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The Leader Who Cannot Stop Watching

Tanya Cross on June 17, 2026

The leader who cannot stop watching did not arrive here by accident, and the cost of the vigilance is rarely where they expect to find it.

You are meant to be off. A holiday. A weekend. A late evening with nothing required of you. The work is in capable hands. And your hand is on your phone.

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And yet you check the inbox anyway. You glance at the dashboard. You send the text that did not need sending. You call it responsibility. Your body calls it something else. The shoulders have not come down. You are technically away and you are not present.

This is not a workload problem. It is a trade. I call it the Humanity Trade, and this version has a name. Presence for Control. So you gave up presence for control. The ability to be where you are, traded for the ability to watch what you built. The watching became so habitual you stopped noticing you were doing it.

The Watching Is Not the Problem. What It Confirms Is.

Of course, you did not become vigilant by accident. You have decades of evidence that your attention is what kept things from going wrong. After all, early on, that was accurate. The structure was fragile. It needed a set of eyes that did not blink, so you became those eyes, and it worked. The working is exactly why it will not stop.

The attachment is not to the watching itself. It is to what the watching confirms. That the structure is safe. Stopping does not feel like rest. It feels like the precise moment something breaks. So the scanning continues even when nothing needs preventing, because to stop is to find out whether what you built is as fragile as your attention has been assuming. Because most leaders would sooner stay tired than run that test.

What the Vigilance Has Cost

There is a low hum of alertness that does not switch off. The leader on holiday whose nervous system never made the trip. The sleep that does not repair, because the body is still on duty. This is Borrowed Vitality. The alertness that once protected the business is now drawn straight from your reserves, at interest, and the bill arrives as a fatigue no holiday touches.

However, the second cost is quieter and more expensive. Your family has stopped expecting you to be present even when you are in the room. They adjusted to the half here version of you. They stopped asking for the full version. And that is not them giving up on you. That is them being accurate about what you have been available to give.

What It Looks Like When the Watching Stops

Picture the holiday you actually arrive on. The phone in another room and no pull toward it. You sleep without scanning. Rest that is rejuvenating. In fact, the dinner is the dinner, not a gap between checks. The structure and the processes you built are doing the job you built them to do, and you are doing something other than guarding it. Your body experiences off as off. That is a leader who trusts what they built.

But this does not come from discipline. You cannot discipline your way out of vigilance, because the vigilance is load bearing. It is holding up a belief, not running a habit. The work is to dissolve the belief, not to suppress the behaviour. I call this Strategic Dissolution, and the method is precise.

The Evidence That Loosens the Grip

You go back to the evidence you have never credited. The week you were sick and the team handled it. The holiday where you did unplug and nothing collapsed. The decision you did not make, that someone else made well. And yet that proof is already on the record. You have never allowed it to count. Instead, restoring it is what loosens the grip, because the watching was never an expression of fragility. It was an expression of care, and responsibility, and protection. Those values do not need the watching. They have another channel. Trust in what you have built. Ultimately, the values stay. The vigilance becomes a tool you pick up selectively, instead of a current that never switches off.

So here is the question. Is it time to stop watching? The watching has felt like the thing keeping it all upright. It may be the thing keeping you from discovering that what you built can stand on its own without you.

If the vigilance has become the pattern and you are ready to find out what your leadership looks like without it running, book a 15-minute Strategy Call and explore what shifts when you stop watching and start trusting what you built.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

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Exhaustion That Sleep Does Not Fix

Tanya Cross on May 19, 2026

Exhaustion that sleep does not fix often has nothing to do with the body, and most industry leaders have felt it without being able to name it.

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There is a kind of exhaustion that sleep does not touch.

You know the one. You get enough hours. You take the break. You come back from the holiday. And within a day or two, you are right back where you started. That underlying flatness that sits below the level of what you would call a problem.

Most leaders medicalise it or optimise it. Better sleep protocols. Earlier mornings. Different supplements. Another productivity system.

But if the exhaustion does not resolve with rest, the cause is almost certainly not physical. It is more likely a form of exhaustion rooted in identity.

