Procastinate

Yeah, you put things off, more than you’d like. And your list piles up on top of you. 

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Your reaction: go make another cup of tea and watch the end of a TV Series (that you just started and have hours to go to get to the end).

Let’s go make another cup of tea and watch the end of a TV Series (that you just started and have hours to go to get to the end).

Procrastination eats you alive. 

English writer Edward Young, in his 10,000-line poem entitled: The Complaint: or Night-Thoughts on Life, Death, & Immortality, said, “Procrastination is the thief of time.”

It makes you think about being wise with your time, as life and opportunities can slip away quickly.

But that doesn’t change your behaviour. 

The inaction of procrastination is something most people dislike, even going as far as ‘hate’ about themselves. And if they had a magic wand, they’d want it to disappear yesterday. 

Why do people dislike it so much? 

It’s because it has a behavioural spillover that affects other areas of life. 

Procrastinate by not doing your work, then you lay in bed Netflixing, you then don’t move your body, you eat more than your daily quota, and you don’t get your brain thinking. Instead, other people do the thinking for you with whatever you’re watching on Netflix, and it ain’t universal principles; it’s fantasies and fairytales. 

Then, the culmination of all of that is that you feel you wasted time and, even more so, your potential. 

What does it mean to procrastinate?

It’s intentionally and habitually delaying or putting off doing something till a later time. 

People procrastinate because of many reasons, such as those listed below:

  1. The task is too long/complicated/boring/not important/just don’t like it.
  2. They prefer to choose to do their own seemingly pleasurable activities.
  3. They are too over-confident and cocky and believe that they have enough time or competency to complete the task.
  4. They have a ‘care less’ attitude and believe that nothing will happen if they don’t do their work and that people or relationships won’t be affected.
  5. They procrastinate due to nothing else but pure laziness.

So, if you look at the problem under the problem, you’ll see procrastination is the byproduct of something deeper. 

You’re not thinking about the future self (check out the post on that one here).

And you’re not able to regulate your mood, like feeling stressed around a piece of work you have to do, and you choose to avoid it, act like it doesn’t exist, knowing full well that it is still there when you peek up over the blanket later. 

When you’re able to regulate your mood, you draw the connection between present and future selves and are more able to make wiser decisions. 

When you’re on a downward, negative spiral, expect procrastination to continue. (create a paragraph here) Procrastination is an antidote that doesn’t deliver relief. I gotta give it to you straight. 

Yet, before we go down the doom and gloom path, like anything, there is an upside to procrastination. Some people prefer time pressure and, therefore, intentionally procrastinate. They have a rush of excitement to get it done in a short period of time and feel accomplished. 

Yet, if we delve deeper into this, it could be pride and self-righteousness in feeling smart that leaves to do the task at the last minute. (Soz for seeing the down side so quickly). 

Now, this is the opposite of people who procrastinate, which means doing the task way before it needs to be. This could be because of feeling self wrongeuous, sacred of failure and worried about making mistakes.

Studies on procrastination have determined that those who procrastinate are easily distracted by more interesting or fun activities. They’d prefer to seek pleasure than do the hard yards. 

They intentionally place more pleasing activities ahead of appointments or deadlines. 

Plus, procrastinating individuals tend to sleep, watch television, or play instead of working on more important things in order to distract or distance themselves from responsibilities. 

The more you dislike a task, the more you’ll procrastinate and tend to choose more interesting activities instead of working.

Distracting oneself from responsibilities also gives “an out” if one fails at that task. It means you don’t have to go through the pain of failure, just the pain of never starting. 

For example, if you have an extremely difficult task, like setting up a new business, writing a book, or doing prep work for a new and challenging client,  and you’re afraid of failing, you can protect self-worth or self-esteem by giving an outside excuse or external distracter for failing. 

Thus, distraction with another activity, blaming failure on said activity. “I was too busy helping the kids, and I didn’t have time to work.”  

Therefore, a unique characteristic of procrastinators is that they tend to immerse themselves in distractions.

So, how do you snap out of this illusion?

  1. Stack up the benefits of what you’d like to do until you’re chomping at the bits to do it. 
  2. Say a new mantra, “I have a do it done now attitude” and see things shift. 

That’s it for now. I’ve got some Demartini Method application content creation to do for the Maximum Growth Academy that I’ve used every excuse in the book, even had Bonnie get sick, but “I have a do it done now attitude.”

No time like the present.

Tanya x

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

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Have You Heard Of Peter Pan Syndrome?

Have you heard of Peter Pan Syndrome?

