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Your Inner Voice in Leadership

Tanya Cross on August 21, 2024

Your inner voice is one of the most underused instruments in your leadership, and it did not get quiet by accident. It got quiet because the outside voices got louder.

When the outer voice dominates, the inner voice diminishes.

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That sentence is worth sitting with, because most leaders I work with have experienced it without naming it.

You built something significant. Along the way, you learned to gather input. Advisors, mentors, boards, peers, coaches, market signals. All of it useful. All of it well-intentioned.

But at some point, the volume of outside voices started to exceed the signal of your own knowing. And the inner voice, the one that used to guide your decisions with clarity, started to withdraw.

How the Inner Voice Gets Buried

It does not happen dramatically. It happens incrementally.

You consult one more person before making the call. You gather one more opinion before committing. You read one more perspective before acting. Each one feels responsible. Each one feels thorough.

However, the cumulative effect is that your own sense of direction gets diluted. The more people you seek, the greater the confusion, not because they are giving you the wrong input, but because no external voice knows your full context. No one else has walked your exact path, carried your specific weight, or seen what you have seen from the inside of your own leadership.

Only your inner knowing holds that information.

The Difference Between Instinct and Inner Knowing

There is a distinction worth drawing here.

Instinct is reactive. It is the part of you that pulls away from risk, avoids discomfort, and seeks safety. It served you well in the early chapters when the structure was fragile and the stakes felt existential.

Your inner voice is different. It is not reactive. It is settled. It does not operate from fear or urgency. It speaks from a deeper place, one that accounts for who you are, what you value, and what the next phase of your leadership is asking for.

Most leaders can feel the difference when they slow down enough to notice. Instinct feels like contraction. Inner knowing feels like clarity.

What Happens When You Stop Listening

When a leader disconnects from their inner voice, the decisions start to feel heavier. Not because the decisions are more complex, but because the internal compass is no longer contributing.

You second-guess more. You delay more. You defer to others and then feel unsettled with the outcome, because the answer did not come from you.

Over time, the pattern compounds. The inner voice gets quieter. The outside voices get louder. And the leader starts to feel like they have lost their edge, when what they have lost is access to their own knowing.

Returning to the Inner Voice

This is not about shutting out advice or dismissing external perspective. It is about restoring the balance.

When you quiet the noise, when you create the conditions for presence and stillness, the inner voice does not need to be rebuilt. It is still there. It has been there the entire time. It was waiting for the space to speak.

The leaders I work with who operate with the most clarity are not the ones with the best advisors. They are the ones who have learned to listen to themselves first and consult others second.

Gratitude, presence, and stillness are what open the channel. When the mind settles, the knowing surfaces. And when it does, it tends to be clear, grounded, and precise.

The Question Worth Sitting With

If your decisions have been feeling heavier than they should, and the outside input has not been landing the way you expected, the issue may not be the quality of the advice.

It may be that your inner voice has been drowned out by the volume.

If that pattern is familiar and you are ready to hear what your own knowing has been trying to tell you, book a 15-minute Strategy Call and explore what shifts when you start leading from the inside out.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Tanya Cross Consulting

Follow Your Knowing

Tanya Cross on August 7, 2024

To follow your knowing as a leader, you first have to recognise that your body has been giving you data your mind has been trained to override.

There is a signal most leaders have experienced but few have learned to trust.

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A moment of deep certainty that arrives without a spreadsheet behind it. A pull toward a direction that your logic has not yet validated. A physical response, goosebumps, a settling in the chest, a quiet clarity, that shows up before the analysis is complete.

Most leaders have felt this. And most have learned to dismiss it. The alignment signal was there. They chose not to follow it.

The Alignment Signal Your Body Is Sending

Your body responds to alignment before your mind has finished processing the options. This is not abstract. It is physiological.

When something lands in a way that is deeply congruent with who you are and where you are heading, the body registers it. Sometimes it is goosebumps. Sometimes it is a warmth in the chest. Sometimes it is a pull that does not have a rational explanation but carries more weight than the spreadsheet.

