Did you know when a percentage can be calculated in reverse?

Example;

1% of 100 = 1%
Or you can do it this way
100% of 1 = 1

Ok, so let’s try that again.

25% of 50 = 12.5%
Or you can do it this way
50% of 25 = 12.5

And again.

20% of 200 = 40%
Or you can do it this way
200% of 20 = 40

Interesting hey?!

So let’s talk about problem solving.

What if there’s another pathway that’s a more efficient and effective way to solve the problem?

• Maybe you’re unaware another road even exists (like calculating %’s in reverse ????)
• Maybe you’re aware but don’t like the road (insert every excuse under the sun not to do maths.
• Maybe you value maths and you can’t wait to try this on random numbers (freak- but I love you ????)
• Maybe you don’t like maths, you scrolled the calculation without really understanding or reading them and said “I don’t understand maths” (AKA “it’s too difficult”)

If the latter is the case, you can do one of three things.

1. Do nothing, sit and stare at the calculation secretly hoping it will solve itself
2. Seek ease by getting a calculator to do the work
3. Avoid doing the work

What all three points have in common is not doing the work that it takes to find the solution.

Each perceives the work is too hard or not worth the time and energy to solve the problem or to know the answer.

Now think of this relative to business problems.

Problems like a lack of clients, trouble scaling your business or difficulties in your personal life affecting business.

Maybe you’re doing it the hard way to find a solution?

A little insight into my inner world as an avid problem solver – it’s such an interesting and inspiring process and the outcome changes the fabric of the way you view everything.

This is because you make connections that spark a cascade of ideas and thoughts that give you a greater awareness (see another road).

You move out of an individualist focus to see the great whole of yourself and your life.

So when a client says “I’m doing more of this and less of that as a result of solving (insert problem)” or “I now know it’s possible to (insert solution)” brings tears to my eyes.

So, can I whisper the secret to more efficient and effective problem solving in your business and life?

You have to value the process and/or a value on the solution itself.

Sometimes we need someone to point out our blind spots or show us a new pathway that we were unaware of to know there is a more efficient and effective way to the outcome we seek.

That is essentially what coaching is for, to show you a new pathway (or road or highway) to get you leveling up in business and heck, in life also.

Hope to see you in class soon.

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

P.S. Keen to join MG Class, click on the link here for more details.

Many people say that the key to success in business is to find your strengths, focus on them, and ignore everything else.

This can also mean knowing your values, and living in your values, and delegating out the rest.

But there are downsides with this mentality.

Although it sounds like a plan and may work to some extent, in my experience, it does not fit the dynamic and complex nature of owning a business.

I’d even go so far as to suggest that focusing on your weaknesses is the fastest way to reach your goals.

I was working with a client last week who is on track to selling their business for triple figure millions.

As their coach I’m not going to praise them for the things they did well, for their strengths.

I will, however, point out the things they can work on, that they are not doing well at, and even avoid altogether.

You see, my client (and I know you do too) understood something that most people don’t, and that it’s not your strengths that will make you stronger.

It’s strengthening your weakness.

I’d seen this week that each week he was avoiding certain tasks that would lead him to the sale of his business, he was doing what was comfortable, not what would generate income or raise the value of the business.

Once he noticed this week he was waaaayyy more productive. He leaned into hard tasks, and did them first.

Then he’d find the next weakest, most uncomfortable task and work on it (a do it now kind of attitude).

And it was this approach that he’ll be taking the daily steps, that over time will compound to achieve his result.

The amazing thing is about these weaknesses, you don’t have to be the one to figure out how to fix it. Instead, it’s about asking WHO can fix this for me (got to love delegating).

So what’s your weakness in business?

And how can Maximum Growth help you with your weaknesses in business?

Whispering secrets in your ear,

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

Executive function describes how we juggle our actions, thoughts, and emotions in our everyday life. It involves working memory, decision-making, self-control, and mental flexibility.

We rely on strong executive functions to stay focused, plan ahead, make connections between ideas, cope with stress and not reach for that block of chocolate hidden in the back of the cupboard!

