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Life is a series of transformations.
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It calls us to honour our truth, to evolve, and to make the changes that come with it.
Tanya Cross
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In the pursuit of personal and professional growth, many people overlook one of the most powerful forces guiding their lives, their voids.
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A void is the gaps, the perceived lacks, the things you didn’t have in the past or still don’t have now.
Instead, they are the very foundation upon which your values and vision are built.
We have just finished two weeks of The Void Determination Process™ in our Maximum Growth Community.
For me, a new void bubbled up that I hadn’t seen before: the void of relationships.
A void is a deep internal sense of something missing.
Yes, nothing is missing but in our experience of the world, we perceive something is missing.
What is missing is not random but formed through your life experiences, shaping what you seek and prioritise.
For example, I have a void of relationships, and I facilitate (as the value) to build connected and deep relationships with people to fulfil that void.
Your values are formed in direct response to your voids.
Instead of viewing voids as weaknesses, they are shaping your destiny.
What you feel is missing, you strive to fulfil.
This is why no two people have identical values, because everyone has a different set of voids.
A few examples of voids shaping values:
Void of stability → Value of financial independence Void of acceptance → Value of authenticity Void of guidance → Value of leadership Void of connection → Value of community
Knowing your voids will bring you the greatest fulfilment and impact.
Most coaches want to make a difference, they want to impact the world.
Your vision is the natural extension of your values in action.
Knowing your voids that define your values, you can intentionally align them with a purpose-driven vision.
If you value leadership, your vision might involve empowering others through mentorship or building a movement.
If you value financial independence, your vision might involve creating wealth-building strategies for yourself and others.
If you value connection, your vision might involve fostering strong relationships, whether in business or personal life.
Your voids and values create a personal roadmap.
When you create your vision from this place of deep alignment, you experience greater certainty and impact.
Many resist their voids, seeing them as painful reminders of what they lack.
But what if those very voids are your greatest gifts?
They are pointing you toward your unique purpose, shaping what you care about most, and shifting the direction of your life and business.
If you are keen to know your voids, hit me up by responding ‘voids’.
With love and sprinkles of inspiration,
Tanya Cross
Leadership Coach & The Coaches Coach Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator BAppSoSc (Counselling) |
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This week has been a theme of aligned vision in my one-on-one sessions.
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Clients have wanted to make sure that they are taking aligned action to their big vision.
It made me think…
There exists a rare breed of individuals on this planet, the visionaries who see beyond the immediacy of their circumstances, beyond the haze of uncertainty, and into another possibility.
Their vision is not one of fleeting ambition but one that deeply resonates with themselves.
It is not merely about achieving an outcome (tick that one-off-the-list attitude) but being congruent with who they are in what drives them and the present.
But a vision, no matter how grand or clear, is merely a dream without the tethering force of action.
One of my Christmas gifts was Seneca, a series of his writings.
He said, “We suffer more in imagination than in reality.”
Many coaches don’t achieve their vision not because their vision is impossible but because they have doubt, attachment to immediate results, or fear of failure.
Your task is not only to hold the vision but to trust the process.
Even in the face of uncertainty.
Imagine The Vision As A Mirror of the Self
To have a vision is to hold a mirror to the deepest aspects of oneself.
The world is constantly reflecting on you.
We have the ability to use a vision as a path to get to know more of ourselves.
But we must distinguish between what is within our control and what is out of our control.
Our vision, our values, and actions belong to us.
The outcome, the timeline, does not.
One of the greatest enemies of vision is attachment to time.
We become attached to it when it must unfold.
Human beings are wired to seek security and to cling to known outcomes.
Yet, the very nature of vision requires an embrace of the unknown.
When one clings too tightly to how things should be, they resist the organic unfolding of what could be.
There is a paradox in creation:
A vision is like a tree.
It requires roots (values and intention) but must also grow in accordance with the conditions it faces.
The wind may bend its branches, and the seasons may alter its form, but so long as it continues to grow in alignment with its nature, spirit, and the universe, it fulfils its purpose.
Trusting the Process
Trust is not passivity.
It is active.
You master the willingness to engage without needing to control.
The visionary moves forward not with desperate force but with deliberate action.
