Hey Coach,

 

2024 starts in one sleep, and we wanted to share an inspiring story that we hope will ignite something in you…

 

This is an incredible story of determination and resilience with someone who has no barriers and knows no age or experience limit.

 

Clifford Young was not your typical athlete, he was born and raised as a farmer in Victoria, Australia, Cliff had never shown any particular interest in sports during his youth.

 

However, at the age of 57, he had a change in his values. The farmer from Down Under discovered he was inspired by long-distance running.

 

In 1982, at the age of 60, Cliff attempted to run a thousand miles (approximately 1.6 thousand kilometres) around Memorial Square in Colac, Victoria, aiming to break a world record.

 

Although he fell short of his goal, Cliff’s failure did not deter his pursuit.

 

Just a year later, at 61, he entered the Australian Super Marathon—a gruelling 864-kilometre race from Melbourne to Sydney (that’s 9 hours drive – imagine).

 

Unconventional Competitor

On the day of the race, seasoned athletes and spectators were bewildered when they saw Cliff Young at the starting line.

 

Sporting overalls and galoshes over his boots (think booty covers), he was at the start line, ready.

 

Many initially assumed he was a spectator, while others expressed genuine concern for his well-being.

 

After all, attempting such a feat at his age without sponsors or specialised training seemed implausible and even impossible.

 

But Cliff was undeterred by the outside world.

 

When interviewed by the media, he declared, “No, I can do it. I grew up on a farm where we couldn’t afford horses or a car until very recently. When the storm was approaching, I went out to herd the sheep. We had 2,000 sheep grazing on 2,000 acres. Sometimes I caught sheep for 2-3 days – it was not easy, but I always caught them. I think I can participate in the race because it is only 2 days longer and is only 5 days, while I run after the sheep for 3 days.”

 

So he’d be training for this moment most of his life.

 

The Journey

As the race began, professional athletes quickly left Cliff far behind.

 

Spectators from across Australia watched in awe, praying for his safe finish.

 

Little did Cliff know that completing the 864-kilometre journey required running for 18 hours a day and sleeping for only 6 hours, a fact unknown to him at the time.

 

To everyone’s astonishment, Cliff didn’t sleep during the race’s early stages and trailed behind.

 

However, each night, he gradually caught up with his competitors.

 

On the final day, he surged ahead and ultimately claimed victory in the Sydney-Melbourne Supermarathon, completing the gruelling race in just 5 days, 15 hours, and 4 minutes

 

That was 10 hours faster than his nearest rival.

 

Inspiring Others

In his victory, Cliff refused to claim any prizes for himself.

 

Instead, he divided his $10,000 prize money among the other runners, winning the hearts of the entire nation.

 

Cliff Young continued his love for running, participating in international events, and even taking on the challenge of running to raise money for homeless children.

 

His final running accomplishment was setting a world record in a six-day marathon in 2000 (so that is 18 years of doing his craft).

 

In 2003, at the age of 81, Cliff Young passed away, leaving behind a legacy of endurance and inspiration that continues to inspire generations to this day.

 

INSPIRATION & GROWTH

So 2024 is around the corner. What can we learn from Cliff?

1. If you fail once, it doesn’t mean give up, it means keep going. The magic is in what you are avoiding.
2. Your childhood experiences have meaning to your mission today.
3. Don’t let the outside world influence your inner determination.
4. Age nor experience doesn’t have to be a barrier to your mission. If you have an inner calling to coach, then coach.

 

Let’s make 2024 all about chasing our dreams and achieving more than we once thought possible.

 

With love,

Tanya, Justin & the Maximum Growth Team

Maximum Growth

When a person is stuck in the trauma of their past, they find it hard to imagine a future for themselves.

 

Coupled with the loss of identity, you question ‘who the hell are you?

 

Not having a sense of self can lead to a downward spiralling state of mind (think Alice in Wonderland – but you don’t go to such a wonderful place.)

 

For some people, their struggle is with choices they made in the past that have not aligned with who they want to be.

 

Some struggle with regretting the past.

 

Some do not love the skin they are in.

 

Whatever it is. The struggle is real.

 

What is common to these people is, they have a sense of stagnation.

 

Their identity is rooted in the past, and they can’t move forward. Time becomes this eternal loop. Stuck in the past.

 

When problems came up, it felt like a replication of a past problem.

Over and over again, unable to envision a solution.

 

Instead of dealing with the mayhem in their memories, they push them away.

 

Compress. Repress. Suppress.

All leading to depression. Depressed self.

 

It takes courage to review your life, face things that are painful, and ask quality questions to appreciate the choices you made under challenging circumstances.

 

It takes courage to draw a line in the sand to say, enough! No one else can make the change but me.

 

Yes, it is so difficult to face yourself.

 

But let’s face it (not you, but in a more general sense).

 

Facing it alone sucks.

 

That’s why we have doubled our Maximum Growth Community Co Working Space each week.

 

These classes give you an opportunity, when you are part of the membership, to join other like-minded coaches to do the work together. Face your staff as a team.

 

When you change any “you” statement to “we”, it gives a greater sense of belonging.

 

When you belong, you feel connected to a community, that people care, you feel less isolated and alone and can build connections and you get inspiration cooties to rub off on you.

 

So, when you have trauma, and you lose a sense of self, the next thing is to tell you that it will get better – but that means anything.

 

And in fact, it is only selling you a fantasy of the future.

 

But you want to imagine a future for yourself.

And you have to be willing to do the hard work to shift your perspective.

Because it is hard work staying where you are.

So you may as well roll your sleeves up, and get to work.

 

Come join us for Maximum Growth classes. The community co-working space is on 4 times a week, every week.

 

Be with others who are on the same journey.

 

Hang out with Justin, myself and the community.

 

Love to see you there. Hit “yes I’m in” if you show up next week.

Tanya “mind (and sometimes spoon) bending’ Cross – or just call me Bendy for short.

A few weeks ago, I did a series of newsletters on The Mirrors of Human Relationships: Reflections on Growth and Self-Discovery (Read part 1, part 2, part 3 & part 4).

 

It was such a hit, and people loved it. I even noticed another coach using it in their program – Yah, to see the ripple effect of the work that is being shared. (You know who you are – I see you and honour you).

 

On reflection, it sparked the idea of two more to add to the series.

 

Today, let’s talk about how our sexual expressions and relationships also play a significant role in our personal growth and self-discovery.

 

Sexuality, a fundamental aspect of human existence, has the power to illuminate the innermost recesses of our identities. Sexual expression and intimate relationships serve as mirrors, revealing our desires, insecurities, vulnerabilities, and self-acceptance.