This part of the brain begins to develop during early childhood through simpler cognitive, physical, emotional, and linguistic processes (like recognizing similarities and differences, identifying their own emotions as well as others, and following directions).

Eventually, children should be able to handle cognitive tasks (e.g. doing simple addition and subtraction) while regulating their emotions (e.g. not have a meltdown when they can’t solve a problem or have what they want).

It’s not only children who are learning how to activate their executive function, manage their emotions, think and plan more into the future, adults are too.

You aren’t born with these skills (nope, it’s not hardwired within us).

You are instead born with the potential to develop them (AKA our natural drive to grow and evolve).

Some people may need more support than others to develop these skills (hands up to being one of them at times. Yes, I put my hand up too).

If you’ve experienced (yes, all in your perception) childhood trauma, not getting what you needed from your relationships with adults, social isolation and other factors that influence stress, your ability to have developed this skill can be delayed or impaired (these disrupt the brain architecture and impair the development of executive centre).

Self-monitoring is the key. It’s the glue that sticks all the executive functions together to help achieve goals and greater independence.

This skill helps us understand our behaviors and how we adjust and make changes in the future.

Self-monitoring can be done by assessing yourself and where you are at in life.

Think of it like a report card which checks in to see how you’re going, what you could be doing more or less to achieve your goals or even how emotionally regulated/unregulated you are (and remember avoidance of feeling anything is unregulated).

Over time you require less check in’s as you have more and more self governance.

Another strategy to develop self monitoring is self talk.

Our brains are powerful and have the capacity to control our behavior based on our thoughts or our internal dialogue.

We all know that sometimes our inner thoughts aren’t productive, but instead are scattered, or easily distracted.

The Demartini Method is a series of questions you can self-talk and you can independently bring your scattered private thoughts into focus, guiding yourself through challenges, resolving emotions and helping you to feel centered to make wise, thought-out decisions.

This is why we hold our Maximum Growth Mindset Classes twice a week throughout the year. It is a way to teach you to check in with yourself, provide scaffolding you need to learn the skill of asking quality questions to bring you (AKA your mind) into greater levels of self-governance.

This then frees your mind to get on with your divine plan, your mission, and take the action steps to fulfil it.

Class starts back again next Tuesday (USA/UK) / Wednesday (AUS/NZ).

Hope to see you on the inside,

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

P.S. Inspired to finally have a date for our Walkshop, 5 days of inner transformation set around the beautiful waters of Sydney. Want to be on the first in the best dressed list? Click here.

You can’t think straight, decisions are waiting to be made, you have no energy to do anything but lay horizontal and stare at yet another NetFlix series for hours. The world nor work doesn’t look so bright anymore, instead it’s a dark lens that appears over everything.

Let’s be real, energy is life, without it, life sucks.

A recent survey of workers across 25 countries, including 1,000 in Australia, found Australian office workers are the most burnt out in the world, ahead of Italy, China, Canada, the US and the UK.

Let’s first define burnout as “a state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed and unable to meet constant demands. As the stress continues, you begin to lose the interest or motivation that led you to take on a certain role in the first place.” Warning signs and symptoms include fatigue, lowered immune system functioning, feelings of failure and self-doubt, isolation, procrastination, and taking frustrations out on others.

More than half of the Australian respondents said they suffered from burnout in the last 12 months, with 52% admitting they’ve taken time off due to mental health concerns during pandemic lockdowns.

The pandemic has taken its toll on society in many ways, on office workers as well as business owners. Many clients I work with have been hustling over the past almost two years, have recorded their biggest and best months and years earnings ever, but, it’s starting to take a toll on them.

They haven’t taken solid time out to reflect or unwind. It’s been a constant sprint in what is now a marathon world crisis.

Hustling is helpful in bursts, but not long term sustainable. Hustling is where your nervous system is heightened, and it feels like we’re ‘on’ most of the time. We’re tuned in to social media, endless emails, our phones are within arms reach, even when we sleep.

Burnout then occurs for many reasons, one of which is when the off switch hasn’t been activated for too long.

And it can become a real challenge to turn ‘off’.

