Follow Your Knowing

This week I have been on the hunt to find a theme song for my life. 

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One that really encompasses where I am and where I am going. It’s to add to my Divine Design PowerPoint slideshow of what I’d love to create in my business and life. 

 

(It’s kind of like a moving image that plays for my future every morning before I start work for the day.)

 

I came across this Sam Smith song.

 

“how I see myself with you

I don’t say a word

……

And look in my eye

You are perfection

My only direction

It’s fire on fire

It’s fire on fire.

……

But then we love and feel the truth.”

 

I had rolling goosebumps throughout the song. No, not all of it moves me, but some lines like “You are perfection” do it for me every time—waves of goosies rolling through my body. 

 

Now, I get that for you, it might not be the case with this song, and these words. 

 

For you, it’s more likely to be a different song or scene of a movie as we have different things that will move us. 

 

These connected emotional states involve goosebumps.

 

So why do you get goosebumps?

 

OK, let’s get our geek on. 

 

The technical term is cutis anserine (‘cutis’ means skin, and ‘anser’ means goose) or piloerection (probably not going to use that word again). 

 

Now, let’s get clear, there are three types of goosebumps. This is how I’ve named them, and they’re not scientific-technical names by any means.

 

  • The ‘cold’ goosebumps, the ones you get when you’re physiologically cold.
  • The ‘chilli’ goosebumps—the ones that cause a cold shiver down your spine—usually occur with a perception of social disgust and fear. 
  • The ‘soul’ gives goosebumps with an experience of awe. This usually occurs with an integration, alignment, or truth being told.

 

The common experience of goosebumps is the ‘chilli’ ones you get when you feel cold and your hairs stand on end. This reaction is great for animals because all of their hair stands on end, they look bigger and scarier to their predator. For us humans, it helps to create a buffer between your skin and the cool air keeping you a little warmer. 

 

Evolutionarily speaking, that came in handing pre-clothing days to keep our bodies warmer and is still serving that purpose now. (except for those people who lasered their arm hair – they’re now realising the downside. #deepsigh).

 

Let’s go a little deeper. 

 

There are involuntary muscles just under the skin that activate the sympathetic nervous system, also known as the fight, flight, or fright response when experiencing a highly emotional state. When the muscle is contracted, it makes your hair stand upright and gives you goosebumps. 

 

The goosebumps I’m referring to are the ones you get when watching a movie, hearing a speech, or reading a passage from a book. It moves you in a deep way and gives you goosebumps.

 

This feeling of being moved or touched can be accompanied by tears, goosebumps, and sensations of warmth in the centre of the chest or heart plexus. 

 

This experience is described in Sanskrit as kama muta, a feeling of oneness, of love or union. 

 

One particular framework for emotional experiences labelled as moving is the concept of kama muta. Kama muta theory involves sudden increases in closeness and community that evoke a distinctive positive social-relational emotion.

 

This emotion is often accompanied by tears, goosebumps, and feelings of warmth in the chest, and people often use terms such as “moving,” “touching,” or “heartwarming.”

 

The goosebumps you’ll experience in Maximum Growth classes, living life and doing “the work” are the soul goosebumps. 

 

There are more nuances to why these goosies happen and scientific research is still debating about why we experience these types of goosebumps.

 

What they do know about goosebumps after studying brain images is that they activate certain brain structures, such as the amygdala (the centre for emotions, emotional behaviour, and motivation) and prefrontal cortex (cognitive control functions). 

 

I can tell you from my experience that I’ve been writing down my goosebumps moments since 2009. Not every one of them, but a large sample to see what is common to what my soul is saying.

 

There are some messages in there that are profound statements, like things to do with universal truths, setting a big, crazy goal and achieving it, and receiving a payment from a client with the transaction name being “lifesaver.” 

 

When we align our soul’s messages with a business and lead, magic happens. You’ll feel purposeful and that you’re walking the path that you are destined to walk. Every day, you feel like you get paid to be you and do the things you love most. 

 

So, open a new Word document, and start generating your list of goosies. 

