching.