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The Power Of Being Held

Studio1 Design on June 11, 2025

For Founders: Healing Is Not a Process, It’s a Presence

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As founders, we are often in our heads.

Solving problems. Running teams. Planning launches. Holding space for everyone else.

Even our own healing becomes something to manage. Another item to analyse, understand, or fix.

But what if healing is not something to work on?

What if it is something to allow?

Back in 2016, I walked the Camino. It was meant to be a reset, a break from the thinking mind.

One afternoon, I was walking alongside a man named Philippe, listening to an audiobook about healing the mother wound.

It described how some wounds are not resolved by insight or awareness.

They are not always healed through words or being seen.

Sometimes, they are healed by being felt.

Not fixed. Not processed. Simply felt.

So I turned to Philippe and said something unusual.

There is an exercise in this book. It is not romantic. It is just about being held.

Would you hold me?

And he said, “I’ll ask my wife.”

The next day, he came back and said, “She said yes.”

Each evening, after our walks, he would hold me.

No fixing. No talking. No advice.

Just a quiet presence.

And something shifted in me.

Something I did not even know was asking to be felt.

As founders, we carry so much.

We get used to bracing.

To being the strong one.

The capable one.

But under the surface, our nervous systems are often asking for softness.

Not solutions.

Presence.

That moment on the Camino reminded me of this.

And years later, when I was pregnant with my daughter, we were choosing names.

I said to Aaron, “What about Bonnie?”

And he said, “I love it.”

Bonnie was Philippe’s wife. The one who said yes. The one who gave permission for a simple act of kindness that I still carry with me.

Sometimes healing is not a breakthrough or a breakthrough strategy.

Sometimes it is in the moment you let yourself soften.

To be held by something. Or someone.

To stop bracing.

To let your system catch up to your soul.

So if you are building something big right now, I invite you to ask:

What part of me is asking to be felt today?

Not fixed.

Felt.

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

The Coaches’ Coach (TCC)

Maximum Growth

The Slow Disconnection From Your Own Light

Studio1 Design on May 28, 2025

You Built It All. So Why Do You Still Feel Like a Fraud?

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You have created a business. You have a reputation, results, and reach.

But instead of feeling settled, you are quietly second-guessing yourself.

There is a part of you that wonders when someone will figure it out.

Not because you are not qualified, but because a gap has opened between your growth and your self-perception.

This is impostor syndrome in founders.

And it often shows up not at the beginning, but when things are already working.

You might be shifting offers, redefining your role, or preparing to lead in a new way.

On the outside, the business is progressing.

On the inside, you feel the pull of uncertainty.

It sounds like:

• “I built this, but I do not feel like I deserve it.”

• “What if it was just timing or luck?”

• “Everyone else seems more confident than I do.”

If this is resonating, you are not alone.

And you are not doing it wrong.

You are simply at a moment where the next version of you is asking to be claimed.

Let us look at a few of the most common narratives I hear from founders and how to shift them.

“I am not the expert anymore.”

You used to feel sharp in your delivery.

Now you are expanding or shifting your message and feel unsure about how you are positioned.

Instead of owning your evolution, you keep measuring yourself against who you used to be.

Try this:

Let your voice reflect where you are now.

The work has changed.

So has your lens.

That does not make you less of an expert.

It makes you a more embodied one.

“Everyone else has more figured out than me.”

You see other founders scaling, building out teams, launching new things.

And even if you are proud of your own work, you find yourself wondering if you are falling behind.

The comparison kicks in.

And so does the contraction.

Try this:

When you notice the comparison, pause. Then look at what you admire.

If you are drawn to it, it likely reflects something already alive in you even if it is still emerging.

Use it as insight, not as a reason to shrink.

“I do not deserve to be here.”

This one is more than surface doubt.

It is a deeper sense that what you built may not last.

You wonder if people will still want what you offer when you stop pushing.

You are not sure if your presence alone is enough.

Try this:

Ask yourself: “What am I tying my worth to?”

Often, it is old definitions of success. Numbers. External validation. Output.

These stories served you when you were starting out.

Now, they need to be updated.

Impostor syndrome in founders is not about a lack of capability.

It is a misalignment between your inner identity and your outer leadership.

And it tends to appear when you are entering a new phase that requires more of your presence, not just your performance.

You do not need to prove yourself.

You need to meet yourself where you are.

You are already doing the work.

Now it is time to let it reflect who you truly are.

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

The Coaches’ Coach (TCC)

Maximum Growth

Last year, I hit a wall

Studio1 Design on May 14, 2025

When the Work You Love Starts to Hurt

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Last year, I hit a wall.

After hours of back-to-back coaching sessions on Zoom, I felt it.

Eyes dry. Body locked. Creativity flat.

The work still mattered.

But something in me had shifted.

What once felt like flow now felt like fatigue.

Coaching has always been a kind of current for me.

Alive. Energising. Clear.

But suddenly, I could not feel it anymore.

The current had dried up.

My Body Woke Up. So Did My Business.

I felt movement in my body and momentum in my thinking.
Ideas landed. Conversations deepened.

Everything felt lighter.

I felt like myself again.

Not because I was doing less.

But because I was doing it differently.

Aligned with what my body and brain needed.

Sustainability Looks Different for Everyone

For me, it was a walking phone call.
For you, it might be a shorter workweek, longer breaks, more space in between meetings, or creative time blocked into your calendar.

It does not need to be a dramatic overhaul.

It only needs to be intentional.

Because your business should never cost you your body.

Your nervous system is not a resource to burn through.

And the way you feel in your work matters just as much as the work you are doing.

Build Around Your Life, Not Over It

As founders, we are taught to structure the business first and figure life out around the edges.

But what if we flipped that?

What if your business were built around how you want to feel, live, move, and show up?

What if your systems served your wellbeing instead of your survival?

What if your calendar supported your nervous system instead of pushing it to the edge?

Small Shifts Create Big Alignment

Sometimes the most powerful changes are not loud.

They do not come with a launch.

They come with a walk.

Or a pause.

Or a boundary.

Or a question.

What do I need to stay connected to myself while I build this?

If you are holding space for others, make sure you are also holding space for you.

Because this is not just about how you work.

It is about how you live.

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

The Coaches’ Coach (TCC)

Maximum Growth

I Want It All (Still)

Studio1 Design on April 30, 2025

Can you really have it all?

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Bonnie is six now.

Six years of cheeky smiles, tangled hair, little hands reaching for mine.

And five years since I began Maximum Growth.

I remember wondering how I could possibly hold all of it:

Running a business.

Consulting privately.

Being a Mum.

Being in a relationship.

Showing up for my friendships.

Looking after myself.

It wasn’t just how I would do it.

It was, “Can I actually hold all of this without something falling apart?”

Secretly, I Wanted It All

Not in the polished, airbrushed way.

But in the real, grounded, present way.

I didn’t want to sacrifice motherhood to lead.

Or silence my ambition to be present at bedtime.

I wanted to live fully inside my values — not rank them.

To be a mother.

A founder.

A student of life.

A woman building something real and meaningful.

Here’s What I’ve Learned

Wanting it all doesn’t mean doing it all.

It means letting go of perfect timelines.

Of what should be done by now.

Of what success has to look like.

If a launch takes 6 months longer because I prioritised my daughter, my health, or a friend in crisis, that’s not a delay.

That’s alignment.

It’s choosing to grow at a pace that honours the whole human I am and not just the part that performs.

Structure Creates Space

I don’t do “balance.”

But I do structure.

Because without it, everything blurs and I disappear into the noise.

So I block out space:

For work.

For movement.

For stillness.

For the people I love.

Because having it all isn’t about pushing harder or squeezing more in.

It’s about doing it with intention.

To the Founder Who Wants More Than Just a Business

Maybe you’re holding multiple identities too.

Builder. Leader. Partner. Parent. Friend. Caregiver.

And maybe there’s a voice inside that says, You have to choose.

That if you slow down for family, your business will suffer.

That if you rest, you’ll lose your edge.

That if you show up fully in one space, another will slip.

But what if the question isn’t, Can I have it all?

What if the real question is:

What does “all” even mean to me now?

And am I willing to shape my business and life around that even if it looks different from the norm?

So, Founder… Do You Still Believe You Can Have It All?

Not the hustle version.

Not the version that costs your peace.

But the version where you’re present in the life you’ve built.

The one where you stop splitting yourself in two just to keep the plates spinning.

If the answer is yes, then I’m walking this with you.

One aligned step at a time.

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

The Coaches’ Coach (TCC)

Maximum Growth

The universe in me, sees the universe in you.