 

Let’s go deep. Really deep. Oh yeeaaah….. Hey! Where did your mind go?!?

 

I’m talking about the deep dive into the intricate dynamics of sexual expression and how it reflects and shapes our inner world.

 

Sexuality as a Mirror: Reflecting Desires and Insecurities

Our sexual desires and preferences often mirror our deeper emotional and psychological needs. Philosopher Simone de Beauvoir, who was about feminist empowerment, eloquently observed, “One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.”

 

Our sexuality is not solely an innate aspect but is also shaped by societal norms, personal experiences, and self-identity.

 

We have to work at our sexual expression, and our desires, and speak up. Like a muscle where you go to the gym, sexuality and the expression of it is important.

 

Navigating Sexual Relationships:

Effective communication is paramount in intimate relationships. Open, honest and transparent discussions about desires, boundaries, and consent can lead to more fulfilling sexual dynamics.

 

Sexual intimacy often requires a high degree of vulnerability. Trusting our partners with our deepest desires and insecurities can lead to greater emotional intimacy.

 

And this can be hard. Because after years or even decades, you might realise you like cucumbers but you never did before. And now your dream about the cucumber, you want it, you want it in every way, shredded, sliced, in its raw form… You get my drift.. But how did you have this conversation when your spouse thinks you don’t like cucumbers at all?

We’re allowed to change, hey! That’s a yes.

 

Sexual exploration can be a journey of self-discovery. It allows us to understand our bodies, desires, and preferences, shedding light on our evolving identities.

 

Sexuality as a Shaper: Transforming Self-Appreciation and Identity

On the flip side, sexual experiences have the power to shape our self-identity. They can lead to profound insights into our attitudes toward our bodies, self-worth, and emotional well-being.

 

Social norms play a role in our own perception of ourselves, our bodies and our expression. Here are some ways we can transform our perceptions and find a stronger sense of self in relationships and our sexual expressions.

 

Society often imposes unrealistic beauty standards that can impact our self-image. Exploring our sexuality can challenge these norms, allowing us to embrace and appreciate our bodies as they are.

For some, sexual experiences may involve healing from past traumas or exploring newfound empowerment.

 

QUESTIONS OF GROWTH

What I love about the Demartini Method is that it can be used for so many challenges, including sexual trauma and challenges, dissolving judgement and awakening more sexual expression within ourselves and with our spouse.

 

1. What is one thing you have never done but wish you had?
2. How would it benefit you to be able to express this/do this for both yourself and your spouse? Keep asking and answering the question until you feel the shift and feel ready to have a conversation.
3. The material you have with question 2 you can use as your sales pitch. Go have a conversation. ie. “I asked my partner if they wanted to try a little role-playing. They said, ‘Sure, you can be the doctor and pay off my medical bills.'” Resistance or not getting the reaction you wanted means you haven’t sold it to them yet.

In the realm of sexual expression and relationships, self-awareness and self-appreciation are key. Communication becomes the way to break down barriers and get your needs and desires met.

 

By recognizing the ways in which our sexual desires, experiences, and identities reflect and shape our inner world, we can embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth.

 

It is through open dialogue, exploration, and self-acceptance that we can harness the transformative power of our sexuality.

 

Ultimately, our sexual expression can be a profound avenue for personal growth.

Feeling adventurous? Are you up for it?

Once upon a time, in a quaint little town, there lived a woman named Sarah. She was vibrant and intelligent and valued her relationships. 

 

Yet, Sarah had a way of approaching relationships that often left her feeling lost and unfulfilled.

 

Sarah was the kind of person who believed that her happiness hinged on her partner being there with her. She couldn’t help but rely heavily on them for reassurance and a sense of security. This made her relationships feel like a rollercoaster, with moments of euphoria followed by sharp drops of anxiety.

 

One day, Sarah’s close friend Jake sat her down for a heart-to-heart conversation. “Sarah,” he said gently, “It’s wonderful to value your partner, but don’t forget to nurture your own sense of self. It can help break the cycle of emotional dependence.”

 

Sarah’s trust issues had her worrying that her partner would abandon her for someone else. She found herself feeling suspicious whenever her partner spent time with friends, family, or anyone close to them. Paranoia was high. It was like a never-ending loop of jealousy and insecurity.

 

Sarah’s sister, Jane, offered her some valuable insight. “Sarah,” she said, “Every healthy relationship requires you to work on your own pain point that you bring into the relationship that is interfering with having closeness. Which is the very thing you want.’

 

Sarah yearned to hear that she was loved, appreciated, and valued by her partner. Without these external actions, she often spiralled into feelings of emptiness and sadness.

 

Sarah was inherently demanding when it came to her relationships. She craved her partner’s attention and affection. Whenever she was alone with her partner, she felt uneasy, and if her needs weren’t met, she would explode in frustration.

 

During the session, we explored this fear of someone leaving her, when she wanted to be chosen. Be the number one. Where does it stem from?

 

Digging deep down, it was her mother. Her mother chose God over her. And so then she clung so tightly to her partner for fear of abandonment, and that not being chosen. 

 

Emotional charges, left unresolved, create a hypervigilant state. This is where the individual monitors her partner’s every move, searching for any signs of disappointment or anger. Seeking a confirmation bias of affirming what they felt as a child being projected into the adult relationship.  

 

This led her to adopt a pattern of people-pleasing to avoid conflict. 

 

In the journey of Sarah’s life, she learned that recognizing these patterns was the first step towards healthier relationships. Becoming aware is the beginning of change. 

 

QUESTIONS OF GROWTH

1. Reflect on your own relationship dynamic (or if you are single, choose a family member, friend or business dynamic), what is the underlying dynamic, and where it stems from (eg. Sarah – relationship dynamic of people please, avoid conflict, fear of abandonment – that stemmed from a mother’s wound.)

What is it for you? I’m curious. Feel free to hit reply and tell me your story.

 

 

Just like Sarah, we all have our unique relationship dynamics to navigate. 

 

Navigating the seas of relationships requires not just sailing together but exploring the uncharted depths beneath the surface. Explore the very charges that are hazing and interfering with truly being and loving ourselves and our spouse. 

 

By understanding these patterns and actively working on the deeper layers of the problem under the problem, we can create fulfilling relationships. 

 

Tanya “Heart Open” Cross

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Maximum Growth

 

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Last weekend I embarked on a whirlwind adventure, spanning 31 hours of travel, to immerse myself in the transformative The Breakthrough Experience with Dr. John Demartini. 

 

You might be wondering, “Why go to such lengths for just 22 hours in a room?” 