I know so many leaders who struggle to take time off, for some it’s been 5 years since their last break. But it’s not just about holidays, it’s not taking time out everyday.

Clients tell me it’s difficult to find the time to go for a walk or to the gym. It feels like business is so important and won’t be able to function if you step out for a moment.

Remember, when we’re working hard and hustling, we activate our sympathetic nervous system (SNS). This SNS is known as fight-or-flight mode, a state of stress that was designed to see us through life-threatening scenarios.

These days our body cannot tell the difference between life-threating and work-related stress. If you’re under the pump at work, your body naturally falls into this supremely heightened state of stress, preparing you for the worst.

Our body is not designed to sustain in this way long term.

So here you are, hustling like a mofo. And then you hit a wall.

If you’re in the service business, and you’re most like the product and service, hitting the wall isn’t helpful.

In fact, it can stall, even stop your business. Then what do you do when your tank is empty and you’ve got nothing left to give?

You see burnout happens in cycles;

1. Building momentum in business
2. Go all in and give it everything you have and more
3. Feeling imbalance but you ignore yourself and keep on pushing and hustling forward
4. Overwhelm occurs
5. Fatigue sets in because you’re overworked, not focused on other values and forgotten to give to yourself
6. Collapse (but not in a Demartini Method kind of way)

So we can either be PROACTIVE or REACTIVE when it comes to burnout.

1. Acknowledge there is a problem. Yep, super simple but a quick life review around all the areas of life and notice are you surviving or thriving? If there is more surviving then Houston, we have a problem.
2. Make a list of EVERYTHING that isn’t working for you in your life. Doesn’t matter how big or small it is, write all the things that ain’t floating your boat but drowning you instead.
3. Create a plan to either shift your mindset around what isn’t working, ie benefit, benefit, benefit until you love it OR drop or delegate it (no matter what the cost because if not, the cost is you (ie. the product and service, the linchpin in the whole operation)). You’ll be feeling lighter already by this point.
4. Then create an inspiring plan to move forward that lights you up. This is where you’ll see your energy run through you again, maybe as a little trickle to start, and over the coming days and weeks it’ll amp back up again trust me.
5. PLUS, I’m all for leveling up and continued growth and learning. It’s this framework that can break the cycle of burnout (ie – less hustle, more flow) and keeps us inspired about the future and what we are creating.

The point is, you can either wrap your business around your life or your life around your business.

So if you’re on the burnout bandwagon, or just getting back into work from having your well deserved downtime, then consider breaking the cycle. Make 2022 a new evolution of how you do business and your life.

In class, this month, we’ve been creating the ‘Divine Design’ to keep you focused and inspired in creating the thriving life you want to lead. It’s not too late to join like-minded people and gain access to all the templates to create exciting energy to propel your life forward. Take a look here.

With a warm fuzzy full of energy hug,

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

You know those people who do the unthinkable? They bite off more than they can chew and then they chew like Pac-man to make it happen? And it happens?!

Then there are the others, who stare at the plate and freeze. Motionless. So overwhelmed they don’t know where to start?

Do you find yourself as the latter? If so, I have two questions for you:

1. How do the Pac-Man’s of the world do it? (Cause it’s usually not just a combination of hustle, skill and/or talent) and
2. Is being motionless YOUR best path to kicking goals for this year?

People are still surfing the New Year enthusiasm wave right now.

But I’ll bet quietly (in the privacy of their vanity mirror) most of those people are packing their daks at the audacity of some of their goals.

My guidelines for goals are simple:

They are one part scary and one (or more) parts inspiring. That’s not a guarantee of a perfect goal, but it IS a reliable indicator of completion.

That’s what I call, “an elephant”. Because it’s big and beautiful and majestic and usually a little terrifying in the wild. (Your big ol’ brain is the safari in this scenario.)

If you’ve ever tried leaping outside your comfort zone you probably know those feelings.

But what if the terrifying is more than just one part?

What do you do if you’ve set yourself the Big Daddy Elephant of the Herd version of your goal?

You need a strategy, a designed plan for where you’re headed.

And for “eating” elephants… you nibble.