Science describes part of this as kama muta, a Sanskrit term for the feeling of being deeply moved. It involves a sudden sense of closeness, connection, or recognition, and it is often accompanied by tears, goosebumps, or a sensation of warmth in the centre of the chest.

This is not sentiment. It is information. It is one of the clearest alignment signals available to you.

Why Leaders Override the Signal

High-capacity leaders are trained in analysis. They are rewarded for logic, rigour, and evidence-based decisions. And that training serves them well, until it becomes the only channel they trust.

However, the body’s signals are not the opposite of logic. They are a different layer of intelligence operating alongside it. The issue is that most leaders have spent decades prioritising one channel and dismissing the other. When you follow your knowing alongside the data, the decision carries both rigour and resonance.

The result is decisions that are technically sound but feel flat. Directions that look correct on paper but carry no energy behind them. Strategies that tick the boxes but do not generate momentum, because the leader’s knowing was not consulted in the process. When leaders stop following their knowing, the decisions lose something logic cannot replace.

The Difference Between Instinct and Knowing

This distinction matters.

Instinct is the reactive pull toward safety. It contracts. It avoids. It protects you from perceived danger, and it served you well in earlier chapters.

Knowing is different. It does not contract. It settles. It arrives with a quiet certainty that is not defensive or reactive. It is the signal that something is aligned with who you are and where you are going, even if the path forward is not fully visible yet.

Learning to distinguish between the two is part of the deeper work of leadership at this level. It is what allows you to follow your knowing with confidence rather than confusion.

What It Looks Like to Follow Your Knowing

I have been tracking these moments since 2009. Not every one, but enough to see what is consistent. What themes keep surfacing. What direction the body keeps pointing toward when the mind is quiet enough to listen.

Some of the messages have been profound. Directions that seemed bold at the time but turned out to be precisely where the next phase was waiting.

When you follow your knowing and align it with the work you do, something shifts. Decisions carry more weight. The work feels purposeful. You stop performing and start leading from a place that is congruent with who you are.

How to Start Reading Your Body Intelligence

This does not require a new system. It requires paying attention to what your body has been telling you.

Notice when something lands with weight. Notice when a conversation, a direction, or a decision produces a physical response that goes beyond intellectual agreement. That is data. That is your body intelligence at work.

And begin to record it. Over time, the pattern becomes visible. What your knowing has been pointing toward starts to form a picture that your mind could not have assembled on its own.

If you have been overriding these signals and the decisions have felt heavier than they should, that disconnect is worth exploring. Book a 15-minute Strategy Call and discover what shifts when you follow your knowing instead of overriding it.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Tanya Cross Consulting

Lessons From My Hike

Tanya Cross on August 1, 2024

The lessons that shift your leadership are rarely the ones you plan for. They tend to arrive when the plan falls apart.

Last Wednesday night, at 12 am, I crawled up the last three flights of stairs, dragging myself into my apartment.

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My pants are collecting a white, powdery substance as my knees scrape against the concrete floor. How did it come to this point?

I had been pondering, finding meaning in the mystery for days.

It was my first time off. No business, clients, family, or obligations. All the things that would fill my own cup in a long time.

I had planned a trip, booked flights, arranged accommodation, and even convinced a friend to come with me. The Great Ocean Walk, stretching 104 kilometres from Apollo Bay to the Twelve Apostles in Victoria, was our destination.

Imagine Antarctic winter winds thrashing the coastline and rain that does not fall softly from the sky but needles down at a 45-degree angle. It is not for the faint-hearted.

I embarked on this journey with the intention of doing my own Power Walkshop, to uncover my power and purpose, for myself.

But as I started walking, it became evident that, despite my efforts to stop and savour the moments, this would not follow the Power Walkshop lessons. The walk had its own lessons instead.

Day One: The Rainbows

Day one was filled with rainbows. One rainbow that arched from one side of the land to another, a double rainbow, a waterfall rainbow. So many that I lost count. It was like walking in a place where the ordinary rules did not apply, with no phone reception and nothing but the path ahead.