What Sits Underneath the Pattern

Most leaders still label it “burnout.”

What I consistently see underneath this pattern is the energy cost of identity maintenance.

When you keep showing up as an older identity, the one that built your current results, even though something in you has already evolved past it, you end up living in a split.

A split between your public self and your private self.

You are speaking in clean strategy and certainty, while internally you feel numb, or quietly done. That is leadership fatigue at its most invisible.

That gap does not break you overnight. It creates a leak. A quiet, constant tax that drains your vitality over time.

The Source of Identity Exhaustion

You are not exhausted by what you are doing. You are exhausted by who you have to be in order to keep doing it.

The leaders who resolve this are not the ones who take better holidays. They are the ones willing to do the harder, quieter work of asking whether the identity they are performing still belongs to them, and what it would take to update it. That is the work of resolving leadership fatigue.

What Shifts When the Gap Closes

The update is not a reinvention. It is a more honest alignment between who you have been, and who matters now.

When that gap closes, the exhaustion lifts. And the energy that returns is different in quality. The work stops feeling like maintenance and starts feeling like expression.

That is what Maximum Simplicity feels like. It is available to you through a clearer sense of self, and the willingness to align your business and life to that truth.

If that pattern of exhaustion is familiar, it is worth a closer look. Book a 45-minute Strategy Call and explore what shifts when you stop performing an identity that no longer fits.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

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The Power Of Being Held

Tanya Cross on June 11, 2025

The power of being held is not something most founders talk about, yet it is one of the most profound shifts available to anyone willing to stop bracing.

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As founders, we are often in our heads.

Solving problems. Running teams. Planning launches. Holding space for everyone else.

In fact, even our own healing becomes something to manage. Another item to analyse, understand, or fix.

However, what if healing is not something to work on?

What if it is something to allow?

A Lesson on the Camino

Back in 2016, I walked the Camino. I planned it as a reset, a break from the thinking mind.

Then one afternoon, I was walking alongside a man named Philippe, listening to an audiobook about healing the mother wound.

It described how insight or awareness does not resolve some wounds.

Words or recognition do not heal them either.

Instead, they heal when you feel them.

No fixing, no processing, simply feeling.

So I turned to Philippe and said something unusual.

There is an exercise in this book. It is not romantic. It is about letting someone hold you.

Would you hold me?

And he said, “I’ll ask my wife.”

Then the next day, he came back and said, ‘She said yes.’

And so, each evening, after our walks, he would hold me.

No fixing. No talking. No advice.

Just a quiet presence.

And as a result, something shifted in me. That is the power of being held.

A weight I did not even know I was carrying.

The Power of Being Held as a Founder

As founders, we carry so much.

In turn, we get used to bracing. To being the strong one. The capable one.

Yet under the surface, our nervous systems are often asking for softness.

Not solutions. Instead, presence.

In fact, that moment on the Camino reminded me of this.

And years later, when I was pregnant with my daughter, we were choosing names.

I said to Aaron, “What about Bonnie?”

And he said, “I love it.”

Bonnie was Philippe’s wife. The one who said yes. The one who gave permission for a simple act of kindness that I still carry with me.

What Happens When You Stop Bracing

Healing is not a breakthrough or a breakthrough strategy.

Rather, it is in the moment you let yourself soften.

To be held by something. Or someone.

To stop bracing.

To let your system catch up to your soul.

So if you are building something big right now, I invite you to ask:

What part of me is asking me to feel today?

Feel it. Do not fix it.

If part of you is asking you to feel rather than fix, that is a conversation worth having. Book a 45-minute Strategy Call and explore what the power of being held could shift for you.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

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Last Year, I Hit a Wall

Tanya Cross on May 14, 2025

When you hit a wall in the middle of the work you love, the signal is not about effort. It is about alignment.

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When I Hit a Wall

Last year, I hit a wall.

After hours of back-to-back coaching sessions on Zoom, I felt it.

Eyes dry, body locked, creativity flat.

The work still mattered.

But something in me had shifted. My nervous system was sending a signal I had been overriding.