You start with something that feels (and IS) doable… and you build on top of it.

Eventually it snowballs into recognisable progress.

We’ve talked about delayed gratification before. Reaching your dreams one step at a time.

This week’s lesson is about the SIZE of your steps.

SO…

If you feel like you’re biting off more than you can chew this year – or ever – whether launching a complex project, approaching a big name in your industry, finally tackling deep rooted baggage you’ve swept under the rug for decades, etc… then what’s the ONE next step you can take?

In class this week, we took some steps forward towards our goals by writing our Divine Design, and mapping out what we want in our life. But in an elegantly simple way.

What’s your nibble for now?

That small bite you can tear off and chew like mad (and even if you stumble through it, the stakes are low enough you can stumble comfortably).

Because it’s true what they say:

You really can do ANYTHING. Even your very own Maximum Growth Goal.

The only prerequisite is that you keep biting and chewing.

Sure, sometimes it might feel overwhelming.

But consistency is key. It builds more and more momentum over time.

So we have had the gang at Maximum Growth working on their Divine Design, goal setting that aligns with your soul’s calling. And what we have focused on has been keeping it simple.

Nothing more challenging then having the drive the set your goals for 2022 but you’re too overwhelmed to even open your document and know where to start writing and planning/

So tell me – what are you working on?

Sidenote: writing it down and telling someone makes it real. And real is like focusing your binoculars on that elephant – you increase the probability you’ll do it. (We had some very inspiring goals shared in the Business Membership this week, like Yvonne sharing her Northern Star with the class and working towards owning it, owning the space and stepping into her power as a business woman as she purchases her 5th business.)

I’m all about getting you to that next level.

With love,

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

P.S. – no elephants were harmed in the making of this email. Phew.

P.P.S. It’s not too late to complete your Divine Design and achieve your inspiring goals with like-minded people.

Hey life spark,

Isn’t it crazy that we’ll invest in Netflix, holidays & eating out, yet what makes the biggest difference to a more meaningful journey over our lifetime is the thing we invest the least in – our connection with our light and life and sharing our heart with the world.

It’s easy to become distracted; the days, weeks and months can be lost in meaningless tasks or other people’s issues. Too often we are living a life of duty over design, or being swept in the streams of others’ lives, rather than creating our own waves which send ripples through humanity.

My client this week was struggling with that very issue: how to achieve their goals without being distracted by duty, what they are obligated to do for others. They perceived themselves to be living outside of themselves rather than lighting the flame within (and allowing others to do the same).

You’re here because you feel in the depths of your being that you have something more to offer the world. You want to level up, not only your influence but to make an impact (and let’s sprinkle increased income on that too). It is time for a transformation (or a huge life evolution) because if not now? When? And if not you? Who?

Abraham Lincoln stated, “You’re not bound to win, you’re bound to be true. You’re not bound to succeed, you’re bound to live up to the light within you (and the motto we have here at Maximum Growth).”

You are a messenger of light, you come from unconditional love and this is where you will return. The depths of your being knows this love and light.

You are meant to shine. It is your inner nature. It’s not just for a handful of people. It is for everyone. It is within everyone. But sometimes the reality of life gets dark. Really dark. You may feel fragmented into many pieces. You may feel torn down, lost, hollow, even broken. In moments like this, your vision has become clouded and you lose your inner guidance and knowing.

Remember, you are not broken. There is nothing wrong with you (nor right either). You aren’t here to be perfect; you already are. All this you experience has a purpose. It is perfect for your unique mission and voice to share with the world (yes, lost to be found kind of perfection).

The thing is, you’re here for three things in life.

1. You’re here to create.
2. You’re here to know.
3. You’re here to grow.

It’s time to rise from where you are. Imagine yourself like a seed in the darkness, wanting to grow into a big oak tree (or whatever tree takes your fancy).

Maximum Growth is like the inbuilt watering system to help you at all stages of the journey.

Our January classes, “Set The Year 2022“, unleashes your light to make a greater impact on the world.

If you are enrolled in any of the Maximum Growth Memberships (Starter, Business or Coaching Memberships), then these classes are included.