 

Well, as they say, sometimes you have to go the extra mile to smash through your growth ceilings blocking you from growing because…

 

A static state stifles the seeds of evolution. 

 

And deep down, I have the drive to evolve (you might relate?!). 

 

But I could feel stagnation creeping into my life, a subtle sense of plateauing in my personal and professional journey. 

 

The application of the Demartini Method in an intensely concentrated period of time has a way of shifting me, there and then and seeing the results, fast.

 

I see changes in my internal thinking, my business, my finances, and my relationships. 

 

As I navigated through the challenges of flight cancellations, airport sprints and 1 am wake-up calls, I clung to Demartini’s wisdom: “In every challenge, there is an opportunity.”

 

Entering the room filled with anticipation, like a kid on the eve of your birthday, knowing you have a new year ahead and wondering what life will be like at the new phase. 

 

One of the statements he made on the first day that still echoes in my mind is, “The moment you decide to master your time and attention, your life will change.”  

 

(funny – as we had worked on mastering priorities in our Business Class the week before, so it was a perfect message that aligned with our group learning)

 

The weekend challenged my perspectives, pushing me to reassess my priorities and redefine the areas where I invested my time and my energy.

 

As Richard Brandson says, ‘Time is the new money.’ But it is ‘time and energy is the new money.’

 

You can have a lot of time, and no energy, a lot of energy and no time. Both combined – wow!

 

It became clear that breaking through stagnation meant aligning my actions with my true values, fueling a renewed sense of purpose.

 

What is it that I truly value, and what is my true vision? Where do I really want to take my life over the next decade and beyond?

 

As he reminded us often, “The quality of your life is based upon the quality of the questions you ask.” 

 

Asking myself some uncomfortable and powerful questions helped me to get crystal clear about what I want, what i really, really want. (I wanna, (ha) I wanna, (ha) I wanna, (ha) I wanna, (ha) I wanna really, really, really wanna zigazig ah).

 

I left The Breakthrough Experience with a new fire in my belly.

 

And isn’t it beautiful that when you make a decision, the people who are not aligned fall away, the people who are aligned, magnetise you? 

 

So, was it crazy to embark on a 31-hour pilgrimage for a mere 22 hours in a room? 

 

Yes, if it means more inspiration to share with you, I’d do it again next week.

 

What are you prepared to do to set a goal and sail?

 

If you would love to be aligned with your goals for 2024, then find out more details here.

 

 

 

In the world of coaching, we often find ourselves peeling back the layers of our clients’ lives, seeking to uncover the mysteries that lie beneath the surface. 

 

But what about the stories that swirl around a client, or even yourself? 

 

People love talking about other people. 

Especially when they put them in a pit, to indirectly build themselves up.

 

But how do you know what they are saying is true?

 

When I first started doing ‘the work,’ there were whispers and rumours about me, lots of untruths. 

 

Maybe you can relate to the intrigue that surrounds a seemingly quiet person who chooses to form deep connections rather than share themselves with the world.

 

One day, a close friend approached me with an unsettling revelation.

 

What gossip does, it allows us to own more of ourselves. 

 

Because no matter what someone says about it is true on some level.

 

But hey, wait?! Are you confused?

 

Yes, what someone was spreading was untrue, in the form they were saying. 

 

When you find yourself at the center of that story, it’s natural to deflect, to say, “That’s not me.” 

 

BUT… here’s the thing: every trait, action, or inaction, no matter how foreign it may seem, resides within us. To deny this is to deny ourselves.

 

Understanding why people gossip is the key to unravelling the hidden truths beneath their words. Perhaps it’s jealousy, but often, it’s more complex than that. 

 

Today, let’s shine a light on the deeper reasons people engage in gossip, reasons that may help you comprehend when someone is caught in the cycle of chatter.

 

• Anxiety: Gossip can be a way for individuals to cope with their anxieties, a distraction from their own worries.
• Need for Emotional Connection: Some seek emotional connection and validation through gossip, feeling a sense of belonging when they share or listen to others’ stories.
• Desire to Fit In: It’s easier to talk about someone else’s life than confront the uncomfortable aspects of our own. Gossip helps people fit in by participating in a shared narrative.
• A Bid to Be Liked: By bringing information to the group, gossip hopes to be accepted and liked, often driven by the fear of being an outcast.
• Jealousy: Sometimes, jealousy fuels gossip, as people try to bring others down to their level.

Now, let’s turn the spotlight inward and reflect on ourselves as coaches using some powers and adaptations of the Demartini Method to help transform your experience. 

• What has someone gossiped about you? Take a moment to recall those rumours or stories that circulated about you. What did they reveal about your hidden traits or actions?
• Where and when have you displayed or demonstrated the trait, action, or inaction? Reflect on times when you might have showcased the very qualities others gossiped about. This is a powerful opportunity for self-discovery.
• What have you gossiped about someone? We’ve all been there. Consider the moments when you engaged in gossip about others.
• What was the underlying reason for your behaviour? Explore the deeper motivations behind your gossip: was it to establish an emotional connection, fit in, be liked, deflect, or be driven by jealousy?

 

As coaches, it’s our role to seek the hidden mysteries beneath the surface issues our clients present. 

 

The next time someone approaches you with their story, remember to look beyond what’s apparent. 

 

When someone shares ‘gossip’ or talks in a ‘negative’ light about someone, then, look deeper as to their intentions.  

 

In the world of coaching, understanding the problem behind the problem what where the real magic happens. 

 

Embrace the power of introspection, and you’ll be better equipped to guide your clients on their own transformative journeys. Seek the deeper meaning, the truths concealed within, and you’ll uncover the profound insights that can lead to genuine transformation.

 

Tanya x

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Maximum Growth

I am often said to have identified the amygdala as the brain’s ‘fear’ centre. But the fact is, I have not done this, nor has anyone else.” Joseph LeDoux (2015)

Hmm? 

Information we have been given has us believe that the amygdala is the brain region responsible for the fear response. 

But, what if what we know is not accurate? How would knowing this impact us?

Neuroscientists have been working to ‘fill the gap’ with the pathway to fear and fear memory.

What they are discovering is that a sensory-based threat memory pathway could be rooted in the primary olfactory (piriform) cortex. It’s been observed that the primary olfactory (piriform) cortex is hyperactive in anxious individuals (anxiety is fear of the future).

Smell that one… 

This could mean smell therapy could become all the rage. (I’m coining it smellology).

Smell does trigger some physiological responses in people. The smell of freshly cut grass, the smell of the beach, the smell of your old flames perfume. Takes you back down memory lane. 

Why is this important? When we understand the brain and our responses, it helps us to transform them.  