Lesson one: The beauty of the rainbows reminded me that sometimes, the most significant experiences happen when we least expect them. But you need a little challenge with the rain, and support with the sun, to see them.

Day Two: The Storm

Things shifted to another level on the second day. The day was meant for 25 millilitres of rain and 42 kilometre winds, and the anticipation kept me up at night.

The wind and rain seemed to echo my inner turmoil, and I found myself questioning my life: who am I, what am I doing, where am I going, and what is most important?

As we walked in the inclement weather, we often found ourselves on the path between bushes. The wind howled around us and the rain came in sideways, but it did not land on us.

Lesson two: I recognised that it was a symbol of being in the eye of the storm in the outside world, but internally, centred and calm. I can endure a great deal on the outside, but keep on walking.

Day Three: The Lesson in Stopping

By the third day, my body had said, enough. You must rest. I had a blister the size of Tasmania and as red as a ripe cherry, throbbing with each step.

I could have pushed on through the pain like I had seen when walking the Camino in Spain. Many walked through their suffering and soldiered on.

But I did not feel that was my lesson.

Lesson three: Sometimes stopping is a form of success, and sometimes not finishing is the wisest decision. Sometimes, you have to say no to get what you need.

The Lessons the Solitude Revealed

On the third and fourth days, while my friend hiked on her own, I sat in solitude to find myself.

I reflected on my word for the year, which was “Emerge.” I felt like I was doing well to emerge from my cocoon but I was uncertain about being exposed.

My red, raw, and exposed wound was a sign that it was time to own it and be comfortable with whatever was said about me. As my foot would heal, any discomfort I might experience from emerging into the wider world would, in time, heal too.

As I made my way up the stairs to my apartment, covered in the residue of the journey, I recognised something worth holding.

If someone on the walk could not complete the hike, staying behind would bring its own lessons, ones that were precisely what they needed. Because it was in the struggle and the solitude that the moments of clarity arrived.

It was in the appreciation of my life and the understanding that every step, no matter how demanding, was part of my path.

The lessons from this walk were not the ones I planned. They were the ones I needed. If your leadership has been in motion without pause and the lessons have not had space to land, book a 15-minute Strategy Call and explore what becomes visible when you stop long enough to see it.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Tanya Cross Consulting

The Shift Is Not the End

Tanya Cross on July 15, 2024

A shift in perspective is not the end of the work. It is where the next phase of your leadership begins.

To grow as a leader, it is valuable to find meaning in the moments of your life. You are engaging in deep, reflective thinking, and then you experience a moment of clarity, a shift.

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A shift signifies a transformation from one perspective to another. It is not the end. It is the beginning.

In fact, each breakthrough brings you closer to your own clarity.

What a Shift Looks Like From the Inside

Every shift is accompanied by a moment of recognition, those instances where you see how what felt like an obstacle was part of the direction. Seeing how these moments fit into the greater perspective of your life is a powerful experience.

Imagine your brain as a large puzzle with scattered pieces. Each piece represents bits of information, experiences, and knowledge you have accumulated over time.

A shift occurs when your brain suddenly connects several of these pieces in a new and meaningful way. It is like finding the pieces and snapping them together to reveal a clearer picture.

Why the Shift Arrives When You Least Expect It

Often, through the work we do and the questions we ask, our minds work on problems in the background, even when we are not actively thinking about them. This is why these moments of clarity can come unexpectedly, like when you are taking a walk or sitting in stillness.

When you experience a shift, your brain releases a burst of neurotransmitters, particularly dopamine. This chemical surge reinforces the new connection you have made, which is why these moments feel so clarifying.

The Shift Changes How You See

As the puzzle pieces fit together, you start to see how different aspects of your life or a particular challenge are interconnected. You experience a shift. Your perception of yourself and the world around you changes.

As a result, you have changed.