If you are not a member and would like to join us, click here to learn more.

In class we focus on one of the three main purposes you’re here for in life, and that is to create.

You’ll be creating your Divine Design. With a Divine Plan, your life is your own. You can leave your life in others’ hands or move from creature to creator by defining the life you would love to lead.

Napoleon Hill once said ‘create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.’ Your Divine Design is the detailed plan to help you manifest a fulfilling, meaningful and inspired life to help to bring the future into the present and create your vision now.

This is your life, this is your Divine Design.

Come and join other like-minded leaders and create your own Divine Design so that when you open the document, it will bring tears to your eyes.

Looking forward to seeing you in class soon,

With gratitude,

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

P.S. If you can’t join class this month I just have to remind you that you are a messenger of light, you come from unconditional love and this is where you will return. The depths of your being knows light. You aren’t here to be perfect; you already are. The human experience is full of richness, rise and fall, fall and rise with it gracefully, stumbling blocks are your stepping stones for you to teach you more about yourself. You aren’t here to live under someone else’s expectations of you, their judgment of right and wrong, good and bad. You are here to grow. You are here to experience the world, to experience the infinity of divinity through the fininity of humanity, the messy, the clean, the sweaty, salty, dry and sweetness of all that life has to offer. You are here to be beautifully human and to feel is a part of the human experience. Feel with certainty and presence in your mind, gratitude and love in your heart and enthusiasm and inspiration in your body. Shine bright stardust. Tanya x

Subject: Are you hiding?

In session last week with Elizabeth (let’s call her that here), something profound happened that I have to share with you.

She has a dream inside her to be a writer for as long as she can remember. #EatPrayLove but more #CareShareBare(your soul)style.

She has a relatively new coaching business and it’s not financially where she’d like it but it’s growing in income and impact.

With the rising success, her work isn’t what makes her heart sing.

Writing does.

She is met with tones of brain noise in her business. Her internal chatter is so loud it’s distracting and draining her of any creative juices she has inside her.

Now, add an extra layer of complexity to the dynamic and she perceives herself to be behind.

She wants to be further along the success path than she is. So she’s pushing and forcing her business forward.

This means grinding every day out of fear. Her thoughts raced to unknowns; if she dropped the ball, if she didn’t make that sales call; if she didn’t produce content, if she didn’t wake up before 5am, there would be no ball to pick up again and her business would cease to exist.

(oh yeah and not to mention she’s be working on every time zone in the world, trying to be in all places at once like some inconceivable super human).

It’s creating a business out of desperation which leads to deprivation.

Deprivation means the drive to offer your service comes from a feeling of lack, not abundance.

I know too many people in the world who are not doing what they feel called to do and forcing themselves down a path of necessity to get them where they want to go.

They think “I’ll do this to make enough money now to set me up to do the thing I love later.”

What they’re really saying is “I’ll sell my soul for a price today and hope that sometimes in the future I’ll get to do what I love. Maybe.”

Now, if you died tomorrow, you’d die without shining your light on the world.

The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose. Don’t let money blind you on your path.

Some wise words from Steve Jobs, “your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.”

The secret to a fulfilled life is to find out what your purpose is and then follow it.

That means trusting in your soul’s calling and for divine guidance to light the way.

And let the money be the byproduct of the inspired message you’d love to share with the world.

Remember, it is “not how long, but how well you have lived is the main thing.” Seneca.

Circling back to the session with Elizabeth. We are coming close to the end of the session. She is wanting to get more of her creative writing juices flowing so she says “I’ll write every day for an hour at 3pm for one hour.”

Just as she had finished the sentence, Amazon Alexa (a smart home system thingy)pipes up and says “I’ll set an alarm for you at 3pm every day.”

#tearsandgoosebumps!

Seriously, if this was not a moment where the universe was conspiring to make this girl do her purpose, I don’t know what is.

So are you living your purpose? Are you doing what your soul is calling (or screaming) at you to do?

And what needs to shift to level up in 2022 to make a bigger impact with your purpose?