It’s interesting that, in today’s era, we don’t know everything about the brain. What we do know is the evolution of fear in people’s cognition and behaviour have evolved over time, especially in the brain.   

The evolution of the human brain has involved the preservation of primitive brain structures and their associated processes while developing new structures and processes on top of these. Imagine it to be like different operating systems on the deeper hardwiring of the brain.

By now, you would have heard of the prefrontal cortex, which contributes to higher-level critical thinking and decision-making, literally sits atop more ‘primitive’ mid-brain regions and communicates with them.

The prefrontal cortex is otherwise known as the rational mind. Imagine this to be the like a rider on the back of an elephant, with the rider being our conscious thoughts and the elephant being our automatic and emotional processes.

So when it comes to doing the inner work, we have to get the elephant to do what the rider wants. 

That’s why, if we experience fear or anxiety, we have to go deep with our inner work.

I had a client this week with a business challenge. They had lost a significant client. They were sharing how they had noticed changes in their thinking, but their bodies and responses acted in the inverse. They could start to find the blessings but want to avoid work, not show up and struggle to get their head in the game.

This shows a deeper charge yet to be resolved as the hardwiring has not been reprogrammed. (ie. Look at what your actions are, not your thoughts)

We are working on the conscious mind when we ask ourselves questions. We want to dig deep and transform the deeper layers of our mind, right down to the deeper hardwiring, to make deep and, most important, lasting change. 

It makes me think, what would happen if we had essential oils or even coffee when we do the deep work, and if that could help reprogram our brain and body to behave differently? 

I don’t know, but I’d love to hear from you if you’ve tried this.

SIDENOTE: It is not as simple as that. (deep sigh). Any complete theory of fear must consider it a complex phenomenon, a give-and-take between conscious cognitive processes and automatic (out-of-awareness) brain functions. Think about the multi-dimensions of the work, like in a previous blog. 

The dance between conscious cognition and automatic brain functions shapes our emotional landscape, guiding our responses to fear and anxiety.  

As we seek to decipher this intricate dance, we unearth the potential to mitigate irrational responses, promote emotional resilience, and refine our relationship with fear.

Amid these discoveries, one question resonates: Can we harness this evolving understanding to craft a future where fear loses its grip, and our emotional well-being flourishes?

I’d love to hear from you,

Tanya x 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth

 

You have heard people say “Fake it until you make it.”

I cringe when I hear it. 

Here’s why…

Imagine this –  it is your first client session as a coach, or it is your first customer strolling through the doors to buy your product, and you have embraced this idea, fake it until you make it.

It helps you to overcome the anxiety, the anticipation of a no, and something new and uncomfortable, all in the hopes that you’ll breeze through and look more polished and professional like you have more years under your belt than you do.

Nevertheless, while those echoing this line may be well-intentioned, there is one major underlying problem with this saying — an incongruent four-letter word. 

F-A-K-E.

No one wants the fake version of you. 

The fake version is your true self hiding away.

If you start your business by being not true to yourself, selling a fantasy of who you are to the outside world, then you are setting yourself up for a serious amount of strife in business.

So, what do you do? 

Here are the top two universal principle alternatives to ‘Fake It Until You Make It.’

These universal principles will empower you, turning you from a victim of your lack of experience to a master of your vocational destiny. 

Face it until you ace it.

People appreciate your raw and real self. Own all parts of yourself and that you are new at your craft, or your facing a new challenge you haven’t faced before with a client. 

You swap one tiny letter, — the “k” for the “c” — and your authentic self shows up. No need to hide a part of yourself or your insecurities. 

I personally say “Let’s talk this out” when I am faced with a challenge I am unsure of. I process out loud with the client. It doesn’t help the client if I go in with all guns blazing with the client thinking I have done this type of session a zillion times. 

Sometimes I might just say ‘hey, this is a first for me.’ But my love of serving is what matters, not my skill. Because we get there in the end. If I sell an idea, we are going to smash through this in 20 minutes, and they (and I) will be let down. 

Do you notice the difference? Humility pays. Arrogance costs. 

Use humility and lack of experience for you, not against you.

Learn it until you earn it.

When you fake it before you make it, you are better than you are, when you’ve really only started your journey. No one is an expert at the beginning of their career. Think of the 10,000-hour rule. According to Gladwell, you could become an expert in nearly any field as long as you are willing to devote the requisite 10,000 hours to studying and practising the subject or skill. 

When you come across as more knowledgeable, it can come across cocking rather than contributing. Expect a little humble slapping my friend. 

Instead, “learn it until you earn it.”  Continue your learning journey, knowing it will pay off for you. 

I am still fascinated by humans – 14 years later. Even now, as we apply the Demartini Method on abstract and astronomical things, like the sun, the ever-changing ocean, and even a black hole, people are realising that there is greatness inside themselves that brings them to tears. 

I never want to stop learning about humans. Yes, never.

Being a continual learner alleviates any pressure we place on ourselves to be at the top. There isn’t a top. Focus on the journey. 

The problem under the problem

Let’s face it, the expectations of society often push us towards the belief that we need to pretend until we’ve achieved success. Or at the very least, there is an emphasis on being successful. 

However, true accomplishment is not about reaching the pinnacle instantly or maybe not at all. When we are green we are growing, when we are ripe we are rotten. 

It’s about embracing the daily climb and confronting challenges with courage, humility, and perseverance.

Instead of “fake it until you make it,” choose alternative approaches like face it until you ace it and learn it until you earn it, as they emphasize the value of authenticity and a growth mindset.

By embracing these two alternative approaches, you create an environment where genuine growth and progress can flourish, allowing for a truly transformative experience.

Onwards and upwards,

Tanya x

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Maximum Growth

This time of year allows us the opportunity to reflect on our income. And perhaps a step further, our financial future. 

I remember growing up with a friend who owned a major real estate company in Melbourne. I was 10 when I went to her home for the first time. It had so many bedrooms, I was lost inside, a green grass tennis court, and a short stroll to the beach. 

It was sold for $8 million a few years ago. 

Going back home to my middle-class life, at that time, 50% or more of Aussies were much wealthier than my family and enjoyed fancy homes, flashy cars and luxurious lives.

Fast forward some time, the top 10% seemed to be the number that used to describe wealthy Australians. This was usually measured by their net worth. If you were in the top 10% you were doing very nicely thank you very much.

Today, the percentage is shrinking even further, and wealthy people seem to be in the top 1%.

So what does it take to be among the top 1% by net worth?

The amount of money you need to hit a 1% milestone in Australia has doubled in the past 2 years in now sits at 5.5 USD (8.3 million) of net worth.