Think Power Versus Force
They understand that time and effort compound.
The unseen forces of life conspire in favour of those who remain steady in their course.
Can you hold steady even when life becomes bumpy?
What stands in the way becomes the way.
This is not to say that there is no resistance, no moments of doubt.
It’s the internal knowing that your vision is done.
The Legacy of the Visionary
It is not a question of if but when.
The visionary understands that their role is not to force things into being but to continue to align with themselves and their vision.
It takes patience and persistence.
Your job is to hold the vision, trust the process, and continue to work on the unseen to be seen.
Tanya Cross
Leadership Coach & The Coaches Coach Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator BAppSoSc (Counselling) |
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As a coach, the decisions you make shape the direction of your business and influence its growth.
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Every choice, from client interactions to business strategy, influences your success and the results you create for others. And, of course, for yourself.
However, many coaches find themselves caught in cycles of indecision, over-analysis, or hesitation, which stalls progress and can chip away at their worth.
Decisions as Catalysts for Growth
Every decision you make in your coaching business contributes to your long-term evolution. No matter how small or big, they are building or breaking your business.
Whether refining your niche, setting your pricing, or choosing your marketing strategy, decisions act as turning points that determine direction.
Coaches we are working with in Maximum Growth are making decisions around defining your coaching focus, structuring their offers between one-on-one, group coaching, or online programs, pricing their services by balancing affordability with the value of transformation or scaling their business by knowing when to expand, delegate, or pivot.
Clarity in your decisions allows you to build a business that aligns with your identity, your values, and long-term vision
So Why Coaches Struggle with Decisions?
Many coaches hesitate because they fear making mistakes. Which is a catch-22 – because you help others to dissolve their fears… but you get stuck in your own.
Every decision, even indecision, provides feedback that sharpens your clarity and business acumen.
Another factory in why coaches struggle is they naturally seek guidance from mentors, peers, or industry trends.
However, over-reliance on external opinions can create doubt and uncertainty. Too many opinions spoil the broth – Not sure if that is how you use the saying but let’s roll with it.
With endless strategies, methods, and advice available, the pressure to make the ‘perfect’ decision can be overwhelming.
The best decisions come from aligning with who you are.
And then bringing that to the world.
Sometimes, hesitation isn’t about failure, it’s about success.
Bigger decisions lead to greater responsibility, visibility, and challenges.
As we step into February, whether you have big or small decisions to make, every choice is a step forward.
Instead of fearing the weight of decision-making, see it as an opportunity to refine your vision, step into your authority, and align your business with the impact you want to create.
Trust that no decision is final or fatal, only a stepping stone on your journey.
So, what decision will you commit to today?
The future of your coaching practice depends on it.
Tanya Cross
Leadership Coach & The Coaches Coach Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator BAppSoSc (Counselling) |
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It starts so subtly that you barely notice it.
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A small nod of agreement when you want to say no.
A quick “it’s fine” when something doesn’t align with you.
Over time, this way of being becomes ingrained. It feels like it’s who you are.
People-pleasing isn’t just a behaviour; it’s a way of navigating the world.
It can become an almost unconscious need to create harmony, to avoid conflict, or to feel valued.
But where does this need come from, and why does it feel so automatic?
At its core, people-pleasing often stems from the dynamics of early relationships.
As children, we are highly attuned to the emotional cues of those around us.
A warm smile for compliance or a cold shoulder for defiance teaches us, little by little, how to adapt.
Over time, these adaptations become strategies, ways to maintain connections, to feel safe, and to ensure acceptance.
But what happens when those strategies start impacting your life?
You notice you are agreeing to commitments we don’t have time for.
You say yes when you mean no.
Silencing our true feelings to keep the peace.
Or bending over backward to meet expectations, even at the expense of our own needs.
It can feel rewarding at the moment, a fleeting sense of approval, a momentary relief from tension.
But the cost is often a quiet erosion of self.
This pattern thrives on subtle reinforcement.
A compliment for being “so easygoing.”
Praise for being “reliable.”
These words can feel like validation, yet they also tether us further to the label of the one who says yes, the one who never complains, the one who makes it all okay.