Much love,

 

P.S. So it’s time for me to take a break from coaching and re-energise with my family and pouring over some really cool books I’ve purchased about somatic coaching, trauma, attachment disorders and emotions. We restart MG classes on Wednesday, 13th January. I’ve purchased some really cool books to read over the summer break on somatic coaching, trauma, attachment disorders and emotions.

You can still contact Claire about your membership, or anything MG related. She’ll be around.

P.P.S. If you’re not a member and you’d love to join the 12 hours of planning classes we have coming up, please register your interest here.

I bent a spoon with my mind on Wednesday.

Say what?!

I was given 5 tablespoons at the start of the Quantum Spoon Bending course on Monday.

I gave it my best effort to bend these metal utensils with all my might (so much so I had a vein popping out of my head I was trying so hard) but it did not budge.

They became my friends for three days, hanging with me everywhere I went. I felt connected to them, and even worried about them when I didn’t know where I put them.

Now, let’s get something straight about spoon bending ????.

It isn’t a scene from Carrie, where you look at the spoon, and it twists around in circles.

There is some action by touching the spoon that is required.

The part of bending it with the mind was using these;

• Intention
• Certainty
• Focus
• Energy
• Belief
• And the exponential power of love

Plus you’re in a meditative state too, accessing your higher powered self so that helps to access a greater power too.

Now, over the period of the three days, doubt flooded me. Doubt in the possibility of doing it.

What if I spent all this money and I don’t bend a spoon? Plus, 3 days away from my daughter is a lot for no outcome.

Like we do in Maximum Growth classes, I looked for the problem under the problem. It revealed doubt was a coverup for the drive to excel entangled with a fear of failure.

We have that in everyday life. We doubt if we can make money, grow our business, take a break for a moment and our business survive.

I became comfortable with failure. I realised there is only love (thanks to some divine intervention from a book I found). I owned where I have bent reality in different moments in life.

So, waking up on Wednesday, I felt certainty run through my veins.

We get ready to bend spoons for the first time.

I’m laying down, my spoons on my belly and flowing with the guided meditation.

After a while, I’m instructed to pick up the spoon. Our instructor says over the top of the meditation in a soothing voice, “treat your spoon like your lover.”

“Oh la la… how lucky is this spoon.” (nothing is missing moment, thank you very much universe).

Getting serious, I connected with my spoon, feeling it, being grateful for its existence, then started to feel like it was an extension of myself. I felt an enormous amount of love for this spoon. I began to rub the spoon like I was caressing my own arm.

Over a period of time, I could feel the energy in my fingers transfer to the spoon.

It wasn’t just two fingers, all my fingers felt like they were on fire. I’d touch the spoon in a different spot and the spoon would become hot.

I tried to bend the spoon, but nothing.

This could have been a deflating moment where I doubted I couldn’t do it, but my certainty about doing it outweighs my reality of not feeling it happen.

(that’s a life lesson right there – believing over your current reality!)

I kept talking to the spoon, imagining the particles vibrating with my touch. I kept repeating “bend” and tried again.

Nothing.

My internal cheer squad stepped in now, “Tan, you’ve got this.”

After a few more attempts, I pushed the spoon with some pressure it bent to a right angle and stopped in its tracks.

“Thank you spoon.”

Without hesitation, I picked up the next spoon, ready to go again.

Repeating my internal mantras, my certainty of the possibilities increasing, I attempt to bend the second spoon.

Nothing.

Again.

Nothing.

The third time, there was movement, a little more than last time.

Onto the third spoon.

This one was a little heavier than the first two. I touched this spoon for about 10 seconds and felt drawn to bend.

Without questioning, I touched the tip of the spoon, and this time, it felt as if it was liquid and bent with grace and ease all the way back to the handle in one fluid movement.

Round one is complete and we come out of round one of meditation.

Here is what I learned;

• Even when something is fixed, it can also be flexible given different circumstances.
• Focused energy builds momentum
• And doubt cancels abundance and possibilities

So consider what you doubt as a possibility now?

And what would you like to shift in your mindset to create certainty in your life?

Something to ponder as we step into 2022.