Studio1 Design on April 16, 2025

The YOUniverse: Remembering Who You Are in the Bigger Picture

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As a founder, it’s easy to get caught in the rhythm of doing, building, leading, scaling, solving.

But there comes a moment, usually in a quieter season, where something deeper calls:

What am I really here for?

What story am I shaping, not just for my business, but for my life?

In the intricate dance of creation, you’re not just a leader.

You are a living thread in the greater fabric of existence.

The same atoms that make up your body — hydrogen, oxygen, carbon, and nitrogen — are the very same that once formed stars.

We don’t just live in the universe.

The universe lives in us.

You’re Not Separate from the Work — You Are the Work

Your growth isn’t just strategic — it’s spiritual.

Your legacy isn’t just built through results — it’s written in energy, presence, and alignment.

The concept of the YOUniverse reminds us that the work we do in the world is simply a mirror of who we are becoming.

And when we truly understand that, we stop chasing more and start creating from wholeness.

We move from proving to presence.

From hustling to honouring.

From separation to connection.

5 Principles of the YOUniverse for Founders

1. The Atomic Symphony

You are made of stardust. The story of the cosmos lives in your cells. You are more than a builder — you are a co-creator.

2. Reflections of Unity

The impact you make on others is not separate from who you are. Your leadership echoes the rhythms of how you live, love, and lead.

3. The Cosmic Connection

You don’t create in isolation. Every decision, every pivot, every expansion is part of a larger ripple — within your team, your clients, and the world.

4. Expanding Perspective

The more you see how connected it all is, the more intentional you become. Small choices shape entire trajectories — internally and externally.

5. Embracing Oneness

You are not just running a business. You are the universe expressing itself through form, through function, through your unique frequency.

This Season Is Asking for More of You — Not More From You

As you step into this next chapter, ask yourself:

What if your presence was the strategy?

What if your expansion was energetic first?

What if your deepest work was remembering who you already are?

The YOUniverse is already moving through you.

You don’t need to force it — just tune into it.

Lead from that place.

Create from that place.

Be that place.

Because the most magnetic, impactful version of you… is the one that’s fully aligned with what’s true.

The universe in me sees the universe in you.

And it’s ready for what you’re here to create next.

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)

The Coaches’ Coach (TCC)

Maximum Growth

Your energy isn’t missing

Studio1 Design on April 2, 2025

We would all like boundless energy, right?

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But lately… you’re not feeling it.

You’ve exited the business. You thought this would feel better.
But instead of relief, there’s this strange flatness. You’re free—but you’re tired. Disillusioned. Low on energy, and unsure why.

Where exactly did all your drive go?

There was no change in your diet, no long sleepless nights. Nothing physical explains why you’re so drained.

But then—suddenly—something sparks. You have an idea. A meaningful insight. A moment of clarity.
And just like that, the energy returns.

You feel alive again. Awake.
People even tell you, “You look lighter.”

Where did that come from?

The Truth No One Tells You

You have a deep well of energy inside you. It doesn’t come from caffeine, from sleep, or from ticking off to-dos.

It comes from alignment.

From being open. From staying connected to what’s meaningful.

When you’re open your energy flows freely.

When you’re closed—emotionally guarded, mentally stuck—it gets blocked.

And that’s what post-exit burnout often is: an energetic block.

Not because you’re broken.

But because something deep inside is still unresolved, still protecting, still holding on.

You Don’t Need to Push Through

You need to open back up—gently, safely, wisely.

At Maximum Growth, we live by this:

“You are not bound to succeed—you are bound to live up to the light that is within you.”

That light is still there.

Your energy. Your joy. Your enthusiasm for life.

It’s not gone. It’s just waiting for you to let it flow again.

It’s Time to Heal the Emotional Residue

Come apply the Demartini Method to clear what’s unresolved, release the emotional charges, and restore your vitality from the inside out.

This isn’t about doing more.
It’s about being more open—to joy, to energy, to what’s next.

Because you didn’t exit your business to feel stuck in your own life.

So, let me ask you: Are you stopping your own flow?

With flowing love from my heart to yours,

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)

The Coaches’ Coach (TCC)

Maximum Growth

Discovering Your Purpose: The Path to a Meaningful Life

Studio1 Design on March 19, 2025

Purpose is one of those tricky and sticky things that people struggle with for most of their lives.

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You’ve exited the business.

You have space, freedom, maybe even financial security.