And yet, internally, there’s often a sense of exhaustion, frustration, or even resentment.
The more we give away parts of ourselves, the more distant we can feel from our true selves.
It’s a cycle that can leave you wanting to reclaim your identity.
People-pleasing isn’t a flaw; it’s a response, one that was likely learned for a reason.
And life is more about unlearning and relearning.
Tanya Cross
Leadership Coach & The Coaches Coach Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator BAppSoSc (Counselling) |
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Responsibility can feel like a banner we raise to prove our care and capability.
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For many coaches and business owners, it becomes a core part of their identity, a way to prove their worth or maintain a sense of control in their lives.
But what happens when the weight of responsibility becomes overwhelming, when it spills over from one area of life into another, leaving little room to breathe?
I recently worked with someone whose sense of responsibility stretched across their entire life.
It began in their family. They felt a deep obligation to take care of their wider family, often putting their needs aside to ensure everyone else was okay.
As daily life grew, the sense of responsibility grew too.
This pattern extended into their work, where they felt responsible not only for their tasks but also for the outcomes of their employees, their clients and the client’s results.
What drives this sense of responsibility?
It often starts in childhood, where certain roles are adopted in response to the dynamics within a family.
For some, it’s about earning love (not the higher universal love – but the societal version of love) or approval; for others, it’s about maintaining peace or avoiding conflict.
This sense of responsibility becomes a way to feel safe, valued, or connected.
Over time, it can harden into a habit, an automatic way of operating in relationships and environments.
In adulthood, these patterns can blur the boundaries between what is ours to carry and what isn’t.
Someone might take on more than their share in a relationship, believing it’s their job to keep things running smoothly. At work, they might feel personally accountable for results beyond their control.
The line between helping and over-functioning becomes harder to see, especially when their identity is tied to being ‘the responsible one.’
This dynamic isn’t random.
It’s deeply connected to how we’ve learned to connect with others.
For some, the belief that they must give more, do more, or be more to maintain relationships or prove their worth becomes a guiding principle.
Others find themselves trapped in the inability to say no, driven by a fear of rejection, judgment, or the thought of disappointing those around them.
In many cases, giving, doing, and being more feel essential to feeling secure or valued in relationships.
Over time, this can lead to a blurred sense of boundaries, where overextending oneself feels like the only way to maintain acceptance or connection.
For others, the struggle lies in the discomfort of setting limits, as the worry of how they might be perceived looms large.
In many ways, responsibility often carries an undertone of self-blame or assigning blame to others.
It can be a quiet, internal narrative where the weight of not being enough takes centre stage.
This is when the whip comes out, not in the literal sense, but as an unrelenting mental self-punishment.
It’s the voice that tells you that you’re falling short, the inner critic that keeps you tied to a cycle of over-functioning and self-doubt.
The drive to be responsible isn’t just about doing what’s right, and it’s often tied to a deeper story, one that connects self-worth with the ability to carry the weight of the world.
But at what cost?
In the end, responsibility is a complex dynamic. It impacts how we show up in the world and how we relate to others, but it can also bind us in patterns of overextension and self-criticism.
Responsibility isn’t inherently a burden, but when it becomes entangled with self-worth or the need to prove something, it can transform into a heavy, unrelenting weight that shapes our actions and sense of self.
Understanding this complexity offers you an opportunity to question not only what we carry but why we feel the need to carry it.
Tanya Cross
Leadership Coach & The Coaches Coach Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator BAppSoSc (Counselling) |
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Last night, I had the privilege of seeing Hamilton with a friend. (Did I mention I’m a bit of a stage show enthusiast?)
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It’s more than a musical—it’s a masterpiece. Hamilton is a powerful reminder of the fleeting nature of time and the stories we leave behind.
Twenty-five years ago, I stood at a crossroads. Should I stay in Melbourne, in a comfortable job, or take a leap into the unknown and move to Queensland?
Here’s what I know.
Tanya Cross
Leadership Coach & The Coaches Coach Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator BAppSoSc (Counselling) |
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I have a question for you—and I’d love a true answer.
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On a scale of 1-10, how satisfied are you with your business right now?