Well, my childhood friend’s parents, assuming they have other assets would be sitting pretty now, having sold their property at an event 8 mil. 

In Australia, we rank third behind Monaco, Switzerland, New Zealand and the US and require at least 5 million USD.

In Australia, the wealthiest typically have only about 3 homes. Some have commercial properties and shares are the biggest asset holding.

8 million, you say?

Well, not if we move to another country. 

• The top 1% of people in India hold at least $175000 USD or $264000 AUD of wealth
• The top 1% of people in the Philippines it’s $57000 USD or $86000 AUD
• The top 1% of people in Kenya it’s $20000 USD or $30000 AUD,

But not everyone wants to uproot their life and go and live like a king or queen in a foreign country. 

And it depends on what type of lifestyle you want. 

Do you want to go away 3 months of the year around the world, travelling business class or do you want to stay at home and spend it with your family? 

Your spending will have a lot to do with the number. 

So do you want to be in the top 1%?

Or perhaps aim to be in the top 10% for the top 20% or even 40%?

Remember, wealth comes in many different forms. Yes, there is the financial monetary form, and there is wealth from relationship stability, being healthy physically, or strong social bonds and connections.

• Why not reset (or set) your objective?
• What are you working for?
• What is your financial goal? 
• What are your life dreams you’d love to work towards?

Then this time of year, you can check in to see how you are tracking not only financially but all areas of your life. 

Onwards and upwards, 

Tanya x

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Maximum Growth

Tell me what you’re stressed about, and I’ll tell you your illness.

I have your ears pricked up, don’t I?

This intriguing question: “Can the most stressful life events predict future illness?” has captivated researchers and medical professionals for decades. 

In 1967, two researchers named Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe embarked on a groundbreaking study to explore the potential correlation between stress-inducing life events and the likelihood of developing illnesses. 

The outcome of their study was the development of the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, a tool widely used to assess the impact of stress on health. 

Holmes and Rahe’s study involved an extensive analysis of the medical records of over 5,000 patients. Their primary objective was to determine whether there was a clear connection between highly stressful life events and the subsequent development of illnesses. 

To their astonishment, the researchers uncovered a strong correlation. This correlation was so significant that Holmes and Rahe decided to rank the stressful life events they identified on a scale ranging from the most stressful to the least stressful. 

So, what are these life events that the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale takes into account? 

They encompass a range of circumstances that many of us encounter throughout our lives. 

Some examples include 

• Death of a loved one
• Divorce
• Job loss
• Financial difficulties
• Relocation
• Getting married
• Taking a vacation (say what?!? It’s a matter of perspective – haha)

After lots of studies using this metric, researchers have concluded that stress impacts your physiology. 

But you want to know more about your specific stress, don’t you?

Relationship Stress

Studies have linked relationship stress to a higher risk of cardiovascular diseases, weakened immune function, and mental health disorders such as anxiety and depression.

Relationship stress can sometimes manifest as psychosomatic symptoms—physical symptoms that arise from emotional or psychological distress including headaches, digestive issues, muscle tension, or chronic pain.

Financial Stress

The toll of financial stress extends beyond mental health and can manifest in various physical health issues. High levels of stress hormones, such as cortisol, associated with financial strain can lead to elevated blood pressure, weakened immune function, and an increased risk of cardiovascular diseases.

Financial stress often disrupts sleep patterns, leading to difficulties falling asleep, staying asleep, or experiencing restful sleep. Sleep deprivation can have far-reaching consequences such as diabetes and weakened immune system function so you’re more prone to viruses and colds. 

Family Stress

Family stress can significantly impact our mental well-being. Conflicts, strained relationships, and feelings of resentment or obligation can contribute to increased stress levels and emotional distress. This chronic exposure to family stress can lead to conditions such as anxiety and depression.

Home is where you spend a lot of time in, and prolonged exposure to stress hormones, such as cortisol, associated with family stress can lead to elevated blood pressure, weakened immune function, and an increased risk of chronic diseases such as cardiovascular disorders. 

Workplace Stress

Jobs that involve repetitive tasks, poor ergonomics, or physical strain can contribute to the development of musculoskeletal disorders. Workplace stress can exacerbate these conditions by increasing muscle tension and promoting poor posture, leading to issues such as back pain, neck pain, and repetitive strain injuries.

High levels of stress can impair cognitive function, affecting memory, concentration, and decision-making abilities. This can hinder productivity and performance at work, further adding to the stress.

So tell me what you’re stressed about, and I’ll tell you your illness. OK, it’s not a science, but there are potential determinants that impact health. 

Each time you apply the Demartini Method and bring your perceived stressful perceptions into balance, you dissolve your stress and you place your body and mind into homeostasis, and the optimal place for wellness to occur. 

With gratitude,

Tanya x

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Maximum Growth

In one of the lessons in The Power Walkshop, 8 people were standing on a massive hill, overlooking a vast landscape of rolling hills, seeing the ocean off in the distance. 

Yet, as we stood at the top of this hill, each individual had their own perspective of the hill, the view and their life. 

Your perception is the lens through which you view the world. What you perceive is not an objective representation of reality but a construction crafted by your mind. 

And it can distort or illuminate your understanding. 

The hill is a great example of this. 

Everyone had a different perspective of walking up the hill, the view at the top of the hill and if you wanted to go seek another hill or go back down to the plains again. 

The power of perception shapes your understanding and experiences. It acts as both an illuminating force, offering clarity and insight, and a distorting lens that can cloud your judgment. 

Your perception deeply influences how you interpret and interact with the world around you, creating your thoughts and emotions and guiding your actions. 

Your perception is influenced by your past experiences, both positive and negative. 

Memories shape your understanding of the present, creating a framework through which you interpret new information. 

A traumatic event may taint our perception, leading us to see danger where none exists or causing us to perceive threats as more significant than they are. 

So if you have walked a hill before and strained a muscle, you might be a little wary this time. 

On the other hand, perceived positive experiences can foster optimism, colouring your perception with a brighter hue, like summiting your first mountain (and a hill is easily achieved).

Throw into the mix your cognitive biases to further shape your perception, introducing subtle distortions and shortcuts that influence your judgment. 

Confirmation bias, for example, leads you to seek information that supports your existing beliefs while disregarding or downplaying conflicting evidence. AKA “this hill is hard”, and you walk on the squishiest part of the hill and it’s incredibly difficult to walk. 

This bias can lead to a narrow and skewed understanding of the world, reinforcing your preconceived notions and inhibiting your ability to consider alternative perspectives. 

Your perception is not solely an internal process. It is deeply intertwined with your interactions and relationships with others. 