With gratitude,

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

PS. If you’re keen to watch the Ask Me, Anything class, where I explain the spoon bending experience in more detail, click here.

It’s amazing what will distract you during the day.

You set the intention to work. You’re ready and geared to reduce your inbox, create some content, do those admin tasks that have been building up. Today is the day!

Start time approaches.

You’re about to walk to your desk, and you notice the house is a mess. You wonder how it managed to get to this state while picking up after the other family members.

Your focused is on tidying. Your eye catches the pile of dishes in the kitchen that was left from breakfast.

Without even thinking you’re stacking the dishwasher and wiping the benches. Then work pops into your mind. You say to yourself, “I’ll get to it in a minute, I’ll just finish here first.”

You’re 30 minutes behind when you make your way to the office.

Your eyes dart to the piles of papers, the leftover cup from yesterday, little grubby paw prints over your laptop keypad from someone eating something sticky.

#Mydeskismysanctuary… A few choice words to the family member responsible.

You can’t focus on what you have to do without having a clear and clean space to work (deep sigh).

You’ve tried to work in the mess before. But the mess in your environment creeps into your headspace and you can’t seem to collect your thoughts. You’re frustrated at others, you’re upset they don’t think of you and you have to do so much around the house.

Plus, you’re a perfectionist and want things to be ‘just right.’ Your environment has to be perfect, your work perfect, you have to be the perfect spouse, parent, friend.

I know this experience to be true for many people because it’s a common problem that clients who run a business and a household (plus work from home) raise in a session.

As you know your clients can sometimes be a reflection of yourself so I’ll put my hand up to say I’ve focused on cleaning and not working at times (it happens now when I am stressed, some people bite their nails, I clean).

I have dug deep into the depths of mine and others’ internal thinking to understand why.

Here is the top learning that has been the most helpful in transforming this experience.

Life is like a juggling act of priorities. Which thing is more important than another?

You’ll know what’s important by the decisions you make in your life.

Essentially, every point in your life is a decision.

You wake up in the morning. You decide what you’re going to do next. Do you pick up your phone and scroll through social media to see what the world is doing? Do you open your emails to see if any income work came through overnight? Or read your mission statement in your notes? Or channel your pre-2008 life version (no smartphones peeps) and lay there contemplating your day?

8 am comes around and you’re deciding (if you’re in a job or have your own business) what you’re going to do next.

At night when the kids are in bed, you have another decision point. Do you read a book you’ve been contemplating for weeks that sits on your bedside table or Netflix all night? Do you stay up one more hour and watch one more episode because you can’t go to sleep without knowing what happens next? (Which it does for every episode and you say to yourself “I’ll go to sleep earlier tomorrow night”).

Have you ever stopped to contemplate are the decisions you’re making leading you to the goals you have in the future?

Consider it.

Reflect on your last week.

Did you do the things to help move the needle a little closer in the direction you’re aiming for?

Or did the decision distract you?

If it’s not tidying the house that distracts you, maybe it’s something else like mindless scrolling of social media or family/relationship distractions or other people’s problems in business.

Whatever it is for you, you’re the captain here. No one else is making you do anything you don’t want to do with your life.

Remember the quality of your life is determined by the quality of questions you ask and the quality of answers you provide.

You can ask the question at every decision point what is more important right now for my future self?

Is what I’m about to do leading me to where I’d love to grow and go?

If yes, great. Go take a step or a leap forward.

If not, pause. Look at the drawbacks of what you don’t want to be doing. Drawback. Drawback. Drawback. And find the benefit of what you’d like to do instead. Benefit. Benefit. Benefit.

Inch by inch. Day by day. You’ll start to notice that your life is unfolding exactly in the way that you’d love it to be.

Because let’s face it. Do you want to be known for a tidy home or for sharing your light with the world?

Go shine bright stardust.

With gratitude,

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

PS. Feeling a little distracted with low priorities and want to redirect your focus? Keep an eye out next week for our New Years Classes to refocus and create an inspiring 2021.

My first group coaching session as a facilitator 11 years ago was a hot flaming mess.