Let me know because I’d love to have a 1:1 chat about where you’re at and how we can move things forward together.
You probably know by now that I’ve built my private coaching business to multi 6 figures – —and I’ve done it while working less than 25 hours a week and without posting on social media in over three years.
But none of this happened overnight, and I certainly wasn’t born knowing how to make it work.
It took years of learning, trial and error, investing in coaches and courses, making mistakes, and—most importantly—showing up even when it wasn’t easy. And trust me, it wasn’t easy. Far from it. There were times when I felt stuck, unsure, and overwhelmed. Let me share some of the roadblocks I hit along the way:
It wasn’t until I realised these were just limiting beliefs that things began to change. I had to start treating my business like a real business, not just a side project or hobby. Because the truth is, if you treat it like a hobby, it stays a hobby.
Henry Ford said it best: “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”
Eventually, I made the decision to believe that success was possible for me—and I took action. And that action made all the difference.
Action pushes fear aside. It gives you clarity. And here’s the key: You don’t need to feel confident before you show up—you build confidence by showing up.
If I had waited for everything to be perfect, I would have missed out on some of the most incredible experiences of my life. Things like:
I want you to know that I’m right here on the other side of this email, ready to support you.
What’s your biggest challenge right now? Where are you feeling stuck?
Let’s talk about what’s holding you back—and, more importantly, how we can unlock your next level of success.
You have your own unique version of success waiting for you, and I’d love to help you get there.
Let’s make this happen together!
Tanya Cross
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We are coming up to the end of the year, and you might be thinking… I want a break.
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But clients sign up, and you have to work.
As coaches, our primary goal is to empower our clients to achieve their goals and unlock their potential (or whatever it is for you).
However, without clear boundaries, you risk becoming overextended, leading to burnout, and you can diminish your professional effectiveness and credibility. Not to mention, the lack of clear limits can intrude into personal time, leading to stress and dissatisfaction.
Boundaries serve as a structure to maintain a balance between supporting our clients and ourselves.
We all have a love to serve…. And difficulty saying no to people when they need you.
Boundaries can be thought of as the invisible lines that define the limits of what is ok and what is not ok. Can’t you dissolve your emotional charge and everything be ok?!
There are still behaviours, actions, and interactions in any relationship, including the coaching relationship, that you will or won’t want.
Boundaries include time, personal space, communication, confidentiality, and the scope of the coaching relationship.
In our coaching journey, various factors can blur the lines of our boundaries, making it challenging to maintain clarity and integrity as a coach.
External pressures, such as expectations of how many clients, what to charge, what not to charge, and societal expectations of how much you should and shouldn’t work, which may impose unrealistic demands and expectations on our time and energy, leading us to overextend ourselves in an effort to meet perceived obligations. AKA at the loss of self.
If there are personal insecurities or a desire to please others, it can cloud our judgment, causing us to compromise our boundaries in favour of seeking approval or avoiding conflict.
It’s essential to recognise these factors and explore how they influence our boundary-setting process, allowing us to identify and address potential triggers or vulnerabilities.
Establishing clear boundaries begins with a deep understanding of our own needs, values, and limitations as coaches.
Take the time to reflect on what is personally meaningful to you and where you draw the line in terms of your time, energy, and emotional investment.
What are your boundaries in specific terms, covering areas such as scheduling, communication protocols, confidentiality, and your role as a coach?
By defining your boundaries with clarity and precision, you create a roadmap for navigating the complexities of coaching relationships while honouring your own well-being and professional integrity.
Not knowing our boundaries often stems from a lack of awareness of our own needs.
As coaches, we may prioritise the needs of our clients above our own, believing that self-sacrifice is synonymous with being of service.
However, neglecting our own needs only leads to resentment, exhaustion, and, ultimately, burnout. It’s essential to recognise that honouring our own needs is not selfish but necessary for our well-being and sustainability as coaches.
So know it is ok to create and maintain coaching boundaries over the next month.
Make sure you manage expectations by communicating with your clients. Let them know you’ll be away so they are informed.
And then, the time comes to practice those boundaries when a client rings and wants an emergency session on the 28th of December.
Tanya Cross
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Are you sick of needing problems to motivate you to get the work done?
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