Social dynamics influence your perception, as you are a social being deeply influenced by your social environment. 

Peer pressure (I have to walk the hill – because everyone else is doing it) and societal expectations (I’m on course, I have to walk the hill, and god forbid I should stop halfway) shape your perception, influencing your behaviour and guiding your choices. 

The opinions and judgments of others (I don’t want to let the group down) can have a profound impact on how we perceive ourselves and the world, often leading us to conform or seek approval.

However, it is essential to recognize that our perception is not fixed or immutable. It is malleable and subject to change. 

Through self-reflection and introspection, we can become more aware of our biases, assumptions, and preconceptions. 

That’s what the Demartini Method is doing to your mind, remoulding it, making it malleable by seeking different perspectives and engaging in an internal dialogue with yourself to broaden your understanding and challenge your ingrained perceptions. 

This process of self-reflection allows us to peel away the layers of distortion and create a more accurate view of the world.

In the realm of personal growth and self-discovery, understanding the power of perception liberates us from self-imposed limitations. No hill is too big to summit. 

It invites us to question the narratives we construct about ourselves and the world and create new hills of possibilities. 

By challenging our self-perceptions and expanding our horizons, we can transcend self-imposed barriers and unlock our full potential.

So, as you navigate the labyrinth of perception, remember that your understanding of the next hill you’re about to climb, remember your perception is a reflection of your unique lens. 

As the philosopher William James once wrote:

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

The power of perception shapes our experiences and responses to the challenges we encounter. It reminds us that our perception is not a passive process but an active choice we make in how we interpret and navigate the world.

In every hill we face, whether literal or metaphorical, our perception determines whether we see it as an insurmountable obstacle or an opportunity for growth. It is our ability to choose empowering thoughts and perspectives that enable us to overcome adversity and embrace the journey of self-discovery.

So, as you embark on your next adventure, be it climbing a hill or tackling the hurdles in your life, remember that your perception holds the key to unlocking your true potential. 

With a mind attuned to the transformative power of perception, there are no limits to what you can achieve.

So, take a deep breath, adjust your lens, and let the beauty of your chosen perceptions illuminate your path. 

The hills may rise before you, but by shifting your perception, you will rise above them.

May your perception be a kaleidoscope of wonder, revealing the hidden beauty in every moment.

If you are interested in joining me for the next Power Walkshop, then you can opt-in here. 

Places are limited. 

With gratitude,

Tanya x

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Maximum Growth

Understanding human behaviour is fascinating. 

When you go down the rabbit hole of the mind and people, you’ll find that there is a myriad of factors that influence it. 

There is one principle in psychology that I wanted to share with you that might help you to understand yourself a little more.

It is called multiple determinants, a concept that human behaviour is influenced by the interaction of multiple factors, past and present.

We might become a little rigid or fixated on the concept that we do not see things as they are, we see them as we are, and that our experience is a matter of perception.

But let’s define that as your internal world. 

Our perception of the world is shaped not only by our internal world but also by our external world. The external world includes a multitude of factors that influence our behaviour and interpretations. 

The concept of multiple determinants emphasizes that our behaviour is influenced by biological, psychological, social, and environmental factors. 

These determinants interact to shape our unique perspectives and interpretations of the world. Our biological makeup, cognitive processes, social interactions, and environmental context all contribute to how we perceive and understand our experiences. 

Let’s explore each a little more,

1. Biological Factors: Our genetic makeup, brain structure, and physiological processes significantly impact our behaviour. 
2. Psychological Factors: Our thoughts, emotions, and cognitive processes play a crucial role in understanding behaviour. Our interpretations of events, cognitive biases, and unconscious motivations all contribute to how we perceive and respond to the world around us.
3. Social Factors: The people and social environments we encounter influence our behaviour. Social norms, cultural values, family dynamics, peer pressure, and societal expectations shape our actions, attitudes, and decisions. We are social creatures, and our interactions with others can greatly impact our behaviour.
4. Environmental Factors: Our physical surroundings, including our home, workplace, and community, have a significant influence on our behaviour. Environmental factors such as access to resources, socio-economic conditions, and exposure to stressors can shape our choices and opportunities.

Acknowledging the role of multiple determinants in perception rather than only your inner world perspective encourages you to consider the complexities and influences that contribute to our individual perspectives, leading to a more nuanced understanding of ourselves and the world around us. 

What is even more interesting is that when it comes to solving a program, there is not a single process that will work for everyone. 

If you consider the different variables:

1. Our genetic makeup
2. brain structure,
3. physiological
4. Our thoughts
5. Emotions
6. Cognitive processes (which there are squillions)
7. Interpretations of events
8. Cognitive biases (lots of these)
9. Social environments
10. Social norms 
11. Cultural values
12. Family dynamics
13. Peer pressure
14. Societal expectations
15. Physical surroundings
16. Access to resources
17. Socio-economic conditions

Let’s look at an example

CLIENT A: has financial struggles and has very little income coming through the door.

Client A’s financial struggles and limited income can be understood as a result of various interacting factors. Let’s consider some of the determinants that may contribute to their specific situation:

1. Biological Determinants: Biological factors can play a role in Client A’s financial struggles. For instance, their physical health or disabilities may affect their ability to work and earn income. 
2. Psychological Determinants: Psychological factors can influence how Client A manages their financial situation. Their attitudes, beliefs, and mindset about money, as well as their decision-making processes, financial literacy, and self-control, can impact their ability to generate income, save, or effectively manage their finances.
3. Social Determinants: Social factors play a significant role in Client A’s financial situation. Their social support network, access to educational opportunities, employment prospects, and socio-economic background can affect their income potential. 
4. Environmental Determinants: Environmental factors also contribute to Client A’s financial struggles. The local job market, economic conditions, cost of living, and availability of resources in their community can impact their ability to find employment or generate sufficient income. Additionally, factors such as affordable housing, access to transportation, and the availability of social welfare programs can influence their financial stability.

You’ll often hear me say “Let’s find the problem under the problem.” This is what is in my mind when I am searching for a deeper issue. 

It is important to note that these determinants do not operate in isolation but interact with and influence each other. 

Client A’s limited income might lead to increased stress and mental health challenges (psychological determinant), which in turn could affect their ability to find and maintain employment (social determinant). These determinants work together in a complex manner to shape Client A’s financial situation.

So as you can see, human behaviour is complex and one quest doesn’t fix one problem.

If it was – how easy would it be. 

What is important to remember is our perception is not fixed but is an ever-evolving result of a dynamic interplay between various determinants.

In the classes and coaching sessions, I sometimes hear clients give more weight to their minds and psychological factors of why their life is the way that it is. 