The truth is, it was so disastrous that I was probably lucky only 3 people showed up to witness the carnage (and one I dragged them to it and made them sit with a ball and chain to do their work – ah the learnings are so palpable).

So crushed at the flop that I turned into that screaming-at-the-top-of-her lungs teen, as she slams her bedroom door energy, “This will NEVER happen to me AGAIN! (while then asking “what’s the goddamn benefits Tanya!)”

I had no understanding of what it meant to run a business.

Actually, the idea of running a business wasn’t even a thought. I wanted to be a coach, not a business owner.

Lordy, was I naïve, or what?!

Cue to today…

Now I’m a little older and wiser (with a lot more grey hairs too).

After 11 years of growing a coaching business, I have realized business is the vehicle for you to express your service to the world. So it’s helpful to love business too.

And I have realized so much more:

• It didn’t matter so much that I’d learned a bunch of new things that I wanted to share with clients.
• It didn’t matter so much that I was getting a lot of shit done.
• It didn’t matter so much that I had a growing base of engaged followers.
• It didn’t matter so much that some of the people on the sidelines wanted and wished me to fail.
• It didn’t matter so much that I didn’t know how to read a profit and loss statement.

It mattered that I sincerely and deeply cared about serving people.

If I show up, if you knew you were being cared for, if you knew you had someone on your team, no matter what, people would talk.

And people talked.

Slowly, the word was out.

And my business grew.

But it isn’t only about others talking about your business. You have to start speaking about what you do to others too.

And can I tell you, from my experience as a coach, and helping people to grow themselves to grow their business, this struggle comes up a lot.

People genuinely find it difficult to talk about what they do. Mainly due to uncertainty about the service they offer.

If you can’t clearly articulate what you do to others, how do they know what they will come to you for? Or how others can refer people to you?

So how do you tackle such a problem?

In our Business Membership Class this week, the group focused on defining your perfect problem.

I thought I’d give you a little peek inside the class because I know you’d benefit greatly from the deep existential questioning.

Many businesses, when developing new products, processes, or just even serving clients, haven’t defined the problems they’re attempting to solve and articulated why those issues are important to the client to solve.

Instead, they create a solution before identifying the problem (this is especially true for coaches as they are solution-outcome focused).

So let’s get a little wisdom with the genius Albert Einstein. He said “If I were given one hour to save the planet, I would spend 59 minutes defining the problem and one minute resolving it.”

Hmm…

It makes you reflect on how much time you’ve spent defining the problem.

So circle back to when I struggled to get bums on seats at my first event. My focus was on getting people in the room. My self-driven focus was gaining experience with my craft.

The focus wasn’t on what problem people faced, how the program could shift or solve the problem for them.

I was essentially wishing clients my way, not working to get them to attend.

So how do you define a perfect problem?

1. Start with brainstorming all the potential problems in your industry, with your clients, with the world and with the ones that stand out, flesh them out a bit more.
2. Write the problem as a problem (not the solution).
3. And just like when you apply the Demartini Method and you’re heart opens when you hit something meaningful, the same thing will happen here too.

If we focus on asking the perfect question/s so that they tackle the perfect problems for our business, mission and life, we create multiple layers of purpose and direction in our business.

So, for example, Maximum Growth, which I founded in 2020 was created because leadership can be a lonely journey, there is a disconnection in relationships with self, family, business, because of a lack of education in how the mind works. There is uncertainty in how to apply and integrate the Demartini Method and universal principles in everyday life.

And one which makes me a little teary is so many people are not living up to the light that is within them (oh you feel that one don’t you).

These perfect problems create the purpose of why you do what you do. It helps to put any first (or 50th) event flop into perspective and focus on solving the bigger problem at hand.

Because remember, your purpose is the driving force of your business.

And let’s face it, you can work out how to read a profit and loss statement along the way.

So what perfect problem/s would you love to dedicate your life to?

With deep pondering thoughts,

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)
Maximum Growth
One on one & group coaching available

Helping leaders to level up using a transformational mindset work.

PS. Come join the Maximum Growth Academy for your opportunity to learn and apply quality questions every week.