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It’s when individuals struggle to mature emotionally and mentally in certain areas of their lives despite growing physically and chronologically.

 

Imagine an individual who excels in their career, perhaps growing a business or even climbing the corporate ladder.

 

On the surface, they appear successful, dedicated, and driven.

 

However, beneath this façade of accomplishment lies a reluctance to fully embrace the responsibilities and challenges that come with adult career life…

 

While they may excel in their specific job tasks, they struggle with broader aspects of professional maturity, such as taking initiative, leadership, or adapting to new roles or environments.

 

This individual may resist stepping out of their comfort zone or taking on additional responsibilities, preferring the safety and familiarity of their current position.

 

As a result, despite outward signs of success, they may find themselves stagnating in their career growth, unable or unwilling to pursue opportunities for advancement or personal development.

 

This is also known as Arrested Development.

 

This phenomenon manifests in various aspects, such as relationships, responsibilities, and emotional regulations.

 

Here’s an overview of why it happens and how it manifests:

    1. Developmental Trauma: Early life experiences, such as trauma, neglect, or inconsistent caregiving, can disrupt normal emotional and psychological development. These experiences may create a sense of insecurity or fear, leading individuals to avoid emotional intimacy or responsibility as a way to protect themselves.
    2. Overprotective Parenting: Sometimes, overprotective or indulgent parenting can hinder a child’s ability to develop independence and autonomy. These individuals may have grown accustomed to having their needs met without having to take responsibility for themselves, leading to a reluctance to face adult challenges.
    3. Fear of Failure or Rejection: Some individuals may fear failure or rejection in adult roles or relationships, leading them to avoid situations that could trigger these fears. As a result, they may cling to behaviours or interests associated with childhood as a way to avoid facing these anxieties.
    4. Spouse Financially Taking Care Of You: Some individuals may become reliant on their partner to fulfil their financial needs, allowing them to avoid taking responsibility for themselves. This dependence can reinforce a sense of immaturity or reliance on others, inhibiting their ability to develop independence and autonomy.
    5. Cultural Factors: Societal norms and expectations can also influence the development of Peter Pan Syndrome. In cultures that prioritize youthfulness or where there is a lack of clear rites of passage into adulthood, individuals may feel less pressure to mature and may prolong behaviours associated with adolescence or childhood.
    6. Coping Mechanisms: For some individuals, arrested development serves as a coping mechanism for dealing with stress, anxiety, or other mental health issues. Engaging in activities or behaviours associated with childhood may provide temporary relief from adult responsibilities or emotional distress.

There are many factors that influence Peter Pan Syndrome. It’s a complex interplay of psychological, developmental, and environmental factors that can impede individuals’ ability to fully mature and navigate adulthood effectively.

 

Why do you want to be aware of Peter Pan Syndrome?

 

If we are not willing to lean into the responsibility that comes with creating and growing a business, it will be the growth ceiling that keeps us in the status quo.

 

If you avoid adult responsibilities such as financial management.

 

For some people, there can be a part that doesn’t want to let go of things associated with childhood, such as video games.

 

There can be a reluctance to confront or address personal issues or challenges, instead preferring to escape or avoid them.

 

Which may be why some people struggle to move forward because they are attached to the past.

 

Human behaviour is complex, and understanding the psychological concepts that impact an individual will help you provide valuable insights into not only your own life but those you work with.

 

By recognizing the underlying factors that contribute to certain behaviours or patterns, we can better understand why people think, feel, and act the way they do.

 

This understanding enables you to find the problem under the problem and heal with a deeper awareness.

Tanya x

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

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This Concept Affects Your Life

“[Man] is always becoming a new being and undergoing a process of loss and reparation, which affects his soul as well. No man’s character, habits, opinions, desires, pleasures, pains, and fears remain the same; new ones come into existence, and old ones disappear.”

Heraclitus

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Human beings are never static.

Yes, never.

Our pleasures, pains, and fears are in a state of transformation.

Even our opinions, thoughts and desires.

It is the reality of your human psychology.

You know this because your brain is malleable, continually influenced by new experiences and learning.

You can change habits, learn new skills, and adapt to new environments, no matter who you are, your age, or your life experience.

If life is continually transforming, why are there times in life when it is hard to change?

This is the paradox of life.

We are biologically equipped to adapt and evolve. Our brains have neuroplasticity.

But yet we have a resistance to change. Despite this inherent adaptability, we, at times, don’t want to change.

We seek stability and predictability over uncertainty.