What once felt like flow now felt like fatigue.

Coaching has been a kind of current for me. Alive, energising, clear.

But suddenly, I could not feel it anymore.

The current had dried up. I had hit a wall I could not push through.

My Body Woke Up. So Did My Business.

I felt movement in my body and momentum in my thinking.

Ideas landed. Conversations deepened.

In fact, everything felt lighter.

I felt like myself again.

Not because I was doing less. But because I was doing it differently.

Aligned with what my body and brain needed. That is what happens when you stop pushing past the wall and start listening to it.

A Sustainable Business Looks Different for Everyone

For me, it was a walking phone call.

For you, it might be a shorter workweek, longer breaks, more space in between meetings, or creative time blocked into your calendar.

It does not need to be a dramatic overhaul.

It only needs to be intentional.

Because your business should not cost you your body.

Your nervous system is not a resource to burn through.

And the way you feel in your work matters as much as the work you are doing.

Build Around Your Life, Not Over It

As founders, we are taught to structure the business first and figure life out around the edges.

However, what if we flipped that?

What if your business were built around how you want to feel, live, move, and show up?

What if your systems served your wellbeing instead of your survival?

What if your calendar supported your nervous system instead of pushing it to the edge?

Small Shifts Create Big Alignment

Sometimes the most powerful changes are not loud.

They do not come with a launch. Rather, they come with a walk, a pause, a boundary, or a question.

What do I need to stay connected to myself while I build this? That is the foundation of a sustainable business.

If you are holding space for others, make sure you are also holding space for you.

Because this is not about how you work. It is about how you live.

If you have hit a wall and the work you love has started to cost your body, that is not a time problem. It is a design problem. Book a 45-minute Strategy Call and explore what shifts when you stop building over your life and start building around it.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

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Your Energy Is Not Missing

Tanya Cross on April 2, 2025

Your energy is not a resource problem. It is an alignment signal, and most leaders do not recognise that until the flatness has already settled in.

We would all like boundless energy, right?

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But lately, you are not feeling it.

You have exited the business. You thought this would feel better.

But instead of relief, there is a strange flatness. You are free, yet you are tired. Disillusioned. Low on energy, and unsure why.

Where did your drive go?

There was no change in your diet, no long sleepless nights. There is no physical explanation for why you are so drained.

But then, something sparks. You have an idea. A meaningful insight. A moment of clarity.

And as a result, the energy returns.

You feel alive again. Awake.

People even tell you, “You look lighter.”

Where did that come from?

The Truth About Your Energy

You have a deep well of energy inside you. It does not come from caffeine, from sleep, or from ticking off to-dos.

It comes from alignment.

From being open. From staying connected to what is meaningful.

When you are open, your energy flows freely.

However, when you close down (emotionally guarded, mentally stuck) it blocks

And that is what post-exit burnout often is: an energetic block.

Not because you are broken.

But because something deep inside has not yet resolved, still protecting, still holding on.

You Do Not Need to Push Through

Instead, you need to open back up: gently, safely, wisely.

There is a principle worth remembering: you are not bound to succeed. You are bound to live up to the light that is within you.

That light is still there.

Your energy. Your joy. Your enthusiasm for life.

It is not gone. It is waiting for you to let it flow again.

What Opens When You Stop Blocking

The invitation is not to do more. Rather, it is to open to what you have been holding too tightly. To clear what you have not yet resolved, release the emotional charge, and restore your vitality from the inside out.

Because this is not about doing more. It is about being more open: to joy, to energy, to what is next.

Because you did not exit your business to feel stuck in your own life.

If the energy has flattened and you cannot explain why, the block is not physical. It is structural. Book a 45-minute Strategy Call and explore what opens when you stop pushing and start listening.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

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Avoid The Halloween Panic

Tanya Cross on October 30, 2024

The Halloween panic is not about costumes and candy. It is about what happens when a leader’s nervous system starts running the business.

End-of-month. End-of-year energy. A calendar full of “urgent.”

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And suddenly it can feel like your business is wearing a costume. As a result, everything looks louder than it is.