But inside?

There’s a strange restlessness. A low hum of melancholy.

You’re no longer driven by pressure, but you’re also not pulled by purpose.

You might find yourself thinking:

“I have time and money—but no fire inside.”

This is more common than you think.

You’re not broken. You’re not ungrateful.

You’re just in-between identities, waiting to reconnect with meaning.

Where Did Your Fire Go?

That fire that once drove you—the sense of building something bigger than yourself—didn’t disappear.

It just got paused.

Or buried beneath the weight of the last chapter.

You were driven by a mission.

Now, without it, you’re floating.

And the question becomes: What’s worth committing to now?

Ancient Clues from Timeless Thinkers

You’re not the first to ask this question, and you won’t be the last.

Let’s take wisdom from those who walked this path long before us:

The Stoics believed purpose was aligning with nature and reason—trusting what is, and flowing with life’s natural rhythm.

Plato believed purpose was about seeking eternal truth—moving beyond appearances to something deeper, lasting, and real.

Aristotle believed purpose was found in eudaimonia—a flourishing life built on virtue, courage, and contribution.

And at the heart of all three?

Living in alignment with something greater than yourself.

Finding Your Next Purpose Isn’t a Rush Job

Rediscovering purpose post-exit is a process, not a performance.

It doesn’t come from filling time.

It comes from reconnecting to what makes you feel alive again.

Here are a few places to start:

1. Reconnect with what energises you.
What lights you up—even in small moments?

2. Rediscover your natural gifts.
What comes easily to you and still matters, even now?

3. Test and try with intention.
Purpose often reveals itself through doing, not just thinking.
Start small. See what clicks.

You didn’t exit your business to lose your sense of self.

You exited so you could find a new version of it.

This time, built from the inside out.

Here’s to living up to the light within you,

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)

The Coaches’ Coach (TCC)

Maximum Growth

I’ve been really sad post partnership exit

Studio1 Design on March 5, 2025

Life is a series of transformations.

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It calls us to honour what’s true, evolve with integrity, and embrace the changes that come with living in alignment.

Recently, my business partner Justin and I made the decision to part ways—not through conflict, but through clarity. This decision comes from a deep respect for each other’s path and a commitment to what is most authentic for us both.

Justin’s journey is leading him toward more time with family, and I fully honour that. Sometimes, growth means letting go—not because it failed, but because it fulfilled what it came to do.

Not all partnerships are meant to last forever. Some are meant to teach us, shape us, and then release us. And that’s okay.

This shift has reminded me that real growth often asks us to surrender what once fit, but no longer feels right. If we cling too tightly to the familiar, we risk stagnation.

Some people walk beside us for a season. Others for a lifetime. The wisdom is knowing when to hold on—and when to let go.

For me, this has been a deeply personal process. A shedding. A returning.

It’s taken me inward—past the expectations, the structure, the shared plans—and back into myself. It’s asked me to let go of what I thought it had to be, and trust the unfolding of what’s meant to come next.

There have been tears. Long walks. Quiet moments. Sadness for the dream we once shared.

But also stillness.

Because when something falls away and it’s still right, you know it’s truth calling you forward.

Through this, one thing has become clearer than ever:

I love mindset work. I love the Demartini Method. I love coaching.

That fire still burns.

My focus has been on business but my love is the mind behind it all. The personal insights. The deep shifts. The moments that ripple into everything else.

That’s what lights me up.

So, while the form of business may shift, the mission remains clear:

To serve. To coach. To walk with others as they rediscover their fire and realign with who they truly are.

We honour bold decisions. Justin’s choice to step away is just that, a decision that aligns with him, one I deeply respect.

Justin, thank you for being part of this chapter. For challenging, creating, and dreaming alongside me. For the impact you’ve made on this business and this journey.

With love and oodles of gratitude,

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)

The Coaches’ Coach (TCC)

Maximum Growth

Your Voids Are Driving You

Studio1 Design on February 19, 2025

What Feels Missing Might Be What Matters Most

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In the pursuit of building, scaling, and eventually exiting a business, many founders overlook one of the most powerful forces shaping their life and leadership: their voids.

A void is a perceived lack—something that feels like it’s missing. Not in theory, but in your real, lived experience.

And while most people try to hide or ignore these gaps, your voids are actually pointing you toward what you value most.

Why This Matters During Exit

When you’re leading a company, your purpose is often clear. You’re creating. You’re solving. You’re serving.