But the list above shows so many factors at play and gives a beautiful demonstration of why human behaviour is complex, and you might find yourself working on the same issue for weeks and months (and let’s face it, sometimes years).

This is because of all the nuances and factors that are at play for the one issue. 

I’d love to open you up to the concept of multiple determinants and their significance in psychology allowing you to have deeper insights into your own behaviour and look at your challenges more broadly. 

So when you are unpacking your challenges, remember the principle of multiple determinants which is that human behaviour is not determined by a single factor (ie your mindset), but rather by a combination of various influences. 

The principle of multiple determinants reminds us that human behaviour is shaped by a multitude of factors, both internal and external, which influence our perceptions and experiences.

It encourages us to move beyond a narrow focus on any single aspect and recognize the intricate interplay of various influences. 

As the philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer once wrote, “Every person takes the limits of their own field of vision for the limits of the world.” 

This quote highlights the inherent subjectivity of our perception. 

It suggests that our understanding of the world is limited to our own unique perspective, influenced by the multiple determinants that shape our thoughts and experiences. 

By embracing the concept of multiple determinants, we become more aware of the diversity of factors that contribute to human behaviour, expanding our understanding of ourselves and the world around us. 

It reminds us to approach others with an open mind, recognizing that their perception of the world is shaped by their own set of determinants. 

Through this awareness, we can cultivate a greater understanding and appreciation for the complexities of human behaviour and the diversity of human experiences.

Inspiring love and connection,

Tanya x

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Maximum Growth

This one is for the business owners and entrepreneurs of the group.

But if you’re not one don’t be phased…

There is some juice in this for you too

Because this game-changing principle

Is applicable to all relationships

Fair exchange.

I know, I know you have heard it before.

But,

It runs deeper than you may think.

It isn’t just dollar for time

It isn’t just product for money

It isn’t just a trade.

When I work with business owners I find an extremely common thought process.

“The exchange that exists at the transaction point is the money for the service”

But this is untrue.

There are many unconscious and conscious exchanges that occur that are either spoken or unspoken.

And in this.

There are many unconscious and conscious expectations that occur that are either spoken or unspoken.

And these unconscious unspoken expectations are the driver of the slowly eroding perception of the value of the product or service.

Both in the eyes of the business owner

And

In the eyes of the client and customers.

Now you might be thinking how…

Well, let me explain.

Within our offers, we have multiple value points.

And for each value point we have an expectation of use.

And if we are unaware of our true expectation for how we want the client to interact with that value point (e.g. FB Group), in the way that provides us the exchange we desire

We end up judging our product or service as “not good enough” and feeling ashamed or guilty about it.

This unconscious unspoken expectation of the client or customer to interact in a certain way with a value point drives the erosion of our perception of the product.

Then leads us to overcompensate to make up for it.

Let me share how I discovered this.

When I first stepped into my coaching business…

I had a weekly community Q+A as a part of signing up for either my group or my 1 to 1
And to utilise this you had to ask questions.

But I barely got any questions, and not many people would show up for them.

So I started to build up resentment towards my clients for not asking questions and not showing up, BUT I also started to feel guilty that I wasn’t providing the value I promised because people weren’t showing up.

And so I started going over on sessions times.

Over-discounting other products

Giving up my boundaries to fill this feeling of it not being enough.

I knew something was off.

And had explored it from many angles

But it wasn’t until I asked myself the question

“At the moment of transaction, what is it that I am expecting from my clients that I have communicated and I haven’t communicated?”

I went through and wrote a list, and then POP…

Like a wave through me,

I felt the resentment and guilt shift.

“I expected them to show up for the lives, add value and be a part of the community”

In exchange for

“The live Q+As, the group and being connected into other like-minded individuals”

But I had never communicated this.

Because it was something I was giving to them as a bonus…

You know ADDING VALUE…

And because I hadn’t communicated the expectations at the transaction point, no one knew I expected it.

I didn’t even know that I had an unspoken unconscious expectation of exchange that I expected to occur for the bonus value.

And so I was getting the feedback of guilt and resentment to awaken me to this.

Once I realised this.

It shifted the entire way I approach all my transactions.

And the entire way I look at my business offers and products.

And the way I get my clients to explore their transactions in business and in their personal relationships.

Making this shift stops the erosion of your service’s worth in your mind and the overcompensation pattern.

And so understanding what you expect for each value add and value point of your service or product is important. 

To maintain the feeling of fair exchange within yourself, with your customers and clients, and with yourself and your business. So you don’t build up resentment and resistance to them.

So I encourage you to explore the questions of Wisdom below.

You will most likely find that you have some unspoken, unconscious expectations eroding yourself, your relationships and your business transactions.

Remember:

The name of the game is fair exchange.

But if you are unaware of what makes it fair for you, you will be out of exchange with those around you. 

QUESTIONS OF WISDOM 

IN BUSINESS

“At the moment of transaction, what is it that I am expecting from my clients that I have, and I haven’t communicated?”

RELATIONSHIPS

“What is it that I expect for what I provide that I have and haven’t communicated?”

Crush Life,

Justin Wiseman

Entrepreneur and Business Owner
Mindset and Business Coach
Demartini Method Facilitator

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My wisdom came at a cost. 

I’ve been through:

+ parents divorcing 

+ not seeing my biological mother for most of my pre-teen & teen years 

+ all kinds of unwanted sexual experiences

+ divorce 

+ physical and mental abuse in a relationship 

+ eating disorders 

+ suicide attempts 

+ panic attacks 

+ death

+ so broke and getting food from the Salvation Army 

+ major depression 

+ self-harming 

+ relationship breakup 

+ relationship breakup 

+ relationship breakup 

+ relationship breakup 

+ relationship breakup (that’s not a glitch – I’m an expert at those)

Oh the trials. 

The tribulations. 

The fire I’ve been in. 

The fire that’s been under me. 

The fire has run through me. 

And yes. It’s created me. 

But it hasn’t been easy. 

I have built bridges, made connections, and worked my arse off to appreciate the underlying hidden perfection (twelve years of a line, on average a week of applying the Demartini Method). 

The insights that have been birthed from these make me appreciate that in the deepest darkness, there is light. 

And that in every moment, there is a purpose. 

Let me say that again, just in case you missed it. 

Every. Single. Moment. Has. Purpose. 

Every seed sits in darkness before it’s birthed. 

Without my darkness, I wouldn’t have the wisdom to share with you. 

If you’re wondering about something you have been through and would love to find the deeper meaning, hit reply, I’m here for you. 