Requests feel bigger. Problems feel sharper. Your nervous system starts scanning for what might jump out next.

That is the Halloween panic. Not the fun kind. The founder kind. The one that turns a normal week into reactive leadership.

Here Is What I Want You to Know

Panic is not a strategy. Rather, it is a signal.

A signal that your system has slipped into fight or flight, and your decisions are about to become short-term.

And short-term decisions are expensive. They cost you margin. They cost you clarity. They cost you presence.

The Trap Is That Panic Feels Productive

It feels like “I am on it.”

But often it is manual override. Instead, you start fixing problems that do not need fixing. You start replying to messages that could wait. You start making changes that create more complexity.

Consequently, the leader disappears into the noise.

How to Avoid the Halloween Panic

In practice, it comes down to four shifts.

1. Name what is a fact and what is a story.

“Two clients asked for changes” is a fact. “I am losing momentum” is a story.

2. Choose the one lever that matters.

When everything feels urgent, choose one outcome for the next 24 hours. Not ten. One.

3. Slow down enough to lead.

Speed is helpful when the direction is clear. Speed is dangerous when the direction is fear. That is reactive leadership.

4. Protect your boundaries before you need them.

If you wait until you are overwhelmed, the boundary will come out sideways. With resentment. With sharpness. With exhaustion. Panic without boundaries costs more than the crisis itself.

The Clarity-First Reframe

You do not need to react to everything. Rather, you need to respond to what matters.

That is leadership.

So if you feel the panic rising this week, take it as a cue. First, pause. Then breathe. Ask: what would a calm, clear leader do next?

Then do that.

If the panic has become the pattern and you are ready to lead from clarity instead of reactivity, book a 15-minute Strategy Call and explore what shifts when your nervous system stops running the business.

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Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

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Navigating Change When the Layers Compound

Tanya Cross on September 24, 2024

Navigating change is part of leadership. But when multiple layers of your life shift at once, the stress does not stack. It amplifies.

I have been reflecting on the past three and a half years and what a journey it has been.

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During this time, I started a second business, bought two investment properties, navigated the end of a long-term relationship, and became a single mum. I also sold a portion of one company, entered into a business partnership, and handled a major direction change in that business, all while continuing to grow my consulting practice. And through most of it, I was raising a toddler who is now in the first year of school.

Looking back, these were not isolated personal changes. They happened during one of the most globally stressful periods in recent memory. Navigating change on that many fronts at once is a different kind of demand.

When Personal and Global Stress Collide

The financial challenges we face as individuals can be demanding enough on their own. But when they compound with global crises or a recession, the weight shifts.

This kind of stress is not additive. It is amplified. Personal stressors blend with larger global pressures, and suddenly the load feels disproportionate.

Financial pressure, for example, activates the brain’s fight, flight, or freeze response, flooding the system with cortisol and adrenaline. This is a natural reaction to immediate threats. However, when paired with global uncertainties like a pandemic or economic downturn, the stress response can go into overdrive. And you feel that in your body.

We saw this in 2020 when people across the world became more anxious, isolated, and unsure of their futures. The global nature of those challenges created an unprecedented sense of uncertainty, making existing financial stress feel insurmountable.

What Amplified Stress Does to Decision-Making

It is not a matter of facing double the stress. Research in psychology and behavioural economics shows that financial stress impairs decision-making and problem-solving abilities, creating a cycle that feeds on itself.

A study published in Psychological Science found that financial insecurity can cause a cognitive load that leads to poorer financial choices, which only increases the pressure. The compounded pressure makes clear thinking almost impossible at that point. Those who were already under financial strain experienced heightened anxiety and depression when a global crisis hit, especially if they felt powerless over their personal or global circumstances.

Navigating Change at the Identity Level

Beyond the psychological toll, amplified stress can challenge a leader’s identity and sense of self-worth, especially when self-worth has become entangled with financial performance.

Financial pressure often challenges how we see ourselves, questioning our competence and our capacity. When this stress is compounded by global events, it can lead to feelings of powerlessness and a declining sense of direction.