But in the silence that follows an exit—or even in the lead-up—you may feel something stirring:
A subtle emptiness. A restlessness. A question like:

“What now?”

That feeling?
It’s often a void rising to the surface—asking to be acknowledged.

Your Voids Shape Your Values

Voids are not weaknesses. They are the birthplace of your highest values and most meaningful vision.

A void of stability might lead you to value financial independence.

A void of support might lead you to value leadership and mentorship.

A void of belonging might fuel your desire to build community.

A void of meaning might lead you to seek purpose beyond success.

This is why two founders can exit the same type of business, and go in completely different directions.
Because their voids—and therefore their values—are unique.

What’s Your Void Whispering Now?

As you prepare to exit or reflect on what’s next you may notice a rising desire for:

Freedom (perhaps driven by a past sense of restriction)

Recognition (from a past lack of being seen)

Rest (from years of pressure and chaos)

Legacy (from a fear of being forgotten)

The key is not to judge it. But to listen.

Because your voids aren’t pointing to what you lack—they’re pointing to what you’re here to fulfill.

Vision, Values & the Next Chapter

Your vision post-exit isn’t just about building the next thing.
It’s about honouring who you’ve become and what you’re still being called toward.

When you know the voids that drive your values, you don’t create just for productivity’s sake.
You create from alignment, clarity, and inner authority.

That’s where real purpose lives.

So, Founder…

If you’ve made the decision to exit but feel an internal tension you can’t quite name—
If you’re wondering what you’re supposed to do next, or why you’re not feeling how you thought you would—

It might be time to get curious about your voids.

Because the very thing you feel is missing… might be exactly where your next chapter begins.

With grounded inspiration,

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)

The Coaches’ Coach (TCC)

Maximum Growth

Holding the Vision

Studio1 Design on February 11, 2025

Lately in my one-on-one sessions, a quiet theme has been surfacing — founders seeking alignment with their next vision.

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They’re asking important questions:

Am I building forward in a way that still feels like me?

Am I acting from clarity — or clinging to what used to feel like success?

It got me thinking…

There’s a rare kind of leader — a founder with vision.

Not just a strategic vision for the business, but a deeper one.

One that comes from a place of alignment, not ego.

One that reflects who they’re becoming, not just what they’re building.

This kind of vision isn’t a checklist.

It’s not about chasing one more win.

It’s about truth.

It’s about congruence.

But even the clearest vision can stall when the founder gets stuck on when it needs to happen — and what it must look like.

The Identity Behind the Vision

Seneca once wrote:

“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.”

Many founders I work with aren’t struggling because their vision is too big — but because they’re still trying to shape it from their old identity.

They want certainty. A fixed timeline. Proof that it’s working.

But the truth is, this season isn’t about control.
It’s about trust.

It’s about letting the new vision reflect back to you who you are now — not who you were when you first started this business.

What If Vision Is a Mirror?

The most powerful visions don’t come from pressure. They come from presence.

They ask us to get honest about what’s truly within our control:

• Our values

• Our clarity

• Our actions

Not the timeline.

Not the outcome.

What trips up many visionary founders is the belief that things should happen faster. That they should already be “there.”

But letting go of the timeline often creates space for something more authentic — and more aligned — to unfold.

The Paradox of Vision

To lead through transition, you have to live in the paradox:

• Hold the vision tightly, but release the need to control it.

• Care deeply, but don’t grip it out of fear.

The most grounded founders I know are the ones who trust the work that’s unseen just as much as what’s visible.

Like a tree with deep roots, they know the season may shift, but growth still happens.

From Force to Power

Force burns out even the most brilliant leaders.

Power sustains.

Founders who trust the process move with intention, not urgency.

They understand that time compounds. That clarity deepens. That purpose unfolds.

They don’t need to prove their vision — they just need to keep walking toward it with integrity.

Legacy Isn’t Rushed

If you’re in a season of redefining success, questioning your role, or wondering what’s next — you’re not behind. You’re on the edge of something new.

Your job isn’t to force the outcome.

It’s to keep aligning with who you are becoming, and let that lead what you create next.

Hold the vision.

Let go of the timeline.

And know that you’re building something that will last — because it started with who you really are.

Tanya Cross

Leadership Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator
BAppSoSc (Counselling)

The Coaches’ Coach (TCC)

Maximum Growth