Tanya x

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Maximum Growth

Wrap your mind around this…

Everything around you was once an idea.

Imagined in the mind’s eye of someone else.

Or even imagined and created by you.

Your phone,

Your car,

Your bed,

The clothes you’re wearing,

The home you live in…

Even more powerfully, the life you are living.

I remember when this hit me.

I was staring at a skyscraper,

From the pool deck on our honeymoon in 2016…

“POP”

A tear ran down my cheek.

We can manifest from our mind’s eye, into our reality.

This huge building was once an imagined idea.

That was now standing in reality as a reflection of that individual’s vision for it.

This really blew my mind.

I mean it really really blew my mind.

It was a paradigm shifter…

It made me really grasp the power of being human and the limitlessness of our potential.

To literally be able to imagine an idea,

Build it in our minds,

Then create it into existence.

If you do not grasp the limitless of this power,

Sit for a minute.

Take a few deep breaths and then look around you.

What is man-made that you can see?

This was someone, somewhere, at sometime’s idea.

That you now have these things surrounding you.

Now even more powerfully…..

Take a close, deep, honest look at your life.

What ideas did you have for the life that you now live?

What did you imagine and envision for yourself that you now have?

What was once an idea that is now a reality?

What are you creating right now that was once an idea?

I hope you are starting to grasp the reality of this now…

It isn’t some hocus pocus bullshit.

It’s REAL.

It’s POWERFUL.

It’s what makes us as humans the ultimate creators when we focus on creation.

We literally have the power to create the life we want…

The deep, meaningful, intimate relationship,

The life-altering business,

The high-income,

The wealth,

The new industry changing products.

ALL of it.

You just have to have the courage and the belief in yourself to go after it…

Commit to the creation,

Create a plan,

Start building it.

Take the time to go through the “Questions of Wisdom”. I specifically created it for you to get in touch with your inner creator and increase your belief in this part of you.

Look through your entire lifetime, and you will uncover the magnificence of what you are capable of creating.

QUESTIONS OF WISDOM

What ideas or vision did you have for your life, that your life is now a reflection of?

What did you imagine and envision for yourself that you now have?

What was once an idea that is now a reality for you?
What have you imagined, that you have then created and manifested?

What are you creating right now, that was once in your mind’s eye?

Crush Life,

Justin Wiseman

Entrepreneur and Business Owner
Mindset and Business Coach
Demartini Method Facilitator

“Every morning I wake up and just know that today is going to be just as hard as yesterday. And I’m convinced that tomorrow will not be any different than today. Is this what depression feels like? Because if it is, I’m depressed.” – Client A.

It’s Okay to Not Be Okay.

Yep. It is.  

It’s important to understand that depression can manifest in various ways and doesn’t always fit the stereotypical image we may have in our minds. 

If you believe that depressed people don’t get out of bed, mope around and look sad then you may not recognize the actual signs of depression in others or yourself.

Sometimes, people who are depressed can seem perfectly fine on the surface, which makes it challenging to identify the problem.

Unfortunately, this lack of awareness and understanding can lead to individuals ignoring their symptoms or others dismissing their struggles as simply being moody or seeing the world through a negative perspective. 

This is why it’s important to recognize that depression can come in many forms, and it’s essential to pay attention to the signs that may indicate a problem.

Here are some subtle ways you may be depressed. 

• When you lose sight of what is important to you, you fail to see it as the first step that can lead to depression.
• When you find yourself staring at the ground when you walk rather than out into the world.
• When we feel malaise about life and lose hope for the future. 

5 Signs You’re Ignoring Being Depressed

If someone cannot see that they are depressed, even the most convincing proof will not help them change their mind. Here are some signs you are ignoring your mental health and depression. 

1. You believe and give weight to your internal critic.  
2. You avoid and control your feelings (including feeling sad or down).
3. There is a huge gap between what you want and what you have, or between who you are and who you want to be. 
4. Your thought pattern is on a “struggle cycle,” where you find short-term gratification that doesn’t change once the feeling of gratification has passed. 
5. You have lost your purpose or direction in what is important to you. 

Steps Toward Transformation

If these five signs of depression are showing up in your life, rest assured that you are not alone. And you don’t have to stay on struggle street a moment longer than you choose. 

Maximum Growth was created to help you to get to the root cause of your emotions and help you to find more meaning in your life, which kicks depression in the butt. 

If we can help you in any way, just reach out. 

With love and connection,

Tanya x

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Maximum Growth
P.S. Need mindset support? Private Coaching and Group Coaching are available for you!

I had this idea recently to do a review of my finances with a fine tooth comb. I wanted to know what a year’s worth of anything would cost me.

Opening my bank account on my browser, I begin searching between January 1st and December 31st 2022 on what I spend on various items.

• Personal Development: $46,498
• Health (in getting well again): $9,897
• Travel (not paid by work): $4,388
• Fitness: $2,852

The list was more extensive but it made me reflect on what is a year’s worth of anything.
It’s interesting to see how much I have spent on certain items that I may not have thought of as being that expensive.

For example, my personal development was a large portion of my spending, but I can see the value it has brought me in terms of new skills and knowledge. My coach helped me to see the value I offer in business, build my confidence in my path and purpose.

The return on that investment for the year was 3 fold. I’d invest more again to know I can make a bigger gain. That’s a year’s worth of something highly valuable.
Plus, the return continues as I don’t forget what I learned, I only grow more by learning more. #learningintoearning

On the other hand, my health expenses were unexpected due to being sick and off work for 31 days in the first six months of 2022.
I almost fell off my chair when I saw how many days it was.

It made me realize the importance of taking care of my health and a year’s worth of health is worth. Priceless.
Ok, so not priceless, everything is worth something. For me, it cost me being able to offer my service to the world. And that feels like it affects my soul. #ouch

Lastly, I love to travel. Especially being able to travel with Bonnie and for her to see the world. Time out gave me quality time with family and friends, plus the ability to put perspective on business. With perspective, I can come up with new and innovative ideas.

The idea of having Justin Wiseman to partner with me at Maximum Growth was born from time in Salt Lake City. (Did you miss that news?! Check out this post to learn more).
This exercise of “what is a year’s worth” has made me reflect on my spending habits and what each area that I have spent, and what is the return on that investment.

It has given me a clear picture of what a year’s worth of anything truly costs.
I now know I can set better financial goals for the future with this concept in mind.

I encourage everyone to take a closer look at their own finances and see what a year’s worth of anything is for them.

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

P.S.
Justin and I are doing The Conversation together. The topic is “How To Overcome The Fear Of Failure”. It’s going to be inspiring. Make sure you join us for the two jam-packed sessions by registering here.