Erikson’s stages of development tell us that maintaining a sense of control and purpose is vital, particularly during periods of identity formation and reformation. Global crises, when combined with personal stress, can disrupt this process, leading to confusion, frustration, and an overwhelming sense of being untethered.

What Compounded Change Makes Possible

This amplification of stress, where personal struggles and global challenges combine, is not a theory. It is something many of us have experienced. And it will likely show up again in another form.

Acknowledging the root causes of stress, the pattern under the pattern, brings a deeper understanding of how to move through it. Because what goes through stress has the potential to grow.

If we can navigate the complexities of life, business, and self with awareness, we access the possibility for deeper growth and stronger leadership.

If you are navigating change on multiple fronts and the weight has shifted from manageable to amplified, that is not a capacity problem. It is a compounding one. Book a 15-minute Strategy Call and explore what becomes possible when you address the layers, not the surface.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Tanya Cross Consulting

Follow Your Knowing

Tanya Cross on August 7, 2024

To follow your knowing as a leader, you first have to recognise that your body has been giving you data your mind has been trained to override.

There is a signal most leaders have experienced but few have learned to trust.

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A moment of deep certainty that arrives without a spreadsheet behind it. A pull toward a direction that your logic has not yet validated. A physical response, goosebumps, a settling in the chest, a quiet clarity, that shows up before the analysis is complete.

Most leaders have felt this. And most have learned to dismiss it. The alignment signal was there. They chose not to follow it.

The Alignment Signal Your Body Is Sending

Your body responds to alignment before your mind has finished processing the options. This is not abstract. It is physiological.

When something lands in a way that is deeply congruent with who you are and where you are heading, the body registers it. Sometimes it is goosebumps. Sometimes it is a warmth in the chest. Sometimes it is a pull that does not have a rational explanation but carries more weight than the spreadsheet.

Science describes part of this as kama muta, a Sanskrit term for the feeling of being deeply moved. It involves a sudden sense of closeness, connection, or recognition, and it is often accompanied by tears, goosebumps, or a sensation of warmth in the centre of the chest.

This is not sentiment. It is information. It is one of the clearest alignment signals available to you.

Why Leaders Override the Signal

High-capacity leaders are trained in analysis. They are rewarded for logic, rigour, and evidence-based decisions. And that training serves them well, until it becomes the only channel they trust.

However, the body’s signals are not the opposite of logic. They are a different layer of intelligence operating alongside it. The issue is that most leaders have spent decades prioritising one channel and dismissing the other. When you follow your knowing alongside the data, the decision carries both rigour and resonance.

The result is decisions that are technically sound but feel flat. Directions that look correct on paper but carry no energy behind them. Strategies that tick the boxes but do not generate momentum, because the leader’s knowing was not consulted in the process. When leaders stop following their knowing, the decisions lose something logic cannot replace.

The Difference Between Instinct and Knowing

This distinction matters.

Instinct is the reactive pull toward safety. It contracts. It avoids. It protects you from perceived danger, and it served you well in earlier chapters.

Knowing is different. It does not contract. It settles. It arrives with a quiet certainty that is not defensive or reactive. It is the signal that something is aligned with who you are and where you are going, even if the path forward is not fully visible yet.

Learning to distinguish between the two is part of the deeper work of leadership at this level. It is what allows you to follow your knowing with confidence rather than confusion.

What It Looks Like to Follow Your Knowing

I have been tracking these moments since 2009. Not every one, but enough to see what is consistent. What themes keep surfacing. What direction the body keeps pointing toward when the mind is quiet enough to listen.

Some of the messages have been profound. Directions that seemed bold at the time but turned out to be precisely where the next phase was waiting.

When you follow your knowing and align it with the work you do, something shifts. Decisions carry more weight. The work feels purposeful. You stop performing and start leading from a place that is congruent with who you are.

How to Start Reading Your Body Intelligence

This does not require a new system. It requires paying attention to what your body has been telling you.

Notice when something lands with weight. Notice when a conversation, a direction, or a decision produces a physical response that goes beyond intellectual agreement. That is data. That is your body intelligence at work.