This broader understanding helps you recognise that what you have experienced is part of a greater purpose, a part of a larger pattern in your life. In essence, a shift is your brain’s way of showing you a new perspective by connecting previously unrelated information, leading to a sudden and grounded realisation.

There Is No Going Back

With each shift, you recognise you cannot go back to your old way of thinking. You have been expanded and now see the world through new eyes.

And so you move forward, integrating this newfound understanding and perspective into a new way of leading.

There is no end to the shifts, the moments of clarity, and the growth. After all, growth does not reach a ceiling and stop. It continues to remodel, reshape, and reveal. And so does your leadership.

If a shift has been stirring and you are not yet sure what it is asking of you, book a 15-minute Strategy Call and explore what becomes visible on the other side of it.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Tanya Cross Consulting

Warped Perception and the Leadership Standard You Carry

Tanya Cross on June 28, 2024

A warped perception does not announce itself. It installs early, reinforces quietly, and becomes the standard the leader measures everything against.

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This Warped My Perception

I was at the shops with Bonnie over the weekend when she picked up a Barbie doll. She was engrossed, putting its shoes back on and playing with it in the store.

And as I watched her, something landed.

Because she was absorbing a picture of what a woman is supposed to look like. Not from a conversation. Not from a lesson. From the shape of a toy in her hands.

In fact, it made me think about how the same process runs underneath leadership. Not with dolls. With models.

Where the Warped Perception Comes From

After all, leaders carry an image of what leadership is supposed to look like. Confident. Certain. Composed under pressure. Available at all hours. Carrying the weight without showing the cost.

No one chose that image. The leader absorbed it. Rather, from the leaders who came before. From the culture of the industry. From the quiet expectations of boards, clients, and teams who needed someone to look like they had it handled.

Over time, the absorbed image becomes the standard. And the standard becomes the filter through which the leader measures themselves. Not against what is true. Against what was modelled.

And so this is the warped perception most leaders do not see. The image they are trying to match was not accurate. Others projected it based on what they needed to see, not on what leadership requires.

The Cost of Performing a Version That Was Not Yours

When the standard is warped, the performance follows.

The leader who believes leadership means certainty stops asking questions. The leader who believes leadership means composure stops expressing what is happening underneath. The leader who believes leadership means availability stops protecting the space they need to think clearly.

In fact, this is the Success Persona. The version of the leader the environment shaped to match what it required, not what the leader needed to lead well.

And the body holds the cost of the performance. The calendar holds the evidence. And the leader keeps measuring themselves against an image that would not survive contact with the reality of what they carry.

How the Warped Perception Shifts

However, the shift does not start with doing more. It starts with seeing the model clearly.

So where did the image come from. Whose version of leadership is it. And what would change if the leader stopped trying to match it and started leading from what is true for them.

The warped perception is not a failure of character. It is a pattern the leader absorbed early, reinforced often, and left unexamined because they were too busy performing to question the standard.

Once the leader sees the perception for what it is, the leader stops trying to match an image that was not theirs. As a result, the version of leadership that emerges is more grounded, more sustainable, and more effective than the performance it replaces.

The Standard Changes When the Leader Does

The history of beauty standards shows how quickly the ideal shifts. After all, what was aspirational in one decade becomes outdated in the next. And the same is true of leadership.

The stoic, always-on model of leadership belonged to a context that no longer exists. But the leaders still performing it are paying a price that compounds quietly.

But the leaders who see the warped perception for what it is get to put it down. Not because the old model served no purpose. Because the leader borrowed it. Because borrowed models stop fitting once the leader outgrows the context they came from.

Ultimately, the question is whether the leader is willing to see the image they have been matching and decide if it is still theirs to carry.

If you are leading from a model you did not choose and the cost is starting to show, book a 15-minute Strategy Call and explore what shifts when the performance stops and the leader underneath it steps forward.

To your brilliance,

Tanya Cross

Industry Leader Coach & The Coaches’ Coach

BAppSoSc (Counselling)

Tanya Cross Consulting