I have a question for you—and I’d love a true answer. 

 

On a scale of 1-10, how satisfied are you with your business right now? 

 

Let me know because I’d love to have a 1:1 chat about where you’re at and how we can move things forward together.

 

You probably know by now that I’ve built my private coaching business to multi 6 figures – —and I’ve done it while working less than 25 hours a week and without posting on social media in over three years. 

 

But none of this happened overnight, and I certainly wasn’t born knowing how to make it work.

 

It took years of learning, trial and error, investing in coaches and courses, making mistakes, and—most importantly—showing up even when it wasn’t easy. And trust me, it wasn’t easy. Far from it. There were times when I felt stuck, unsure, and overwhelmed. Let me share some of the roadblocks I hit along the way:

 

• I put off launching for months because it wasn’t “perfect.”
• I stayed quiet, worried about what friends and family would think.
• When I finally launched… there was nothing but crickets. 🦗
• I told myself I didn’t have the time to figure out SEO, funnels, or systems.
• I wasted hours tweaking my website and branding, chasing perfection instead of focusing on the bigger picture.
• I held back from investing in myself, thinking I had to wait until I was making money first.

 

It wasn’t until I realised these were just limiting beliefs that things began to change. I had to start treating my business like a real business, not just a side project or hobby. Because the truth is, if you treat it like a hobby, it stays a hobby.

 

Henry Ford said it best: “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”

 

Eventually, I made the decision to believe that success was possible for me—and I took action. And that action made all the difference.

 

Action pushes fear aside. It gives you clarity. And here’s the key: You don’t need to feel confident before you show up—you build confidence by showing up.

 

If I had waited for everything to be perfect, I would have missed out on some of the most incredible experiences of my life. Things like:

 

• Paying the mortgage on my dream home—our modern farmhouse.
• Having the freedom to spend time with my family every day, on my schedule.
• Taking walks with my brother or meeting a friend for lunch, without needing permission from anyone.
• Prioritizing self-care with therapy, acupuncture, massages, and coaching—because I have the time and resources to do it.
• Working from the comfort of my couch, in my pajamas, because I run the show and make the rules.

 

I want you to know that I’m right here on the other side of this email, ready to support you. 

 

What’s your biggest challenge right now? Where are you feeling stuck? 

 

Let’s talk about what’s holding you back—and, more importantly, how we can unlock your next level of success. 

 

You have your own unique version of success waiting for you, and I’d love to help you get there.

 

Let’s make this happen together!

 

Tanya Cross

 

We are coming up to the end of the year, and you might be thinking… I want a break.

 

But clients sign up, and you have to work. 

 

As coaches, our primary goal is to empower our clients to achieve their goals and unlock their potential (or whatever it is for you).

 

However, without clear boundaries, you risk becoming overextended, leading to burnout, and you can diminish your professional effectiveness and credibility. Not to mention, the lack of clear limits can intrude into personal time, leading to stress and dissatisfaction.

 

Boundaries serve as a structure to maintain a balance between supporting our clients and ourselves. 

 

We all have a love to serve…. And difficulty saying no to people when they need you.

 

Boundaries can be thought of as the invisible lines that define the limits of what is ok and what is not ok.
 

Can’t you dissolve your emotional charge and everything be ok?!

 

There are still behaviours, actions, and interactions in any relationship, including the coaching relationship, that you will or won’t want. 

 

Boundaries include time, personal space, communication, confidentiality, and the scope of the coaching relationship. 

 

In our coaching journey, various factors can blur the lines of our boundaries, making it challenging to maintain clarity and integrity as a coach.

 

External pressures, such as expectations of how many clients, what to charge, what not to charge, and societal expectations of how much you should and shouldn’t work, which may impose unrealistic demands and expectations on our time and energy, leading us to overextend ourselves in an effort to meet perceived obligations. AKA at the loss of self. 

 

If there are personal insecurities or a desire to please others, it can cloud our judgment, causing us to compromise our boundaries in favour of seeking approval or avoiding conflict. 

 

It’s essential to recognise these factors and explore how they influence our boundary-setting process, allowing us to identify and address potential triggers or vulnerabilities.

 

Establishing clear boundaries begins with a deep understanding of our own needs, values, and limitations as coaches. 

 

Take the time to reflect on what is personally meaningful to you and where you draw the line in terms of your time, energy, and emotional investment. 

 

What are your boundaries in specific terms, covering areas such as scheduling, communication protocols, confidentiality, and your role as a coach? 

 

By defining your boundaries with clarity and precision, you create a roadmap for navigating the complexities of coaching relationships while honouring your own well-being and professional integrity.

 

Not knowing our boundaries often stems from a lack of awareness of our own needs. 

 

As coaches, we may prioritise the needs of our clients above our own, believing that self-sacrifice is synonymous with being of service. 

 

However, neglecting our own needs only leads to resentment, exhaustion, and, ultimately, burnout. It’s essential to recognise that honouring our own needs is not selfish but necessary for our well-being and sustainability as coaches.

 

So know it is ok to create and maintain coaching boundaries over the next month. 

 

Make sure you manage expectations by communicating with your clients. Let them know you’ll be away so they are informed. 

 

And then, the time comes to practice those boundaries when a client rings and wants an emergency session on the 28th of December.

 

Tanya Cross