 

Love to hear what is revealed to you. Do you require changing direction in business? Or are you on the perfect path for your soul’s calling?

 

Here’s to hearing the whispering in your ear from your soul,

 

Tanya “following my knowing” x

 

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

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3 Lessons From My Hike

Last Wednesday night, at 12 am, I crawled up the last three flights of stairs, dragging myself into my apartment. 

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My Lululemon pants are collecting a white, powdery substance as my knees scrape against the concrete floor. 

 

How did it come to this point, you wonder?

 

I didn’t have to wonder—I had been pondering, finding meaning in the mystery for days. 

 

It was my first time off. No business, clients, family, or obligations. Just all the things that would fill my own cup in a long time. 

 

I had planned a trip, booked flights, arranged accommodation, and even convinced a friend to come with me. The Great Ocean Walk, stretching 104 kilometres from Apollo Bay to the Twelve Apostles in Victoria, was our destination.

 

Imagine Antarctic winter winds thrashing the coastline and rain that doesn’t fall softly from the sky but needles down at a 45-degree angle. It’s not for the faint-hearted. 

 

I embarked on this journey with the intention of doing my own Power Walkshop—to uncover my power and purpose, just for me. 

 

But as I started walking, it became evident that, despite my efforts to stop and savour the moments, this wouldn’t follow the Power Walkshop lessons. 

 

The walk had its own lessons instead. 

 

Day one was filled with rainbows. One rainbow that arched from one side of the land to another, a double rainbow, a waterfall rainbow. So many that I lost count. 

 

It was like walking in a magical land, with no reception (except enough to get one Whatsapp message come through on my friend’s phone from her mum: “Trump was shot – and he’s ok”).

 

LESSON ONE: The beauty of the rainbows reminded me that sometimes, the most magical experiences happen when we least expect them. But you need a little challenge – with the rain, and support with the sun to see them. 

 

Things shifted to another level on the second day. The day was meant for 25mls of rain and 42km winds, and the anticipation kept me up at night.  

 

The wind and rain seemed to echo my inner turmoil, and I found myself questioning everything in my life: Who am I, what am I doing, where am I going, and what is really truly important? 

 

As we walked in the inclement weather, it was interesting that we often found ourselves on the path between bushes, with the wind howling around us and the rain coming in sideways but missing landing on us.

 

LESSON TWO: I realised that it was the perfection of knowing ‘the work’, which I feel is a beautiful symbol of being in the eye of the storm in the outside world, but internally, I am centred and calm. I can endure so much on the outside, but keep on walking. 

 

By the third day, my body had said, ‘enough.’ You must rest. I had a recapped blister the size of Tasmania and as red as a ripe cherry, throbbing with each step.

 

I could have had to push on through the pain like I had seen when walking the Camino in Spain. Many walked through their suffering and soldiered on. 

 

But I didn’t feel that was my lesson.

 

LESSON THREE: The lesson was that sometimes stopping is a form of success, and sometimes not finishing is the wisest decision. Sometimes, you have to say no to get what you truly need.

 

On the third and fourth days, while my friend hiked on her own, I sat in solitude to find myself. 

 

BONUS LESSON ONE: I reflected on my word for the year, which was ‘Emerge”. I felt like I was doing ok to emerge from my cocoon but I worried about being exposed.

 

My red, raw, and exposed wound was a sign that it was time for me to own it and be okay with whatever was said about me. Just as my foot would heal, any wounds I might perceive from emerging into the big wide would, in time, heal, too.

 

As I crawled up the stairs to my apartment, covered in the residue of the journey, I realized something profound.

 

BONUS LESSON TWO: If I were to run a Power Walkshop and either myself or someone else was injured, if they couldn’t complete the hike, staying in the apartment would bring its own profound learnings, perfect for them.  Because it was in the struggle and the solitude that brought moments of clarity. 

 

It was in the appreciation of my life and the understanding that every step, no matter how painful, was part of my path.

 

If you are interested in attending the Power Walkshop in 2025, register for the waitlist here

 

With love,

Tanya

Leadership Coach & Master Certified Demartini Method Facilitator

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Maximum Growth

 

 

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