We desire a sense of safety and security.

We want to cling to our current identities even if they’re not who we want to be anymore, fearing that change could lead to loss or uncertainty.

Biologically, our brains conserve energy by relying on established neural pathways, making the formation of new paths—which is necessary for change—more energy-intensive and initially challenging.

And we don’t have the energy to change.

Why, if we are naturally predisposed to change, do we often find it so hard to do?

One part is loss aversion.

Loss aversion is a psychological phenomenon. It is the tendency for people to prefer avoiding losses to acquiring equivalent gains.

The theory suggests that the pain of losing is psychologically more impactful than the pleasure of gaining the same amount.

As loss looms larger in the mind, larger than gains, it affects business and life.

A client springs to mind, they have great income in their current business, and to move into a new version of business, there is the pain of losing the current income, but they aren’t seeing the fullfilment on the other side.

The perception of loss aversion can lead individuals to make choices that avoid losses rather than optimise for potential gains.

Imagine it to be like…

The influence of loss aversion extends beyond economics; it plays a significant role in areas such as risk assessment, politics, and health-related decision-making.

Understanding this bias helps explain why people might act irrationally when faced with potential losses, even when those losses are hypothetical or the gains could outweigh them.

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Dare You Not To Do This

It’s hard to believe that four years have passed since I led the team at the Breakthrough Experience.

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Looking back, I’m amazed at the journey we’ve all been on—investing in our own growth, building businesses, and navigating the complexities of life.

 

For me, this journey also involved raising a little one as a single mum, which added a whole new dimension to the adventure.

 

One thing I’ve realised is that true growth often comes from moments of challenge and deep reflection.

 

We never really see how far we’ve come until we pause and look back at the winding path we’ve travelled.

 

It’s like hiking up a mountain—sometimes the climb is tough, but when you reach a viewpoint and see how far you’ve come, it’s a new perspective.

 

I’ve been thinking a lot about authenticity and the importance of being true to ourselves.

 

We are here to “Become who you are” (Thanks Nietzsche).

 

Especially in business and as a coach.

 

When we build our business around our identity, when we bring our unique story to the marketplace, we create something that no one else can replicate.

There’s no competition when you’re true to yourself because no one else has your story, your perspective, or your voice.

 

In our journey, it’s easy to get caught up in what others are doing. Social media, industry trends, and external pressures can make us feel like we need to conform or compete.

But here’s the truth: the most impactful ideas and the most profound contributions come from within. When we focus on being our authentic selves, we create something truly original and transformative.

I have been geeking out on Søren Kierkegaard’s work lately, and something I came across has stuck in my mind.

 

“To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. Not to dare is to lose oneself.”

 

I read it and welled up with tears.

 

“To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. Not to dare is to lose oneself.”

 

It takes courage to stay true to our path, even when it’s difficult. Even when it feels like the whole world is against you.

 

It’s in those daring moments that we find our true strength and our most authentic selves.

 

Your greatest contribution to the world is to be yourself.

 

In a world that often emphasises competition and financial success, it’s easy to get caught up in chasing a quick buck.

 

But here’s the thing—when you pursue something that isn’t aligned with your true purpose, it rarely brings lasting fulfilment.

 

Instead, it can lead to burnout, dissatisfaction, and a sense of emptiness.

 

Focusing on service is where the real magic happens.

 

When you dedicate yourself to serving others, you tap into a deeper sense of purpose. You begin to realise that your unique experiences, perspectives, and ideas are exactly what the world needs.

 

By helping others, you not only contribute to their growth and transformation, but you also find meaning in your own life.

 

Trust that you can be paid for doing what is purposeful to you. This might seem counterintuitive in a society that often values quick financial gains, but it’s a profound truth.

Build a business that you love, not that you want to burn to the ground.

 

People are naturally drawn to authenticity and inspiration. They can sense when someone is truly dedicated to their craft and committed to making a difference.

 

Think about the people who inspire you the most. Chances are, they are individuals who have stayed true to themselves, even in the face of adversity.

 

They didn’t follow the crowd or compromise their values for short-term gains.

 

Instead, they focused on their mission and trusted that their dedication would pay off in the long run.

 

Financial rewards become a byproduct of the value you create rather than the primary goal.

 

So, don’t get distracted by what others are doing or how much money they’re making.

 

Stay focused on your journey and your mission…

 

Be patient.

 

Be persistent.

 

Be purposeful.

 

The world needs your unique contributions, and there is no one else who can do what you do.

 

With gratitude and love,

 

Tanya x

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