And begin to record it. Over time, the pattern becomes visible. What your knowing has been pointing toward starts to form a picture that your mind could not have assembled on its own.

If you have been overriding these signals and the decisions have felt heavier than they should, that disconnect is worth exploring. Book a 15-minute Strategy Call and discover what shifts when you follow your knowing instead of overriding it.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Tanya Cross Consulting

Lessons From My Hike

Tanya Cross on August 1, 2024

The lessons that shift your leadership are rarely the ones you plan for. They tend to arrive when the plan falls apart.

Last Wednesday night, at 12 am, I crawled up the last three flights of stairs, dragging myself into my apartment.

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My pants are collecting a white, powdery substance as my knees scrape against the concrete floor. How did it come to this point?

I had been pondering, finding meaning in the mystery for days.

It was my first time off. No business, clients, family, or obligations. All the things that would fill my own cup in a long time.

I had planned a trip, booked flights, arranged accommodation, and even convinced a friend to come with me. The Great Ocean Walk, stretching 104 kilometres from Apollo Bay to the Twelve Apostles in Victoria, was our destination.

Imagine Antarctic winter winds thrashing the coastline and rain that does not fall softly from the sky but needles down at a 45-degree angle. It is not for the faint-hearted.

I embarked on this journey with the intention of doing my own Power Walkshop, to uncover my power and purpose, for myself.

But as I started walking, it became evident that, despite my efforts to stop and savour the moments, this would not follow the Power Walkshop lessons. The walk had its own lessons instead.

Day One: The Rainbows

Day one was filled with rainbows. One rainbow that arched from one side of the land to another, a double rainbow, a waterfall rainbow. So many that I lost count. It was like walking in a place where the ordinary rules did not apply, with no phone reception and nothing but the path ahead.

Lesson one: The beauty of the rainbows reminded me that sometimes, the most significant experiences happen when we least expect them. But you need a little challenge with the rain, and support with the sun, to see them.

Day Two: The Storm

Things shifted to another level on the second day. The day was meant for 25 millilitres of rain and 42 kilometre winds, and the anticipation kept me up at night.

The wind and rain seemed to echo my inner turmoil, and I found myself questioning my life: who am I, what am I doing, where am I going, and what is most important?

As we walked in the inclement weather, we often found ourselves on the path between bushes. The wind howled around us and the rain came in sideways, but it did not land on us.

Lesson two: I recognised that it was a symbol of being in the eye of the storm in the outside world, but internally, centred and calm. I can endure a great deal on the outside, but keep on walking.

Day Three: The Lesson in Stopping

By the third day, my body had said, enough. You must rest. I had a blister the size of Tasmania and as red as a ripe cherry, throbbing with each step.

I could have pushed on through the pain like I had seen when walking the Camino in Spain. Many walked through their suffering and soldiered on.

But I did not feel that was my lesson.

Lesson three: Sometimes stopping is a form of success, and sometimes not finishing is the wisest decision. Sometimes, you have to say no to get what you need.

The Lessons the Solitude Revealed

On the third and fourth days, while my friend hiked on her own, I sat in solitude to find myself.

I reflected on my word for the year, which was “Emerge.” I felt like I was doing well to emerge from my cocoon but I was uncertain about being exposed.

My red, raw, and exposed wound was a sign that it was time to own it and be comfortable with whatever was said about me. As my foot would heal, any discomfort I might experience from emerging into the wider world would, in time, heal too.

As I made my way up the stairs to my apartment, covered in the residue of the journey, I recognised something worth holding.

If someone on the walk could not complete the hike, staying behind would bring its own lessons, ones that were precisely what they needed. Because it was in the struggle and the solitude that the moments of clarity arrived.

It was in the appreciation of my life and the understanding that every step, no matter how demanding, was part of my path.

The lessons from this walk were not the ones I planned. They were the ones I needed. If your leadership has been in motion without pause and the lessons have not had space to land, book a 15-minute Strategy Call and explore what becomes visible when you stop long enough to see it.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Tanya Cross Consulting